Are you happy with your life ? or do you feel it could have been different ?

@kiran8 (15348)

Mangalore, India

April 4, 2010 11:33pm CST

I wonder if there are many who are completely satisfied with their life.I am sure even the most well paid stars and other super rich people too have some irritants that make their life not so perfect as we ordinary mortals tend to think. I too feel that if I had the chance I would gladly change a few things in my life.No doubt that it is just wishful thinking and can never be fulfilled.At the same time I am quite satisfied with my life barring a few minor irritants

...But that is what makes life more interesting and intriguing....what do you all think friends?? Are you all happy with your lives or do you sometimes wish that things were different

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@junmae (1586)

• Philippines

5 Apr 10

No, Im not happy with my life right now because I am living a very complicated and sorrowful life. I need to struggle with everyday so that I could eat and live well. I also have to work hard for my family and my baby. I never experienced to be happy, I always got nervous when good things come my way because I know there would be something wrong about to happen again. I guess I will die with the life like this, no room for any changes.

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@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi junmae,dont be so sad and disheartened.I am sure every individual has his /her fair share of sorrows and happiness too....we all have our worries, but we carry on.look at the positive side and see what you have and try to concentrate on how to make things better for yourself.Plz share things here with us and I am sure everybody would do their best to make you feel better...take care dear and all the best

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@greyz7 (859)

• Philippines

5 Apr 10

with so many events in m life that causes emotional upheavals, trials and tribulations, still i am happy because i have my family and friends with me. And above all, I have GOD with me.

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@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi greyz, glad to hear that yu are happy and content.Once we have people around us and our own firm belief in anything, may be God for some,one;s own capacity for some others it becomes easier to accept life and be happy ..

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@kalav56 (11464)

• India

5 Apr 10

No Kiran! I am happy as the way I am because I don't think further than that.There have been some severe emotional scars but that was all ordained by GOd and wherever this happened and have a feeling of "I might have been wiser" too I would take the blame on myself and look at the lessons I derived from these.Apart from this I am perefectly content with my life and I thank God for His countless Blessings, .Even when I am burdened with work or there are some other irritants I tend to think that things could have always been worse.What is there is the best .

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@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi kala, thanks a lot for your response

.I guess it depends on ones mental make up.If we take a positive stand then things seem much brighter and we can cope with anything without feeling any regret right?

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• Philippines

5 Apr 10

i have a lot of regrets and mistakes in life. I experienced sleepless nights, troubled mind, and the likes...still, i held on and suvived! For now, i cannot say that i am completely happy...but... i am happy. i may not be rich...i may have problems, but i am happy. Maybe because, i learned to accept things as they are. I learned to look for the positive in the negatives that is happening to me. Whew! is that confusing? (--,) well, i guess one just have to be contented with what he/she has in life. besides, doing the right thing makes us at peace with ourselves...and that counts!

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@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Acceptance and being are two greatest assets for being happy in life.I too have had my fair share or rather more than that, of problems .But I just carried on and today I feel that i have the strength to face anything in life...

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@werty009 (404)

• Philippines

5 Apr 10

im happy with my life cause im contented on what i have and im happy with my parents how they care for me and how they treat so no sad moments just maybe the trials in life but im very much happy with my life

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@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi werty, it is really nice to know that you are happy with your life and I hope that you always remain happy and positive in your life

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@jellyace09 (11)

• Philippines

5 Apr 10

im not that satisfied with my life because im facing so many problems right now and i really don't know what to do. what i really wanted is to finish my studies and to have my own life. im really eager to be independent now because i don't want my parents to take part in my decisions.

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@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi, thanks a lot for your response

Most girls go through this stage so dont worry....It will pass and believe me when I say that at a later stage in your life you will appreciate at least some, if not most of your parents advise and decisions...All the best

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@34momma (13882)

• United States

5 Apr 10

i am happy with my life. but i know things can be better. and my job, rather all of our jobs in life is to take those steps to make our lives what we want them to be. I am doing just that. in the process of starting my own business so i can create a better life for me and my family

making it better

one step at a time

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@34momma (13882)

• United States

8 Apr 10

i am trying my best. i just know that each day i have a chance to start again with a new look on life

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

9 Jul 10

I hope that things are going well with you ...I guess that is a great attitude , - treat each day as a new challenge and move on in life ...all the best and happy mylotting

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

6 Apr 10

It is great to hear that you are doing some positive changes to your life and I wish you success and all the best .It is an exciting thing to be able to take your life forward and it needs courage to do that..

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@Roseo8 (2947)

• India

8 Apr 10

Hi Kiran...No I dont think anybody will be happy with their life...Its just human tendency......And will remain so ,so long as they believe that grass is greener on the other side.........

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

8 Apr 10

Hi Roseo, Long time no see

Thanks a lot for your response, I know we are never happy and most of the time we do not appreciate what we have ....I guess thats what adds spice to life

@bamrahkirti (1821)

• India

5 Apr 10

I wish i could change my life and change the persons around me.I am married with a completely different person with whom my thinking does not match.Most of the times i get bogged down by his comments.I wish i could change his thinking. Sometimes i feel that if God grants me the wish to go back to my college life.But as you said it is just a wishful thinking and can never turn into reality.What i can do is to make myself so strong and bold that his comments and negative thinking do not affect me.

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@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi bamrahkirti, thanks a lot for those very honest and frank views ...I agree with you that the solution lies within ourselves and we should learn to take control of our lives and others automatically begin to respect and take note...all the best

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@Ingkingderders (3832)

• Philippines

5 Apr 10

Hmm. I think I am happy with my personal life, with my family, friends, and my boyfriend. The thing that I would change though is my career path, starting when I took up college, I really sometimes think, what if I took the course that I really love and not the one that I was good at, maybe my life would have been different, maybe I would be earning more. Hehehehe.

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

we all feel the same way....i too wish that i had pursued a career and not given it up half way through,Today i would be in a good position financially and have a good amount of savings too.But in retrospect I feel that I have gained something more precious than money , a very close tie with my children....

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

6 Apr 10

I am sure it will come your way, but dont look too hard...because you will be loosing precious moments of your life while doing that.I feel that we must make the best of what we have and I am sure the AHA moment is certain to come - all the best and happy mylotting

@Ingkingderders (3832)

• Philippines

5 Apr 10

Ah, atleast there's really something good that came out of it. But for me, I still can't see where this path is really taking me. I mean, I can't see myself doing this type of work forever.. Ahh, I wish I would have that AHA moment, and actually seize it.

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@verabear (796)

• Philippines

5 Apr 10

I am happy with my life, but I have to be honest and say that perhaps like most anyone else there are few details that I would have differently if possible. For example, if I had unlimited income or maybe earn twice as much as I do it would be wonderful. Even without that happening though, I am okay, my life is already complete as it is. :) I hope your life is going the direction you want it to!

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi vera,thanks a lot for your response...you are honest when you say that there are some things you would like to change and I am sure most people would want to do so but may hesitate to admit... My own life has been going round in circles and through dangerous curves etc; etc; but I have learnt to cope and make the best of it, so now I can say that I am as happy as can be...all the best

@verabear (796)

• Philippines

6 Apr 10

I think that one way to achieve happiness in this life, no matter how it goes, is to admit to our own weaknesses. Part of that is admitting to what we want and accepting that somethings are controllable while some are not. It's good to hear that you are happy now and I hope that things continue to go your way. :)

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

6 Apr 10

Yes that makes good sense , to be able to admit to one's weaknesses.I have seen that some people are never happy even when they get what they wanted.If you are a negative person , then you can never be happy because a negative personality finds happiness in brooding and finding fault LOL....thanks a lot vera and happiness to you too

@jobmoone (442)

• Philippines

5 Apr 10

Well, we all admit were not happy with the things going on all around us. Having relationship influences all of us here whether it is good or bad. What I mean It all depends upon each everyone's how they view their lives. You can be contented if you decided to be on it.

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@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi jobmoone, thanks a lot for your response

I suppose one can do that, but one is human afterall and certain things can make you either happy or unhappy...

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@Professor2010 (20162)

• India

5 Apr 10

Hi Kiran dear None in the world is TOTALLY happy with his life, this applies to jobs, your marriage, health etc....But we have to manage with what we have and be happy, i have strong faith on karma, our track is pre-marked, we have to follow, whether we like or not, i never feel it could have been different.. Thanks for this nice post, cheers

Happy easter

Prof

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@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi Prof, thanks a lot for your response

You are right ! there is no perfection in life situations.I am not so sure about karma or destiny, but do believe in the theory of action and reaction.I do believe that our entire life is made up of that...All the best and happy mylotting

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@eddyspaghetti (1225)

• United States

5 Apr 10

There are many people who say to live life with no regrets. I bet many of those people have not suffered greatly. I always say I'll regret what I want to regret. There are many times where I want to jump in a time machine and go back and fix the errors in my life to make myself and my life better. People also say that mistakes are to learn from, however the downside to that in order to learn a mistake has to be made. There are many times when the mistake is very costly and hurts deeply. In the end life is life and is very unfair. I have no idea why.

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

5 Apr 10

Hi eddy, that I too have felt...that life is unfair but not all the times .It has its moments too.On the whole most people are struggling through life in one way or the other.It is important to savor every single moment of happiness that is offered to you .But with experience you get to a stage where nothing seems to matter much...

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

23 Apr 10

Hi eddy, sorry I took so long to respond.What i meant was that when you go through life and a lot of hardships you become numb after a while .You are able to take everyday experiences of happiness and sorrows with a certain amount of detachment.It is only certain things that make any deep impact. I agree that we have to learn to find happiness in whatever life offers to us..

@eddyspaghetti (1225)

• United States

19 Apr 10

Why do you think that experience lets you be at a point where nothing else matters? Can you please explain you statement on that matter please. I agree that most people are struggling one way or he other and I agree that people should cherish the good times and leave the bad times behind them and learn from them, so that they will have less bad times and more good times.

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@sid556 (30960)

• United States

6 Apr 10

Well, I'm not always happy with my life but then again I don't expect to be. it's life and it is all up and down. I just try to deal with the down times the best I can and bask in the good times. I wouldn't change a thing. That silver lining theory is really true. Behind the worst things that I have ever been thru, I have to say that if I had a way of undoing that moment or event...it would change up or eliminate a ton of good things that happened as a result. We all have our obsticles ...even those that to us appear to have none. Trust me...they have them. They really do.

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

6 Apr 10

Hi sid, Thanks a lot for your response and I agree with your views.Once we accept our life as it is , it becomes easier to handle it and make it more tolerable, happy or whatever we wish.Every hardship in life is a lesson for us .I too am sure that every body has their ups and downs...all the best

@dawnald (85146)

• Shingle Springs, California

6 Apr 10

I'm sure it could have been different if I'd compromised less and learned to speak up more...

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

6 Apr 10

Yes dawnald, we realise things too late and by then the damage is done....we only have to learn from our mistakes and make the best of a bad bargain or dump it...all the best

@anurag3786 (6267)

• India

6 Apr 10

Yes i am happy with my life.. because i limits my circumstances.. and i know.. it is very very necessary for a good life.. because our circumstances will never ends.. even if we have more money.. so now i am happy with my life.. have a nice day and keep mylotting always..

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

6 Apr 10

Hi anurag,great to hear you say that you are happy with your life ...Once you accept your limitations it becomes a lot easier for us to remain reasonably happy - all the best and happy mylotting

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6 Apr 10

At this point in my life I could not really say that I am happy. The reason I think is that I have a dream in my life and somehow I have not achieved it yet. I have a dream of having my own wonderful house that I could come home to, a job that I enjoy and that is financially satisfying, and most of all a loving and fun family. I am still in the process of achieving this and I am definitely positive that I can achieve all these things in time. All in God's perfect timing.

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

6 Apr 10

Hi renzoray, thanks a lot for your response

I am sure that you will achieve all that you want as you go along, but in the mean time make the best of what you have ...I wish you all the best

@tiguer23000 (93)

• France

5 Apr 10

Praise be to Allaah complete satisfaction is important only to stay so for myself I have some dreams I want to achieve but I believe that everything in his time should not rush so I do not lose my life in the coming days will achieve my wish-third, which is to come back to rap, which speaks of reality and all What goes where. I hope to God that increases our confidence in ourselves and walking in the right way it will not come to this, never be afraid everything in his time.

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

6 Apr 10

Hi, I did not follow but I guess you are right

Happiness is something that means different things to different people.For some it is devotion, for some wealth, travel, simple living etc etc...all the best

@earninhobby (381)

• India

6 Apr 10

Iam always happy with my life coz i follow onething which is 'Be happy Always', this makes me boosting up my life even when i face any terrible situation.also follow this Be happy with what you have and surely you will find what you want in your life. its also about our thinking and how we appraoch our life.

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

6 Apr 10

Hi, that is great ! I too feel that being positive and looking at the brighter side of life does boost your chances of being happy - all the best and happy mylotting