what to do with people who are not good listeners?
By jea_pinka08
@jea_pinka08 (131)
Philippines
March 27, 2010 9:54am CST
We know a lot of people who are very good in public speaking, writing but not all of them are good listeners. Listening is very vital on our daily lives. A good communication is a two way, you cannot just talk and talk without letting others to respond to you or vice versa. But there are some people who refuses to listen even to those words that comes out from his own mouth. Sometimes we, people say words that are not meant for ourselves, but our own words also strikes us back like an arrow and still, we refuse to listen.
But a person who refuses to listen is different from someone who really doesn't listen at all. Its because all he wanted, is to make others listen to him? Did you ever encounter a person like that? What did you do? Were you able to change him?
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12 responses
@phoenix8606 (4942)
•
27 Mar 10
hi! I just give them a nice punch in the teeth
hhahaha, JUST KIDDING :)
well, i first try to make them pay attention to me and to that what I am talking about, but if they continue not listening to me, then i just stop talking about that thing and then don't pay attention on that what they are talking about, because i want to make them see, how unpleasant it is!
hhahaha, JUST KIDDING :)
well, i first try to make them pay attention to me and to that what I am talking about, but if they continue not listening to me, then i just stop talking about that thing and then don't pay attention on that what they are talking about, because i want to make them see, how unpleasant it is!2 people like this
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
28 Mar 10
Sadly, if a person does not want to listen, then there is nothing that you can do to make them listen. It is like talking to a wall. Talking to people who will not listen is just like talking to an object. You cannot make them listen.
On the other hand, you can let them suffer the pains that come with not listening. Most people who do not listen eventually see where that action gets them.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
28 Mar 10
i come from a family full of people who do not listen and talk right over each other. it drives me nuts and many times during my life i just felt like no one even heard a word i said. it makes you not even want to try to communicate with people sometimes. i hate when i am talking to somoeone and they just start talking about something else like i am not even in the room.
@carinaweng (47)
• China
28 Mar 10
in world ,people may perform two role,one is speaker.the other is listener,when we have some viewpoint like to share with our friends,that we are speaker telling others what is our idea ,vice versa,but keep it in mind ,whatever he/her talk ,you should pay attention to ,even though it is a boring topic .if i find other is not interested in what i am talking ,stop speak and encourage him/her to talk someting they are like.
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
27 Mar 10
You might have heard what Dale Carnegie said, "Good listener is a good conversationalist." However, good conversationalist a person might be but if he is not a good listener then he is good for nothing. Some people speak because they want to hear their own voice. They are least interested to see if other person is listening to what they are saying. Now coming to the point if the person is not paying any attention to what you are saying then you must draw an inference that he is not interested in listening to what you are saying. It is as good as talking to the walls. In that case, you must encourage him to speak by asking him some questions and you become a good listener.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
27 Mar 10
I had a boss one time that said.."listen first, speak later". Boy is that true. First, you might hear the answer to the question you want to ask, therefore you won't have to ask it. Second, you'll get all the information you need to make a response if you listen first. could be you don't have to tell all you know or after you know the info..you won't have to work so hard to respond..things like that. Also you don't get distracte if you start talking or asking questions while the other person is speaking..thereby getting off subject. It is just an easier way to deal with things...listen first, talk later.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Mar 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I will usually get very angry with the people who are not good listeners. When I am speaking, I do not like the people who are under me without listening to my speech. If I have found one,then my face may tirn red,which means I am in upset now. That time the listener may be better.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
You can't do nothing about it. Unless you have more convincing power than them.
People who don't listen are people who thinks know everything.
What that person think is that your inferior to him.
So unless you can argue your point to him.
Theirs no use trying to make his mind open.
@prasenjit3 (112)
• India
28 Mar 10
first i will try him for understanding .if he can,t listening then and all time i ignore him.
@DeadenedHero (13)
• Finland
27 Mar 10
You can reach best possible conversation by using a fourway tactic. See picture below:
Person 1 --- Person 2
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Person 4
@tatineni85 (28)
• India
27 Mar 10
first we have to try our best to divert their attention onto what we r saying...even though they don't listen then its better to keep silent
