Would you be offended if you weren't invited to the wedding?

I wouldn't be offended given that I knew the situation, that my best friend was on a tight budget, because I know what it's like to be on a tight wedding budget. A wedding is about the couple getting married, not about the guests who will be there. The couple who are to be married need not worry about others, but focus on their own wishes and what they want for the wedding. A friend of my husband and me is getting married soon. Although she hasn't set the date yet, her parents told her they would either pay for a huge wedding or they'd pay for a small wedding and give their daughter some extra money towards a house. I think she's planning on small wedding in order to have money towards the house. It helps that she wanted a small wedding anyway, so that makes the decision easier. I think it's wise anyway to have a small wedding if you're on a tight budget. It's the way to go now in this economy.

no i wont be offended.... he wont be my friend if he would not invite me... but the fact is that he wont invite you because if he is my best friend then his marriage would be incomplete without his best friend.. and he don't need to invite you... as u know that u have to participate in the biggest part of his life..

I will get a bit offended at first but i would rather understand her why she did that or i wasn't invited then ., i wouldn't want her to pressured especially if she has financial difficulties ., i should understand .,

I will get a bit offended at first but i would rather understand her why she did that or i wasn't invited then ., i wouldn't want her to pressured especially if she has financial difficulties ., i should understand .,

Laydee, unless I were one of those close childhood friends or close family, I wouldn't be offended at all. Limits have to be placed somewhere, after all!

if i am one of those closed friend and i dont get any invitation from my best friend then i would be offended... i cant see any reason aside from financial strain which my bestfriend know that i will understand how simple it is... i am the bestfriend and i wanted to be on her wedding... but if she decided not to invite me... i will probably think the other positive side... maybe she thinks that i will understand most... and will try to forget what i felt and be happy for her instead :)

um..no,not really.especially if they told me it just like that. weddings are expensive,and as a non relative,i haven't got a right to fuss about it. sure i'd be bummed,but i'd get over it.

If other friends were invited and I wasn't, I think I'd realize that I'm not my best friend's best friend and that realization would probably hurt for a while. But that would be the only reason I'd be upset about not being invited. I don't particularly like going to weddings. You have to get dressed up.

I wouldn't get offended. My husband and I had a relatively small wedding party and we weren't able to invite all of our friends, so we chose to invite some of our close friends and some of our relatives. If I know that my friend has financial problems or if they prefer a small wedding because of other reasons, I think it is okay that they don't invite all of their friends. Of course I would like to be at the wedding if it was my friend who was getting married, but I wouldn't get offended if I didn't get invited, because I understand the situation and I respect their choice.

A best friend should be always invited to a wedding, it is not an obligation but a respect for your friendship. If my best friend wont invite me to her wedding, of course I will feel bad but if she will tell me that she wont invite me because the wedding must be exclusive for family only because of financial matter, then I would definitely understand it.

No not at all. It saves me a trip. And for me the best of all, i don't have to wear a dress then. But, seriously, if they wanted a small wedding with a small budget to work with, i would respect that. TATA.

Hmm.. well, seeing as how I'm the best friend, I would think that I should be invited. I'd be a little bit offended because I'd definitely want to be there on her wedding day, and besides, wouldn't anyone want their best friends to be at their wedding? When I get married i want my bestfriend to be my maid of honor. Actually, I have 3 best friends, but one of them is overseas and we've lost contact. She pops in every once in a while with a message on Friendster, but it's like a year apart per message You'd think she was sending snail mail. Oh well. Now I have 2 bestfriends whom I'm able to share contact with often, and I'm trying to figure out if I can get them to both be my maid of honor. But It would still get me thinking, how much is one extra person? If I'd have to pay for myself to be there, I'd do it.. I don't see why a bestfriend would not be invited to a wedding. Unless she really doesn't want me to be at the wedding. That could be the only reason I could think of for not including a best friend in a wedding. Either that, or it's a shotgun wedding and there would be no way for the best friend to be there in time for the wedding.

No, i would not be offended. With the reasoning/info you gave, I would completely understand. It's better to have more guests that you know well and blood relatives i believe. As a matter of fact, i would rather not go to a wedding because I just don't like going to formal social gatherings. As rude as that may seem, let's just say I got lucky hm? lol

hi, i would be offended if i would not be invited on a wedding especially if it's a dear friend. i have experienced like this when my friend arrived from wisconsin to get maaried and the invitations she sent was in general/for everybody. the names were not listed in the card, just the name of the work place,.i was expecting to be invited personally or be send by a message via the net, but it didnt happen.

If my friend told me about it herself, I wouldn't be offended. I would be sad though if I didn't hear it from her and just overheard from someone else. My bestfriend recently got married and I was there to witness it. She told me about her engagement in person, I was one of the few people who first learned about it. I am happy about that. I know though that she did not invite many friends, only those that are really close to her. And I would understand if I wasn't on that list.