would you move to a different country to be with the person you love?
By chilango36
@chilango36 (20)
Mexico
April 3, 2010 5:46pm CST
ok...i am from the united states, and met the man of my dreams in ohio, we got married, had three children, and 7 years later, he was told that he had to go back to mexico because he was an illegal, i had no doubts that we must be togather....but mexico, a place i had never been, nor wanted to be....should i go? i decided on yes...i should, so we all left togather....i am just wondering how many of you would do the same? do you think it was a mistake? do you think i should take our children and go back? is it worth it to give up everything you and your children have ever known for the one you love?
11 responses
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
4 Apr 10
Thyat would be so hard! I think of my girlfriend. I wouldn't even want to move to a new state, let alone a new country. But at the same time I can't imagine leaving her to go to off by herself. Did you know he was here illegaly? Wasn't there anything he could have done? But I would be angry and sad. Angry that here is a person that I love, we're not having many problems and now she has to leave the country, while there are others here legaly but commit crimes or just cause trouble. but also angry that she knew she was here illegaly and did noting about it. unless you did know about it and had decided if this happens, I will go.
@chilango36 (20)
• Mexico
4 Apr 10
i did know, in fact the reason he got deported is because we were filing for him to be legal...when we went to court, they denied him his papers because he had entered illegally...and gave him 10 days to leave the country...we had to leave our home, our land, and almost everything except for our clothing behind...10 days was not near enough time to prepare for what we had to do.
@tinajjm (24)
• China
4 Apr 10
Firstly ,are you sure that you really love him ,if so ,you should not regret having left your hometown with your husband ,there is no point in crying over spill milk.You love him ,he is one of the best things you have ,so it's worth it to go with him .I believe that if you had to move to mexio ,he would leave Us with you because he loves you ...Actually ,you can go back to US when you miss your hometown ,can't you ?
If I come across the man I love one day I will go with him without hesitation .
Finally ,I sincerely wish you happiness!!O(n_n)O~~
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
if the guy im going to get married is from other country then why not, its not a big deal for me. though of course i dont want to stay as illegal alien to that country so maybe i need to fixed everything first.
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
4 Apr 10
i think there should be just a standard. i am not saying that all the lavishness. but if that is not afganistan then you can settle there even. what you really need is the money to survive and the love to live. and if you have both you must not have any problem due to any reason.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
Hi Chilango,
Good day!
This is a very hard situation. However, if I have no choice but to go with my husband I will. In this situation I guess I will have no choice since even if husband would want us to stay together in the U.S. we can't because of his situation.
Adjustment will be hard for me of course but maybe something something good will be waiting there. I don't know what's your situation right now in the U.S. I mean, do you have your own job or just stay at home to do the domestic jobs. If you're just staying at home it will be easier for you to leave and go with your husband. However, if you have a job of your own it will be harder. As in my situation for example, I will find it really hard to go. I have a job of my own and very good career as a Supervisor in our company. If I will have to leave this opportunity it will really be hard to decide. Maybe I would stay and if husband is already stable with his job in Mexico and once I already found another job there as well then I'll go to be with him.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
4 Apr 10
Love is the strongest bond we can experience. Nothing can bring more to our lives than love. I would travel to the end of the earth and back to be with the one I love. A different country would just be different scenery to look at. Geography should never get in the way of love.
@kaylachan (69826)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Apr 10
If you love someone, then there shouldn't be a problem. But, since you're legeally married (which I assume you are) you should see about applying for citizinship for him. As I think its possible since you're a natural-born Americain. But, if you don't want to presue this option, then you should let your heart make your choices for you.
@greyz7 (859)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
hi,
yes, i will move to different place if my love one is moving to another place even it's too far to travel away from my place. because i love the person and don't wanna be separated from...