How can I stop missing him :)
By dorothy09
@dorothy09 (1520)
Philippines
April 5, 2010 2:36am CST
hmmmmm I dont know how to start this but I wish to express my feelings now in this
discussion. how will I stop missing, I know I will missed him always but atleast how to cope up with the situation right away, weeks ago or I think month already I posted here a discussion that my partner is away for work, that time we are just miles away but just this morning he leave for a country and continent apart..huhuhuhuhu
I was so happy because he come home for 3 days, not thinking he come home to say goodbye for a country apart distance..now I felt so lonely and I missed him so much. I know I can cope with this but just today I cant help but missing him..
How can I stop missing him... I thought I have anticipated this already but I never expect this hard.. 
I was so happy because he come home for 3 days, not thinking he come home to say goodbye for a country apart distance..now I felt so lonely and I missed him so much. I know I can cope with this but just today I cant help but missing him..
How can I stop missing him... I thought I have anticipated this already but I never expect this hard.. 7 people like this
31 responses
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
hi yresh ,thanks for the advice, I just hope and pray that we still end up happy hehehehe
thanks again for the response.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
hi yresh12, yes lucky enough but I am used to see his presence always.
I wish to cope up with this feeling immediately or the soonest as possible
because its not easy, i dont feel like working, eating etc etc.
thanks for the response and happy mylotting
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I know how your daily activities could affect you missing him. I understand how you feel. mwahx.. Just keep the faith. Make your time useful. You'll never know if the two of you are meant together.. Enjoy everything you have today, work for your future. You get lost now that his not with you, how much more when you loose him permanently.. Just a friendly advice!!!
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
hi there ybong07, love is a great feeling but when you are in this situation, you will come to realize it is also painful..
thanks for the response and happy mylotting
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I've been in that situation Dorothy. But later you will realize that the pain is as sweet as the happiness you'll feel. Savor every moment of it. When you're in love you'll feel as if your world revolves around that person. You just want to be around him every day and every night and you'll miss that person the sooner he's out of your sight. But when there's time for love there's also a time when you fall out of love, when that time comes you'll realize what i just said, that the pain is as sweet as the happiness you felt.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
It's really hard when you are missing someone, you are feeling so uncomfortable. Constant communication should be present between the two of you. You know in any hard situation, who we should ask for help is nothing but our creator, our Almighty God. Just keep on praying, for your relationship, the safety of your partner and other loveones. Ask for His guidance. He is the one that can easily ease your loneliness. And think positive, your partner will go back in the future, He just need to work hard for you and your family. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting! 
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@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Hi markmoney, thanks for the response, Yes one way to ease the feeling is to ask for his divine providence. I already did.. anyhow this is just for a start, I'll be okay soon.
Thanks for the Response again and happy mylotting
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@urcheekyangel (438)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
its easy, its all in the mind, set your mind, and keep busy, in this way you wont miss him that much, this really works for me, just keep busy and the days would pass so fast :)
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@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hi there urcheekyangel, I dont think missing someone is just all in the mind because its the heart that dictates your mind to feel that way heheheh :)
If only that its easy to dictate your heart not to miss that way..
thansk for the response and happy mylotting..
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@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
hi ifa, thanks for the response, agree with you that keeping busy will definitely help.
Thanks for the Response..
@persistence2010 (45)
• China
5 Apr 10
what sport do u like,maybe exercises can help u.i usually do this.
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@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
hi persistence, hmm...I am excited for this summer because its volleyball league again and there would be a lot of activities. I would be very busy by that time.
Thanks for the response again and happy mylotting
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
5 Apr 10
Sorry to hear that you are having a tough time right now. It's going to be difficult at first but as the days go on it will get a little easier for you. You must keep yourself very busy so that your mind doesn't have much time to think about him. At night time, go out with friends or see some movies, go to the library, etc. Anything to keep the mind busy. Also you can always talk to your friends.
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@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
hi there Shar19, yes tough but I am positive I can cope up. Its just that I am used to have him on my side all my life share my happy and dull moments with him, he is my bestfriend, my partner and my guardian hehehehe...
This is a great sacrifice for the meantime, in due time we will be with each other as long as we want to..
thanks for the response and happy mylotting
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Hello dorothy,
simply, get busy with yourself, call your friends and hang out from time to time. or get a new hobby. you know, they say OFW are new heroes,but that's BS. if work only is available in our country then he doesn't have to leave..
but keep your communication intact and do straight, set up a schedule where the two of you can freely talk.
OFW are new heroes,but that's BS. if work only is available in our country then he doesn't have to leave..
but keep your communication intact and do straight, set up a schedule where the two of you can freely talk. @dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
hi LetranKnight, if only the job can be found here in the philippines, there is no need for him to go that far for work.. He will be working in a ship.. and that is one of our great challenge, time difference and the signal.
hmmmmmmmm..thanks for the response and happy mylotting..
@Kumar1232009 (1215)
• Spain
5 Apr 10
continent apart. so that means weather in europe or americas... might also went down south to africa... i understand how you feel dorothy but i just want to tell you one thing. you are lucky because your partner now has already considered to be a hero, a sung hero. a hero like me who's ready to sacrifice, to serve others and endure missing their loved ones only for their families good future. sure you will miss him but not all the time. of course, i know that you will make your time worthy even without him. i sure communications between you and him will be more often now than before that he only used to stay miles away or county away.
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@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
hi there Kumar, yes its continent apart , he will be working in europe, while I am here in the philippines an asian country.. agree with you I am proud of him , we both made a decision to take the consequence and be strong for us..
thanks for the response and happy mylotting..
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
hi saphrina, yes PATIENCE thats what I need, I fully trust him and I am waiting. hhehehehehe :) I have to wait for 9 months GOD..but I know I can ..
Agree with you I have to keep busy.....May God bless us..
thank you so much for the response and happy mylotting..
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@dragonangel (551)
•
5 Apr 10
Hi dorothy!It's easy the way not to miss a person is to keep yourself busy with other important obligations in your life.And at the same time, think that your partner is also doing something very important for his or her life which will eventually be your lives in the future.With that thought in your head then you could be able to take control of your mind.Don't ride on to the emotional outburst, you know because if you do that then you'll surely loose your control.Okay now? In that way you'll both be fine and your future will be fine too.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
hi dragonangels, how I wish it was easy, huhuhuhu
, I think I need time to cope up really.
thanks for the response and happy mylotting[em]happy
, I think I need time to cope up really.
thanks for the response and happy mylotting[em]happy
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
5 Apr 10
It is okey, he is far, you may talk to him over cell phone, you can chat with him using your computer at night or at some time convenient to both of you, try to keep your self busy, this may help, it is right you miss too much as it is 4th day, time heals every thing, soon you will realize...
Thanks for this nice post, cheers
Happy easter
Prof
Happy easter
Prof
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@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
hi there professor, hmmmm how I wish I can talk to him as much as I would like to.. but signal and time difference hinder. he will be working in a ship and in Europe while I am here in the Philippines in an asian country..
Somehow I am positive that I can cope up with this..
May God Bless us..
thanks you so much for the response..
Cheers :)
@carloadriancanon (206)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
You need to go out some time together with your friends. In this way, you'll enjoy and you'll forget about him for a while. It's not bad to do that.
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@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
hi carlodriancanon, thanks for the response, I will definitely do that, but you know thanks for mylot and the internet this keeps me busy, atleast it eases the feeling of longing someone..
hahahahahay...May 9 months passed already hehehehe
Thanks you so much for the response..
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
8 Apr 10
Figure out a time when you two can connect . via email or phone. That way you don't have to live without him.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
8 Apr 10
Absence does really make the heart fonder huh?? hehe ^_^ Well, it's something that both of u cant help it, and thus let nature take it course ^_^ Though u might not be seeing him for a long time again, but at least, there are still many ways of communications whereby u can be in touch with him ^_^
Plus, take it as a test for the relationship or marriage.. It will only be stronger for the future to come ^_^
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Apr 10
This is a good time to start up a new object that will keep you busy awhile. You need to find other things to occupy your time. KEEP BUSY! Ofcourse you will miss him. But each day you must find other things to keep you busy. Write a journal on your thoughts and then show it to him when you see him.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Nov 10
It is always difficult to get through the time after you've had the opportunity to spend time with your loved one. I know that one of the ways to make it easier to deal with your separation is to try to talk to him as much as is possible. Then, of course as I'm sure that you've been able to understand, the pain of missing him will fade away and it will get to the point that the pain that you were going through will only be a dull ache.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
it's only you who can make yourself stop from missing him. missing somebody is a state of mind... one going back to the times you spent with the guy... especially the sweet and ecstatic times you were together... but sometimes, missing can only mean otherwise, but of course it's always the nice and good things we simply miss with a person we once had...
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
hi there jack807, well missing someone is normal because when you miss him or her so much it would mean you love him so much.. but what I am feeling now is I am longing really for his presence beside me.. I am missed him so much..
