is it possible for a boy and a girl to just stay friends?
By hannanable78
@hannanable78 (437)
Philippines
March 27, 2010 9:29pm CST
now at college, i study in an exclusive school for girls, but back in high school, i was studying in a school where there are all sorts of genders. :) i had a lot of male friends there, straight, half-straight, and not straight.
now i have this friend who half-straight, he keeps company everywhere i go, and i do the same things for him. he makes me laugh, majority of the adventures i had was with him. it's really just his nature, he's a really great friend.
so when i introduced him to my girlfriends in our school, i can't help but talk about him a lot because he's really cool and funny, and i'm happy they get to know him finally. then suddenly they've been thinking or expecting us to date eventually, in a way that they start teasing me as if there's something going on that my guy friend and i are not talking about. when there isn't really. :|
how about you? do you believe that a guy and girl can just stay friends and not fall in love with each other?
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41 responses
@navnathame9 (37)
• India
10 Apr 10
Ok.In real girl and boys can be a good friend.But it depend upon the person.By which way he or she look at to you.In end mind is mind.It can fly anywhere.so many cases i saw good friends are converted to good couple.Most long friendship are comes under this case.
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
he looks at me as his mom.:)) i see him as my young boy--my son--in case someone mis-conceptualize. :))
maybe it was the very idea that other people were putting words in my mouth even before the idea cross my mind, and when it did, it was in accordance to what THEY are thinking, which really had me distraught. but thank goodness, I've had it all figured out already. :) so you're right, basically it's all in the mind. we have the choice to whether listen to them or listen to ourselves, because sometimes what they think is best for us, is not exactly what we know, is best for us.
so there, thanks for your pleasant reply. the effort is deeply appreciate. happy lotting. :)
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
29 Mar 10
Yes, There are friends that my husband and I both have that are men and women and that is where it stops..... My husband and I were friends before we even started dating..... I also had friends in high school that were just friends that were guys also.....
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
cool!!! d'you guys make friends with each other's friends? just curious. :)
well, thanks for your time hagirl! i appreciated it. ;
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
yes, when there are no emotional attachment they can still just friends. LIke, a girl or a guy knows when their friend treat them special, it is either that friend have a hidden desire on her or him or just a special feeling. It can lead to love, or relationship can possibly happen if one initiate that. I had seen so many young man and woman being friends but no emotional attachment. There is still something like that existing!
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
so basically it's not entirely possible to be entirely platonic with each other then? hmm. i hope for the otherwise. _
thanks for you time grecychunny26! i appreciated your response! :)
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
Of course, I absolutely believe boys and girls can be JUST FRIENDS. It only depends on you if you will fall for your guy friend or not. It just depends on the two of you.
@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
totally. thanks autumndreamer! i appreciated your response! :D
@carinaweng (47)
• China
1 Apr 10
hi hanna,i experience the same thing as you are,i have a good relationship with one of my male colleague,coz there are a little age gap between us,and sometimes we stay together to discuss working assignment,there are so much to say between us,but i dont have a feeling indulged in his gentleman behavior or humor remark.i would we could be closed friends without been sweet heart.
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
hi carina, i'm glad to be on the same boat with you and i appreciate your time. :) thank you for responding to my discussion. happy lotting! :D
cheers all to platonic love!
@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
here, here. thank you for your response rinzgca, i appreciate your time! :D
@jeska87 (43)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
I believe it is possible for a guy and a girl to just stay friends - so long as there isn't any expectation of anything more from either one. If it is indeed only friendship that both of you seek in each other, it doesn't matter what other people say. Isn't it better to have a good guy friend for always who you know you can rely on? :)
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
oyea! it's really really good! and what other people say really shouldn't matter, if you know each other better. thank you for your response jeska87. :) happy lotting!
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
I think that was possible if the guy doesnt have other intentions in making friends with the girl. I also have some male friends and still remain friends with them until now. But sometimes we go out but in a group, and I think there nothing wrong with it at all.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
28 Mar 10
i think yes, I had many friends in collage days and just friends not more than that. We should respect all the relations, girls and a boy a can be brother and sister, a care taker, guide. It is quite possible to fall in love with a girl who is your group but not necessarily it has to be. I found most of my friends falling in love to a girl who used to be their friend. It good to turn your relation positively. A good friend can be a great life partner to spend life.
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
you're right. definitely. of course. :) i couldn't agree more.
thank you for your response, its been deeply appreciated. :
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
I believe it is possible. However, there will also be instances that they can both fall in love with each other eventually. In a guy - girl friendship there are two possibilities. First is for them to just remain as close friends forever even when they get married. I have a guy bestfriend. We are really close even if I already have my own family.
The other possibility is for both of them to end up being more than just friends. One of my sisses in the Sorority in College ended up marrying his guy bestfriend and they already have a 1 year old son.
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
of course, it always comes in two ways. and it's subordinates. :)) i prefer the former possibility. ;) thank you ladyslipper, your response is appreciated. :) happy lotting!
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
28 Mar 10
Of course it's possible for one girl and one boy to being a friend only. As i also have friend who is boy. I never compare with him with my friend who is girl. As girl and boy both are mine friend.
And my friend who is boy they never fall in love with me and i never to.
So i believe that one boy and girl can be a good friend without fall in love.
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
thanks for your response dream! i appreciated your opinion dearly. ;
@engrdng06 (248)
• Japan
29 Mar 10
yes I do believe with that. i have good childhood friends but never came the point of falling in love with each other. we treat each other like brothers and sisters. i do not know how he feels or thinks but on my side, thats how i see our relationship, friends only.
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
here, here.
hank you for your response engrdng06! I appreciated it. :)
@Aviroyalavi (205)
• India
28 Mar 10
ya it's not good yaar.
actually we can defnetly be as a frinds.
only frnds can change our minds with their words lyk ur frnz teasing.
he 's straight r half straight it's not a problem if u r happy with him.
continue with him...........as a frnd. dnt listen others
@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
thanks aviroyalavi. :) i appreciate the brief response! :D happy lotting!
@eights (12)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
It is possible to stay friends but like you, where your friends think that you should date him, its going to be hard. Like it or not, these kinds of peer pressure can make you or even him change the way you think of your friendship. If you really dont feel anything for him then try to keep the friendship alive. I can tell you that having a friend thats a guy can be very good. It gives you a different take on things. :)
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
28 Mar 10
yes,it is 100% possible,i've done it.
often the problem actually comes in when they get a spouse/LTR with somebody else.
i've lost friends because the spouse refused to believe it could be a platonic friendship,irregardless of both parties attempting to prove it to them.
they were always looking for something to accuse you of.
of course it could be said in that instance the person might have been insecure.
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
oh yeah, i couldn't agree more. maybe that explains why i stay away from my friends when they're on a relationship, and i'm not. i'm trying to get myself out of trouble. :)))
thanks for your response. i appreciate it, really. :) have a nice day scarlet! :D
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@derek_a (10874)
•
28 Mar 10
Yes, I believe so. Maybe some guys can't do it, but I have never found a problem with having girls who have been just my friends. Some of my friend who were girls had to call off our friendship once they got married as their husbands felt insecure and didn't want it to continue.
I guess I am lucky with my wife. We are not insecure with each other and both of us has members of the opposite gender as friends. 
_Derek
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
hi derek, thanks for your response. well, whenever my friends get into relationship, i try to keep my distance from them too, just because i want to respect their space. LOL. ;
you're wife must've been feeling lucky to have a husband who is feeling lucky to have her! have a nice day! :D
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
28 Mar 10
I think it is more than possible for a boy and a girl to remain just friends. Every relationship doesn't have to be a romantc one. We have different needs for different people. Circumstances often predict what type of relationship we will have with someone. Romances come and go. Friends are forever!
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
CHEERS! I COULDN'T AGREE MORE. That is exactly what I always keep in mind. Thank you really for your response, I appreciate it. Happy lotting! :D
@langjipingzong (981)
• China
28 Mar 10
hi,there.I think it's possible that a boy and a girl just to stay friends.When I make friends with someone,what I value most is that he/she can understand my idea and I can get happy from them and they can also get it from me.Actually,no matter a boy or a girl ,he/she is a hunam being at first.
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
of course, of course. i also believe in the same thing. thank you for your response. :)
@pandaeyes (2065)
•
28 Mar 10
Of course!
You might have brothers or cousins who are friends and you never think of them for a romantic encounter after all.
If you are good friends, why does it matter if you are not the same gender?
You most likely see him more like you would a brother and he sees you more as though you were a sister.
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@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
you're right. i couldn't agree more.
i actually treat him as my son, though i've never had one, and he calls me mom. :)))
it was more of my friends, bugging me asking if i'm going out with him and prying for progress. :)) d'you think i should introduce them to my other male friends? :))
thanks for your response, happy lotting. :
@hannanable78 (437)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
aha! :)) i didn't understand it. thanks for the effort though. ;)
