Best friend versus a Guy

It seems to me the girl was not a true friend or she would not have broken off a friendship over a guy. It's not the first girls fault that the guy liked her more...if this is the case. Either way, the girls could and should remain friends if they truly were true friends. I'd not let this get me down if this is possible. A true friend would not do this to another true friend. A true friendship will stand the test of time and many boyfriends or guys. Welcome to my lot. I know you will love it here.

The guy is not really into both of girls. He likes one than the other but that doesn't mean he loves her. If I were both of girls I will not believe that the guy love me that fast. I wont take the word like as love. Its not based on his feelings its about his evaluation. To us man if we say we like this girl it only means that we like their attitude and not that we like them to be our lifetime partner. Double check is always essential. The guy may also have trouble handling a relationship and like a heaven sent the second girl came to the rescue to stop the two being together.

When people are learning about how relationships work and what a relationship really means to them it can be very confusing and many 'friendships' can certainly turn into enmity. It is sad and very distressing for some people. It's also sad for those of us who have already been through that phase to watch young people going through it too. It is actually impossible to tell a person how they should feel about someone else. Nearly everybody, it seems, has to go through their personal hell of discovering what it is to 'love' someone madly who doesn't 'love' you and also to experience the jealousy about someone who used to be a 'friend' and who is now in favour with, or 'loved' by someone who you thought 'loved' you. No, it isn't really love. It's a strong emotion that many people call 'love' but is really selfish and possessive (it's the possessiveness that causes the jealousy - or envy - and anger). The best definition of real love is probably still the one that Paul wrote in his letter to the church at Corinth. He was talking about the love that God has for us and that we should have for Him and for each other (whether friend, lover, husband, wife, neighbour or any stranger we meet in the street). He said: "[b]Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.[/b]" In your situation, I don't know how I would begin to decide who really loves who but, if you do feel that you love someone, then it is worthwhile testing what you feel against those words. When it comes down to it, you can only be responsible for what you feel. What anyone else feels (about you or anyone else) is not in your control. It may concern you very much but you cannot do anything about it. That is why real love HAS to always flow outwards. If you are angry or jealous because someone isn't loving you the way you think they ought to (or in the way that they once promised), then you are NOT being truly loving: you are being selfish.

I think those girls are doing a big mistake liking the guy or destroying the friendship because obviously the guy is not really truthful. He likes both girls because he likes playing with their feelings. I suggest they leave him be at the same time so that the guy would realize that their feelings are not for playing. I am reminded by my two best friends a few years ago. Sabrina (not her real name) was in a relation ship with Charles (also not his real name), they've been going out for I think 4years that time. We (Sabrina and I) are good friends with Crissy (also not her real name), now Crissy was in another city, so she wasn't always with us. Now Sabrina was really fond of talking about Crissy because she's nice and fun to be with. Eventually, Charles was interested with Crissy because he was curious about her. So when finally Crissy was introduced to Charles, he started talking to her a lot and eventually confessed that he had feelings for her. Now Crissy told me about it because she was starting to fall too but was afraid that Sabrina would be angry. Eventually, both left Charles and we couldn't be happier. Charles had other women on his mind. He was like collecting girls. It's good that until now Sabrina never knew about Charles' attempts on Crissy else I'm pretty sure the friendship would be tainted. I think there's a silent rule about friends and dating. You should never date your friend's ex or man. Remember that friendship lasts longer than romantic relationships.

it is what you call a selfish love because she got angry for the fact that the guy likes her bestfriend more. if she is a real friend she should accept it. if she really love the guy then she should let the guy the things that could make him happy.

It may have different face if we gonna talk about love. It may be or it maybe a premature one, It is really hard to tell. But i guess she is somewhat jealous because we all know if we really love a person we should want that person to be happy. This is one of a good example how complicate love can be though it has the good part which was the other girl is happy with the boy. If I were the other friend, just move on and think of your friends relationship and feelings. God bless

Well, the second girl must accept the truth and respect it, she must be happy for her friend, not to become a selfish. If she really love the guy, do not expect anything from him. Maybe she is inlove, because she got jealous. Have a nice day!!!!