Reading your spouse text massages and emails... agree or not?

As long as a subject remains with one person only, it is a secret. With the second person, it is a discussion and with the third, it is a news. Sharing e-mail messages with the spouse or otherwise, is not a problem at all when they both love each other and have nothing to hide. But in all our heart of hearts, we do have some privacy which we don't want to share, even with our better half or sometimes parents. When something remains hidden and the result is a social welfare, we take our pride out of it. But when it back fires, a second thought emerges "better we should have shared this with some body, hmmm." Strictly speaking, I do not want my partner to read my mails since I never thought of betraying her.

In my opinion it is not ethic. First thing that holds a marriage or lifelong living partnership is trust. Reading spouses mails amounts to doubting that the partner is cheating on us. In out case we do not open each other's mails. Though I know my wife's mail id and password I never open it unless she is unable to forwrd some mail to me but wants me to read the same thing, she will specifically instruct me and I do just that and close the mail. The same is true of letters too. This was the culture we followed in my paternal home and that is being followed now also.

I can't find anything wrong with that, as long as I don't hide anything from my husband. He's free to read my emails and texts on my cellphone and likewise I'm free to read his mails and texts also. There's nothing to argue about this one between me and my husband.

For me, reading a partner's message is no big deal. I mean if you are 100% honest with your partner then you won't be bothered by it. The more I will be doubtful if he keeps or brings his cellphone everywhere he goes and sending texts behind my back. We all have our opinions with regard to this maters and this is my personal opinion about your discussion. have a good one!

We've been through that in our 1st-3rd year relationship. My boyfriend always took my cellphone and read all the text messages even the sent items everyday. He always ask me if he read text messages from unknown who's not even in my contact list and I do the same for her. I even try to access he's social network sites and see all his friends and online messages. Until now I open his facebook account and vice versa. I could say it helps us to make our relationship stronger. How?, since we hate being fooled by each other we often check both of our cellphone by that we stop flirting or entertaining others who just want to ruin our relationship. We learned a lot from our experiences and fighting and now we rarely do checking on our cellphone's messages cause the trust was established. I guess we have to go through that to learned from our mistake and let each other know that we do not allow any flirting or any nonsense at all people to waste time to entertain them.

I wouldn't do that or let my partner do that to me either.Everybody should have their own privacy or secrets.I will give my spouse that space.If he want let me know,he will tell me.And if I want to know anything,I would ask for an anwser,but not find it by that way.I can afford to lost the trust he gives me.

yes they are, such things are not good but still prevailing in our society fiercely and abruptly, hope you dont do that :), njoy TATA

I think that if you feel like you have to go through your partners text messages etc, that there must be something wrong in the relationship. A big part of a relationship must be based on trust. You must be able to trust the other. I believe honesty is another big part of a relationship. So I trust my partner and don't feel like I have to check what he is doing or who he has contact with.

I do not read my husband's emails and text messages. I believe that it is his privacy. I also don't like him checking mine. I think in this instance trust is very important in a relationship. I don't also find anything special in reading one's message.

I don't mind either way.... My husband and I have nothing to hide from each other... I guess that is why we get along so well... there are no secrets whatsoever among us....

For me, its okay if my spouse would read my emails as well as my text messages I receive. If you are not hiding something then why would you not allow him or her to do that. It really doesnt matter to me cause I consider my husband a part of me already. Sometimes, they say that its not really good cause you also need to respect each others privacy but this situation only depends on the couple whether its okay for them to do that or not.

Even if couples are already married, they still have their own privacy to each other... That's where we test their trust and believing to each other...

I do open my hubby's cellphone as well as his emails (i know his password), including all the social sites he joined. I read all the messages in there but with his permission of course. He tells me to do it sometimes when he's too busy and couldn't spare time to read all those stuff. But I did not allow him to view mine and he doesn't even care about it ha ha!

me, personally, it is okay for me that my husband is reading my message or my emails. because if you don't have nothing to hide you will allow your partner/s to read your messages and emails. but of course, they will ask first my permission and that is the time that i will him.

I disagree. If you are That insecure about what he or she is doing then you should either go get some help or end it. Snooping isn't a good sign. Either you trust someone or you don't.

I think there is nothing wrong checking your spouse's text messages and emails. I think it is just fair, just to be sure that he/she is not doing anything wrong.

I believe its an invasion of privacy. If they are doing that it means they dont have trust. They could not trust because they seen something their partener done or because they figure from what they would do. Trust is essentual to maintain a long lasting relationship. Mistrust can kill it. Why be with someone you dont trust?

I think it's kinda suspicious behavior if you're sneak-peeking at it. I mean if you're that concerned about it then what does that say about your relationship? but on the other hand if he knows and lets you have access then that's a little different..like if you share the same email addy. I wouldn't mind it being done to me but then I have nothing to hide from anyone.

I think there is no harm done, if you have nothing to hide in your relationship why worry if they read it. If let them do it then they will not do it, but restricting it they will want to read. As the saying goes curiosity kills the cat.!!!!

I dont think it should be wrong if you read his messages in front of him and informing him that you are reading his messages. And he should not mind as well if there is nothing that should disturb him. But guys and gals who are too over-possessive about their partner, please avoid reading their partners messages and emails.