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It's quite weird, your story. I can barely imagine that he REALLY loves you, if he only calls you 10 times in 3 months... I like to hear my girlfriend at least 3 days of 7 on the phone, so if you know what I mean. Ask him if he still wants to go further I'd say, cause I'm pretty sure you miss him a lot! If he doesn't miss you, I wouldn't be able to understand him, but I think you have to make your conclusions out of it. You can't force anyone to talk more, except talking about the problem can solve this.

Sweetie, you are not going to like this, but rather let him go. It seems that there are changes and you cannot keep up. Be friends, that is easier. TATA.

its really a sad story... i think that he is no more interested in u... these words will be harsh for u... but i think its the fact that he is having an affair with your cousin... it is not possible that they are talking with each other and they are not having affair... what he is trying to do is staying in contact with u... he does not want to break the relationship between u and him... and he does'nt want to hurt u because he knows that u love him... all i can suggest u that dont waste ur time for him... u need someone's shoulder to lean on... but i think u should not do so... just wait for ur life partner... i have had too many bad experiences about this...i had left my first love for some reason and searched for a shoulder to lean on.. the problem again is that i have fallen in love with her... now knowing the fact that i cant marry her... a time will come when i have to leave her... and that will be the hardest part for me to do... now i think that i was better alone... or i could search for friends of my gender...

For me, i barely believe that you boyfriend really loves you. And i believe that it is possible that he has (maybe)fallen out of love because of being far apart. A long distance relationship either strengthens or weakens a relationship. The lesser you see each other and the lesser your communication is, the weaker the relationship could become. And aside from that, as your story goes, i see some points that makes me believe that he is cheated on you with your cousin. If they are just friends, they wouldn't talk to each other like they are lovers. Friends dont call each other in the middle of the night, and they wont talk to each other 24/7 (i.e. as you have said "there are so many messages sent to his number..n mid night calls.."; if they are not hiding anything from you, they wouldn't have hidden it from you, but instead talk about it and talk about what they have been talking about. It seems like, it is you who is becoming the friend and your cousin becoming the girlfriend (ie. as you have said " i just asked him y he is not talking to me like before) it seems like his attention transferred to your cousin and not to you. Your cousin is lying when she said, "that she has done all this for me..just to make me n my boyfriend meet each other". Because if she was really helping you with your boyfriend, he would have encouraged your bf to spend time and communicate with you more often. she would have stopped texting or calling your boyfriend. It seems like she wants to get your boyfriend's attention by calling in the midnight and texting all the time. If I were you, try to spy on your boyfriend,or try to surprise him by going to his place or visiting his workplace and get his cellphone to check if there are messages from your cousin and what they are talking about. That will really prove if they are betraying you. Or maybe you could try to confront your boyfriend about it first and ask him about everything. And if your boyfriend will say that he is really cheating on you or if he says he doesn't love you anymore, then maybe its time to move on. If he doesnt really love you anymore, pushing him to love you back, or texting him more often wont work.

how sad! don't worry...maybe you where not meant for each other..but I'm pretty sure that you will find your lifetime partner in the right time at the right place...whom you can have your unlimited talks!