I dont believe in long distance relationships.

Canada
April 4, 2010 8:41am CST
The chances of me moving this coming summer with my family is...great. And I really really really dont want to leave my boyfiend who I care abotu so much. I realize hat family comes first and all so I will go with them but my heart will break as I know that this guy is the one. I dont think long distance relationships work as I know he will probally find soemone else. And while I dont usaully see him at school anyways, it puts a damper and barrier on the relatinship. Have you ever had a long istance relationship? How'd it turn out?
18 responses
• Qatar
5 Apr 10
i am in middle east and my gf is in india...it;s so far....still i believe her that she loves me like before we use mobile to communicate each other twice or thrice a week...and me also love her same like before(when we were together. it's been.....2 years i met her last time before 3 months ago and i came back again .....but sometimes....i miss her so much!! ...it means long distance relationship works in few case......it depends how sensitive ur love is...........i love my gf so much......! Happy Easter!
@piya84 (2580)
• India
5 Apr 10
Hi there I cant really say much here as i have never been in to long distance relationship before.But i think if i was in this situation i too would find it hard to sustain.I think it depends upon how much deeper bonds you already have developed in between you.
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
If only life is like the movie Serendipity, I would tell you to hang on. But life is life and chances are, long distance relationships would most likely fail. So, cut it off now. There is a lesson in the movie though that tells - if two people are meant for each other, love will find a way.
@marianna45 (1399)
• Romania
5 Apr 10
The big problem in a distance relationship is that both must to be very serious , and communication, if they do not communicate, and not both the same, relation can not work. I know somebody who was in a relation like this, but i am sorry to say, she don t find there a person serious, all her wishes can t be fight alone; anyway, this kind of relation don t work for many people, just because they are not strong, and can t wait.
@dadajay (11)
• India
5 Apr 10
i absolutely agreed... i also not believed in long distance relationship..
• Bulgaria
5 Apr 10
young love needs the presence of the beloved person every day and hour and minute long distance relationship can last when people are more mature but it also often fades you forget the eyes you don't see... look at the bright side - you don't part because of an argue or something like that so keep the best memories from your relationship and who knows - after a couple of years, when you'll be able to decide for yourselves you can be together again
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
5 Apr 10
me either... had tried it once and didn't work out... so i never want to try it again... anyway, i am already married now... so i don't have to worry about this anymore... :-) i am a person who like to feel secure and i want the person that i love to be beside me when i need him... also, it will be very hard to communicate with each other in a long distance relationship... plus trust is a very big issue... so i don't favour long distance relationship at all... take care and have a nice day...
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
It is really hard if your relationship started from a short distance then it will suddenly change to long distance. A relationship started from a long distance is better because they have already experienced the difficulty but they still keep it strong and they can still manage to work it out. Not all long distance relationships doesn't work, it's just depend on the two people involved, on how much faithful and honest they are to each other. Constant communication is important, as well as honesty, trust and patience. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
5 Apr 10
Friendship - True Friendship
There have been many couples who have done well in long distance relationships, but if you don't believe it will work long distance than it won't. You are scared that he will find someone else and whether or not that is true, that will ruin the relationship because you will always feel suspicious and jealous. If you both trust and care about eachother truly, then there is no reason why it couldn't work. Love isn't about distance or how often you see eachother. No relationship is really.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
5 Apr 10
well, it depends on how strong your relationship is..if the two of you have faith; things will be strong no matter how far you might go..there are so many people succeed in doing so, and there are even married couples with children living apart due to their work or studies & get back during the breaks & then apart when the break is over..but, they communicate visually through the phone or online..as technology has somehow made our life easier than before... so, it depends on how strong ur relationship is...
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
4 Apr 10
i think this is very natural that you dont believe in long distance relationship and i think there are many people who dont believe in this kind of relationship. as in most of the cases people dont take seriously when they are not connected physically. i think the base of the long distance relationship is virtual so they are not really strong except some exceptional cases.
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
I've had a long distance relationship. She broke up with me cuz i cheated on her.
@mareca11 (212)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
I think you should try it first and if it doesn't work out for you and your bf then it doesn't work. I think the key here is you have to trust each other. If your bf really loves you then he won't do anything that would harm your relationship. It really depends on both of you.
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
it's normal for people not to believe in long distance relationships. Depends on how you look at it really, with all the stuff you can do on the internet, chances are, if you're determined to make it work, you'll find ways to keep the flame alive.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
I think you should believe in it cause there are already a lot of people who were having a very good lives with their partners who had a long distance relationship. My husband and I also a had long distance relationship with him and we only get to see each other once in a month but we were still able to work it out. There were some difficulties but we were also able to cope with it.
• China
4 Apr 10
i think i cant bear the long distance relationshinps.well, as a girl,when i feel down or something,i need he on my side,have a deeply hug,and console me,let us to face with diffculties.and as long as we have got through many diffculties,we will love each other more and more,and we can become the best best friends.
• United States
4 Apr 10
I've never been able to get myself to get in a long distance relationship. I've seen way too many of them fail, and both parties hurt horribly when it does. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm betting he's not the one, even though you may think he is now. But you may want to have an honest heart to heart with your boyfriend, and see what he thinks about it. If you guys may still be able to see each other, it could work. If not, just try the friend route, and keep in contact.
• India
4 Apr 10
i perfectly agree with what u think.In fact its quite normal for a person to get closer to somebody whom he or she is in touch with more regularly than somebody who he or she rarely sees.But ,as exceptions are there evrywhere, in this regard too there may be exceptions.This is why we still see happy couples,even miles apart,and still as happy as they were when they were at the same place.i just wish ur boyfrend n u fall under that category.best of luck!