Office Romance: Will you accept or shy away?
By Candymin
@Candymin (145)
China
April 2, 2010 4:24am CST
Office Romance sounds a little ambiguous. Not a few couples developed from companions into lovers and then into husbands-and-wives in my current company office drive me to start a talk.
I have asked many friends how they think about office romance. Most of their answers including the answer of myself were “NO". It seems that I resist it subconsciously, but I can't explain it clearly why.
How about you? Will you open your heart to accept the office romance under the sunshine? Or will you accept it dumbly without slipping the secret to your coworkers? Or will you absolutely shy your potential love story away?
For me, I won't firmly deny the approaching love though I'm not very fond of the office romance. If the love unpredictably tiptoes, I'm afraid I will reach out my hand and catch it but without leaking the secret.
Well, Have you ever sunk into office romance?
9 responses
@minotaur87 (769)
• Singapore
7 Apr 10
Actually, most people actually found their life partners at workplace or schools or any social networks. So I think there nothing wrong with office romance. It's actually a good thing for some since you can meet with each other every day without having to find special times. However, the drawback of this would be conflicts during work. Both of you may be competing for higher positions or having very different opinions at work. However, it can be resolved as long as both of you are willing to make the effort.
@Candymin (145)
• China
7 Apr 10
Hi, Minotaur87.
Nice words. I think so. If there is love, all problems will be resolved upon your efforts. Everything has its double-sides nature: advantages & disadvantages. When love tiptoes closely, you should accept or keep away depends on the relationship and the actual situation. Impossible nothing. ^_^
Thanks for your response.
Happy forever!
@Auntiescarf (842)
•
3 Apr 10
been there, done that, will never do it again!! Some people find the love of their life this way, I didnt, and it did cause problems in work, will not go there again.
@Candymin (145)
• China
7 Apr 10
Hi, Auntiescarf.
It's so pity. Anyway, take it easy. Everyone will find one's own real love in different way. I am also afraid to get into that situation, so just keep away and turn around for other road. We all deserve a true love in an appropriate surrounding. ^_^
Thanks for your response.
Happy mylotting!
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
2 Apr 10
I don't work in a standard office, I work in my house. The only people I see to have a office romance with would be my assistants.This would be incorrect on two accounts. One is because there my employees, and two because office romances never work out.
@Candymin (145)
• China
3 Apr 10
Hi, Cripfemme.
That's great to be your own boss.
Office romances sometimes just befall without warning and some couples in my company do set good examples. ^-^ Maybe sometimes we should go and have a try when it comes along but not turn it down opinionatedly.
Thanks for your response.
Have a good day!
@kaylachan (71762)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Apr 10
Can't say I would turn it down if it happened. Which in a way it kind of did. Though I would warn people to be a bit careful because of the fabled bring problems into the work place. But, eh... I'm not one to really say much of anything and don't feel its in my place to judge what others do.
@laurenban (194)
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Well, I have co-workers who fell in love with each other while in the same company and eventually got married. I do think it is easier that way, I mean you see each other almost everyday and share most of your time working, having lunch, night outs and stuff.
I think one of the conflict of that is when get your personal stuff or emotions out at work. This could happen and some results to pour performance at work. Just like my aunt once said to me: "Don't bring your heartaches in the office or you'll be terminated."
@Candymin (145)
• China
3 Apr 10
Hi, dear Laurenban. I agree with you very much.
There are also several couples in my company who have happy endings and get married. They go to work together and get off work together everyday just like one person with his shadow. That's the very thing I don't like to put up with. So to speak, you do have no time for yourself both in and out worktime.
For me, no office romances is better. However, if there is coming the unexpected thing as we can't control our inside feelings right, I will go and have a try to manage the relationship as an unexpected present.
Thanks for your response.
Have a nice day. Candy
@MartiniMan (76)
• Portugal
2 Apr 10
Yes i would accept, as long as i was not engaged in some relationship of couse. But i would be very carefull, check my surroundings, see if that relation wouldnt ruin my carrer or my partners carrer, if whoever is on top of the work chain accepts it, then is a full "Go ahead and be happy". Of course this is more easy to write than to do in real life, but sometimes its difficult to control our feelings, and an office romance may suddenly appear whitout warning. It happened to me ;)
@Candymin (145)
• China
2 Apr 10
Hi, MartinMan.
That's right. It is difficult to control our feelings. Once you realized the romance, you may have sunk into already. Anyway, To love or to be loved is a nice thing. Whatever we do, we need love to warm our heart. If the lover turns up, just go and catch him/her but to be careful so as not to affect each other's career.
Thanks for your participation.
Happy mylotting.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
2 Apr 10
Well, the problem is too many people do not know how to do relationships to begin with.
I have known some guys and girls, that can date someone for awhile, and if it doesn't work out, break it off while still remaining friends. That takes maturity and character, that most people do not have.
If you have that, then perhaps you can try dating in the office.
Sadly, most people when they break up are yelling screaming, and being a jerk, guy or girl. If you try that in the office, well... that's a bad plan. The last thing you want is for your ex-boyfriend that you hate, being promoted to manager, and now he's in authority over you.
I also think people jump into relationships way too fast. Do some pre-date screening. Learn about that other person before you ever start dating. If that guy or gal, has five ex-friends that they are constantly talking bad about, or have hate and anger over, move on. Find someone else.
On the other hand, if they broke up because it just didn't work out, but are still friends, well maybe date a few times, and see how it goes. Use your brain. Think through your actions before you do them.
So it can work, but you should be cautious.
@Candymin (145)
• China
3 Apr 10
Hi,Andy.
Reasonable statement. We need to have a second measure on the person who we want to have the first date. That's important. As far as I am concerned, majority of boys or girls can't be able to keep a good touch just as common friends after their break-up. In a word, all relationships need maturity, patience, mutual tolerance, mutual understanding and so on not mention to the condition of the love story.
Thanks for your response.
Have a nice weekend! Candy.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Ive known alot of my friends in our office fell for each other. If you ask me it doesnt matter what time or place you met each other, what really matters is that you both feel good about each other and you want to make each other feel special too. Love for me has no condition, if you both feel in love in the office then so be it. ;) Somehow i have a teacher in gradeschool that married a co teacher and both are happy right now blessed with two smart kids and im one of their Godfather;)
