Do you think the person has the right to complain if she/he is harassed?
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
March 30, 2010 4:58am CST
I know that most would say "YES" but would you still agree otherwise if the person was wearing 'luring' dresses? I mean, I doubt people would notice you if you wore decent clothes right?
Do you think people wearing clothes that are too skanky or too vulgar to the point of almost wearing nothing have the right to complain of harassment?
I strongly disagree. I mean, if you start wearing super-mini skirts that when you sit everyone could see everything, I think you're actually advertising yourself to be harassed. Wearing plunging clothes, bare cloths and complaining that someone disrespected you is an all-too-familiar situation. If you want to be treated respectfully, you better start wrapping yourself up!
I could remember a case that was filed a few years ago. The girl complained that she was raped by a soldier. Well, the camp was like a few kilometers away from the city and she wouldn't get hooked to the guy if she didn't go there in the first place. I found the complaint unnecessarily stupid. If she's such a good girl, how come she's in the base? You wouldn't go with a man to his place if you're not luring him to harass you, right?
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@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Upon reading your article, I could say that you have the point. However, please keep in mind that everyone has the right. Even a prisoner, a beggar or a daring woman has the right of her body and life. For the sake of argument let's say that the person you have cited is selling her self by wearing almost nothing. But still she's a person and woman that should be respected (though she's not worth respecting). As long as she is FORCED, she has the right to complain. Because in a democratic country like ours, nobody can force anybody to do something that is against her will.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
Well, I do know what you meant when you said that everyone deserves to be respected. But, it's it unfair on the accused (the one who was said to have harassed) when he thought she was asking for it or was just shy based on her attire or her actions?
It's like how we assume the person is rich when he/she is wearing rich-people's clothes, or how we judge that a person is poor when he/she is wearing rags. I think it's generally conceived that anyone wearing something 'luring' or is in a place of these types of women could be assumed that she's selling herself or asking for it, right?
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
9 Apr 10
I'm with you on this one. Girls who wear luring clothes are asking for it. You can't go into a beehive and expect not to be stung! I don't think people like this who complain of harassment have legitimate complaints because they're sending a message by the way they dress, and to complain about the way others are reacting to their flaunting is conflicting, in my opinion. You get in the fire, you will get burned. You can taunt people with the way you dress and expect to be treated professionally like you're in business attire or something like that. Communication is carried out in ways other than only in what we speak. What we wear communicates in many cases even louder than what we actually say to people. The way we dress has to do with body language. When a guy sees a girl dressed in such a way that he feels drawn to do certain things with her, she's communicated that to him. I don't think these kinds of people should be complaining of harassment when they asked for it. I think they need to learn how to communicate professionally in the way that they dress. These situations are really sad, but I think it's because people aren't as educated on how to communicate with others and what kinds of signals they are sending other people by the way they dress.
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@SCANDINEVIAN (67)
• India
30 Mar 10
Yes every one has the right to complain that he/she is harrashed.
@greyz7 (859)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
hi there,
i believe every human being has the right to complain whenever he/she is harassed. But it should be established that the person being harassed is not showing or giving any actions or signs to be harassed..like wearing a very enticing clothes and initiating any forms of seduction..some girls would claimed that they were harassed perhaps when they didn't get what they were expecting..
