What would you feel if you see the photo of your boyfriend/girlfriend's ex?
By markmoney
@markmoney (2868)
Philippines
March 28, 2010 12:25am CST
In case your boyfriend/girlfriend let you see the picture of his/her ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, what are you going to feel? Is it depends on how the picture looks like? As in if you think you look better than him/her, then you won't feel insecure? And if you think his/her ex looks better than you, then you are going to feel insecure? Would you feel any pain seeing your boyfriend/girlfriend's ex? What do you think? What are you going to feel? Insecure, jealous, mad, sad, or just nothing? Me, I would feel a little pain, knowing that he was her ex, she loved him and she spent time with the guy. But if I think I look better than his ex, then lesser pain. But the pain I would feel would not last for long coz he was just her ex, it's already her past and I'm her present. I think it's just normal to feel a little pain since I love her. How about you, what would you feel if you see the photo of your boyfriend/girlfriend's ex? I would be glad to hear your thoughts. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting! 
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38 responses
@daliaj (5674)
• India
30 Mar 10
I appreciate that. I would prefer my husband to do the same if I ask him those kind of questions. I have never asked him any of those questions becaue I didn't want to enter into his personal space. Anyway, it is good not to talk about that. It is better to thik past is past and it has no relevance in the present or future.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Well, it depends if he's still keeping the photos close to his heart, like his wallet or some special stash. That'll hurt me because it simply shows that she's still someone special in his life. Worst would be if I saw it myself and he didn't intend me to see it at all.
I did see photos of his ex and they're quite pretty, I'm a little bit insecure but I don't have to be because he didn't show it to me, I searched it through facebook and friendster, so it's actually my fault.
However, I don't think we should really fall for these jealousies as long as we could feel their love for us. But still, it isn't safe to be over confident.
@ziyadahinc212 (552)
• United States
31 Mar 10
I wouldn't "FEEL" anyway about it b/c that guy is the past and I'm the present/future.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
nothing, it's just a photo. should you be narrow minded to react to just a piece of paper with graphics in it? that, surely, makes you a jerk. also, going back to a not-so-good past makes you more of a friggin' jerk for not being able to move on. anything under the bridge is better under it, like water. what makes you think that photos, in this age of videos and camera phones, still make the emotions stir?
@mercedlegurpa (955)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
In case my boyfriend let me see the picture of his ex, well nothing. Of course I'm his girlfriend now and what is important for me is the present situation not the past. Mad, insecure, sad, jealous, no not my fortie! C'mon its just an ex. Well you're right; usually men felt that their egos hurt! It's normal right, but we have to move on.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
29 Mar 10
I admit that I am jealous. I would not like it at all. If my partner would still have photos of her previous boyfriends. I do believe that one should put a stone on the past and turn a fresh leave. I think that special people do remain in our memories in some way or another and in a corner of our heart. But I would not like it if my partner would have previous boyfriends photos displayed where she can see them. I would feel insecure that I am not important in my partner's life.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I don't have ex-es! I never have relationship. I can just react badly if I see my crush and she is with a girl that I look much cuter than her and he do not notice me? well honestly I am not a flirty type. When I like someone I just keep it as a secret. When I saw a crush girlfriend or ex's I just wonder why they end up together, what was they saw on each other that lead them to fall in love? I do criticize the girl but just for funny purposes only. I do not feel insecure because the guy is not my boyfriend like I don't have the right in the first place.
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
30 Mar 10
Great discussion! I've never really thought about this before, but when you read my answer you will probably think I'm strange - LOL! When my now husband and I were dating, I saw a picture of his ex-girlfriend in a photo and then more pictures on Facebook. My boyfriend at the time wasn't trying to rub it in my face or anything, he just knew I was curious and wanted to know what she looked like. When I saw these pictures, I thought she was really pretty, which made me think that my boyfriend had really good taste. So...if his ex was pretty, I must be pretty. (he he) I know that sounds crazy, but seeing pictures of my now husband's ex-girlfriend doesn't really bother me anymore because now we're married and his ex-girlfriend is married to someone else too. I feel that I got the best end of the bargain so I couldn't be happier!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Mar 10
My husband broke up with his ex over five years before the two of us met. I've asked him a lot of questions about her and he answers them in the best way that he can. However, I've never seen what she looks like because he doesn't have any pictures of her. I would like to see what she looks like even though I know that it sounds weird for me to admit this fact. I figure that I've been with him for over eight years, so there is really nothing that seeing a picture of Debbie would change about our relationship.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
29 Mar 10
I have seen the ex of my husband already, but I did not have any pain, sad or jealous feeling. She was his ex ten years ago and my hub did not start with another girl just because he could not put down that girl in his heart. Ever since he met me, he just thinks that the memory with his ex does not worth of 10 years' time. I would not think of too much if he told me like that and I should respect his memory as that is one of his past life.
In another perspective, My heart feels pain the moment that I see my ex handed in hand with his current girlfriend. I am not sure if I have feeling towards him. No matter what, past belongs to past and we should look forward.
@craftyhomebody (443)
• United States
29 Mar 10
the past is the past he is with you now what is the problem?
@mariaf324 (96)
• United States
30 Mar 10
I don't know but I am very jealous!! I would question why does my man have a picture of his ex??? He needs to move on and have a pic of me, lol!!!
@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
28 Mar 10
I don't think anybody likes being reminded that their boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse had a life before them, even when we know it's true. If you are insecure in your relationship it might make you feel worse. If you are secure in your current relationship you should be able to get over seeing the picture. Hopefully they are not still keeping the picture, though!
@dbeast (1495)
• India
28 Mar 10
I do not feel bad when I see the picture of my partners ex because I know that she loves me no matter what now and things have passed by and they have moved on.They are good friends now and each have passed on and so have we as partners.So I do not have any concers with that.
@Wahma60 (108)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
You should not feel insecure because the two of you are already together as boyfriend and girlfriend. What I do not understand is why does your partner wanted to keep a picture of the ex? That is strange for me. It seems that your current partner is still in love that person. Kindly ask your loved one to let go of the picture or let go of you. I know it is harsh but this could mean serious business in the future. Better to do changes now while relationship is still starting.
@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I will certainly feel bad. Keeping the picture of his ex means that his past is not yet over for him. Might be he still reminisce the moments they spent together by looking at her picture. It doesn't matter for me if I look better than her or not, the point is I am not yet successful in occupying 100% of his heart. I will really be hurt and start to be paranoid.
@engrdng06 (248)
• Japan
29 Mar 10
Honestly, I had experience that with my boyfriend. Before I used to see photos of her daughter and ex-wife. At times, we quarrel. Then we end up compromising, Id love to see the photos of her daughter but not with his ex-wife so trash those things away from me. Since then on, I only see photos of her daughter.
