Do you have high expectation from your children?

My parents have always had high expectations of me since I'm an only child. I don't mind really that they wanted me to do a lot of things. But what made it bad was that every time I failed in something, or if I had a classmate that did better than I did, or was at the top of the class, they'd start comparing me to this person. And everytime they did this, I would feel realy bad. I didn't like being compared to anyone, especially my friends. They'd say that my classmate was a very good daughter, did what her parents told her to do, would always listen, would always study, I should be like that so I can also be at the top. Sometimes they would be really frustrated and ridicule me in front of my friend's parents. They make me look like a problem child. They keep telling their friends that I don't do anything at home, I don't study enough. I don't have any respect for them, that I keep answering back. I don't do any household chores. Give me a break! I do my own laundry and wash my own plate. I eat alone, I fix my own meals because my parents leave early for work and get home later than I do. I realized only now that because of this, I have grown trying to please other people. When I achieve something, I want to make sure that my achievement is known and recognized. I remember doing some things to get credit for it only because I wanted to hear from them that they're proud of me and that I did something right. It's a bit painful to have to realize that. I never wanted to admit that I did things to please people, and I don't stand up for what I believe in because I'm afraid of what people would say against me. I try hard not to have enemies unless I really feel bad against them, and even then I don't say anything. I could never stand up for myself or for my friends unless someone else was there to do it with me. I've gained confidence already, I've learned to appreciate what I do and live the way I see fit. I don't have to ask for anyone's approval. I just find it hard not to do sometimes because I've been this way since I was a child. But I'm learning to cope from it. I'm not sure If i'll ever change totally. But I try to make a stride when I can.

Yes i do, and i know i should not do that, because sometimes it makes me push my kids a lot to do harder which it makes them stress. So I try to understand them with what they want and make a compromise about it.

I think that all parents have high hopes for their children. I have a three and a half year old daughter. I am doing my best give her all that she needs to be successful in life. Her room is full of books. I encourage her to ask questions. I have her in a pre-school twice per week, where she is learning to speak Chinese! I don't expect her to do anything but her best. As long as she tries, she has my full support. I don't "expect" her to be a doctor or lawyer. I want her to find something that sings to her, and give it her all. Hopefully she will find something that will make her happy.