How old were you at your first relationship?
By wigima5
@wigima5 (904)
United States
March 24, 2010 9:27pm CST
I am in high school, and I still have not had a relationship. I do not think it's TOO weird. Because although a lot of people have had relationships already, there is a good amount of people who have not had a relationship yet. Only a few of my friends actually have boyfriends. I've heard some people still don't get into relationships until college. But on the other side, there were some kids in elementary school who already had relationships.
So, when did you first get into a relationship?
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21 responses
@kucluk (33)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 10
im in junior high school, like someone who like me but to shy to tell. my first relationship when i was at high school but didnt work good. i think its about ego.
sometimes ego make everything is not doing well. nice to have a relationship if we want to understand the ego each other
@wigima5 (904)
• United States
27 Mar 10
yea, tats y I usually try to be friends with the person first or get to know them before I even think about going out with them. Because I can see how SOOO many guys in high school are jerks n have egos and are just immature. so u have to find a good guy that will treat u good and not hurt you.
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
My first serious relationship was when I was 17-18. The relationship lasted for 3-4 years.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I was 13 years old when I had my first relationship. I was bothered that all of my friends already had boyfriends so that maybe the reason why I got one. My boyfriend at that time is a senior high school, he was 18 and I was 13 so the girls on the school talked about us often but it was okay with me. We broke up after a month because I realized I really don't like him.
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I had my first relationship when I was in highchool. I was in the sophomore I think, or right before sophomore year. It wasn't anything serious really, I just had a boyfriend, he would walk with me to home, we never even held hands or kissed backed then. LOL.
@rinzgca (316)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
I first got into a relationship just recently! Just two months ago and I'm already 22. He's my first bf, but sadly I'm not his first. Anyway, it matters little to me now.
I agree that it may be fun to have a relationship during highschool but I don't believe it should happen. Haha. I still believe that it's better to have a relationship after school. That way, both parties are more mature. Besides, they say most of the attractions in highschool are due to hormones. If it's true, would you really want to get attached to a person because of the surge of hormones? I don't think so.
I am really happy that I chose to wait. Of course, I won't say that it was easy throughout the years. There were definitely times in college that I really wanted to have one! But as my college friend and I used to say to each other, it is definitely easy to have a bf per se. But I don't want just a boyfriend. I want a guy who would truly care for me and I would truly care for. A guy who would love me at my worst and whom I would love back at his worst. I just need one truly decent guy. I'm not sure if I've found him. But I am sure, that I am happy now. I know it's like too early to tell. But now I am discovering things like for example, if I were younger, I would react differently than I would react to a certain something at my present age.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
i was in my first year of high school and i was about 12 years old. so young to have a relationship. what i remember on that time is it is not a serious one because we are both young then. it was merely about infatuation and i was carried away by that. though it does not last long. we became good friends and we are both now in a serious relationship.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I had my first relationship when I was 19 years old. I was not allowed to have a boyfriend when I was still studying. My parents were really strict but when I was in college, I was away from home that's why I got the chance to have a boyfriend. I know its not good to say that you regret something but I can really say that I regret having a relationship with that guy. Its not because something happened to us but he was a total jerk that he said a lot of bad things about me when we broke up. I still see him these and he hasnt settled. I am just thankful that I had my husband. I could not imagine myself being with somebody else.
@miranda521 (427)
• China
26 Mar 10
In elementary school?To little for a boy/girl to have a relationship.That's my opinion,that I think a person must be enough old and mature to have his/her relationship.In our youth,we should study hard and learn more for our growth later.Because when a person starts his relationship,he should be responsible.
@onlyprincess (782)
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
I did not had a relationship in high school either! I had my first relationship during my second year in college. He is my first love, first boyfriend, and we're still together as of now. We'll be celebrating our fifth anniversary on July.
My friends had their first taste of relationship during high school days, but unlike them, I have waited for the "right one" to come. I've never been impatient when it comes to love. Some of my friends had boyfriends for the sake of having them, but I choose to wait. Eventually, God gave me my love story, and let me tell you, it's worth the wait.
@joan2010 (45)
• China
25 Mar 10
I am in my college,and now he is my fiance.I think having relationships before college most can't work out well,for the reason we are too young and not mature enough so we can't deal well with the ralatingship.Without boyfriends you can also lead a wonderfull live,you have more time to participate all kinds if parties and get along with your friends,so we neend't deliberately to get into relationgships.Can you agree with me?
@wigima5 (904)
• United States
27 Mar 10
Yea, a lot of people say that too. But, I really am not the type of person who goes to parties often or even flirts with guys, so I wouldn't miss that part of being single. I guess you have to be in a relationship first to be able to understand how good being single is. I'm okay being single, but it'd be nice to have someone. But, yea, relationships take up a lot of energy, n make stress, so I guess it's good to not have them.
@windpain (25)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I think I was in my third year in high school when I had my first girlfriend and it didin't work out well. I guess, it had something to do with us too young for love.
You're in high school you say? Then I think you don't have to dwell too much with it being without a boyfriend. You're too young, and beautiful. There's more to life than that. Just enjoy life. These things will come to you in time. Don't rush it.
@kainalu55 (364)
• United States
25 Mar 10
I was pretty shy growing up and even through high school. I didn't start my first relationship until i was eighteen. I say the reason for this, is because of my shyness. I did get over the shyness eventually. My first relationship didn't last very long and i was in a few after that until I met my husband at the age of 23. I don't think it's a big deal if you aren't in a relationship in high school. It takes a lot to be in a real relationship. When, the time is right and you find the right person, you will be in a relationship, it isn't something that you can plan. You never can tell when you will meet the right person.
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
i was 18 when i had my first boyfriend, but it was not a serious relationship because i prioritize my studies and my parents were too strict that i was not allowed to have one. because of the situation, the relationship ended shortly and we both have our own family now. i was able to graduate in college, and have a stable job right now, but i don't know what happen to his life at present. i just heard from a common friend that he already have a family.
@tylerscotthess (129)
• United States
25 Mar 10
I think that young relationships are way overrated. why get tied down to one person when you're so young instead of just having fun with all your friends? i didnt have a relationship til i was in college and i still think it was too early. now i'm married and all i can think of is how i wasted all that time with girls that mean nothing to me now instead of just having fun with my friends
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
yes its not too weird! me myself entered into a relationship when i was in college. to be exact, i'm already 19 years of age. It's quite late but i think it's just okay because you are mature enough to handle your boyfriend plus the fact that you will graduate soon so there will be no problem anymore if in case you will marry later on.
@zsazshie143 (77)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
nice to recall. first relationship that i had... quite childish. we were freshmen then.. it started a single text "hi".
@farid123 (23)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 10
my first relationship when i was in junior high school. i' dont know why i immediately say 'i like her'. because thats not my first love i becamed interest in women when i was in elementary school.
maybe because she is kind.
one thing i will never forget is her smile.
hehehee