My 9 year old son was caught stealing

hello little one. when i was a kid i too stole some books from stalls. it gave some extra amusement but never caught by anyone. now i regret for my nasty activities. it is a psychological problem. u may consult with a doctor and i think he will give a correct solution. have a nice day.

if that was my kid, i'd ground him for two weeks and take away his privileges. no spanking tho until it happens again. and also, maybe you'd like to talk to the parents/guardians of the bullies. good luck.

If till date he is been a good child then there is probability that there is someone who is bullying him or may be he is under some one else influence and he is doing it to fit in a group.You better take him to somewhere ,like park,playground where he can meet different people and have better friends who have good morals.

For me I would be punished him and told that the God want killed you if your not stop doing that because it is bad to steel like acan in the bible they steal the result is Jehovah God killed him also.

My 2 older kids were caught stealing and the had forty bucks in their pockets, I was called by a neighbor because my kids were to scared to give the police my number they thought the neighbor would calm me down..NO! I was more pissed cause they did that see my children know I do not play that I do not care what age they are. When I got their I went off and I told the sheriff if you do not arrest them when they get home I will be whooping them. The sheriff told me he thought I should because most of the parents of the children that steal they blow it off and the continue to arrest the same kid over and over for theft and they usually turn into worse as they become adults. When I got home I got a plastic spoon and I spanked both of their hands.My daughter went to school the next day and told the teachers she was a freshman in high school the teachers nor the principal payed her attention. The law is tired they pick up so many kids who have parents that simply think disipline is a form of abuse and it is not. I am not saying your a bad parent but it is not for our community, jail,the police,teachers jobs to raise and teach our children right from wrong. Parents are allowing children to do as they please. When I was a child children were to be seen not heard and people need to go back to that we did not have these problems like this when I was a kid but now we do. So the parenting skills of today are bad and the amount of minors in jail with adults and juvenile facilities is much higher then when I was a kid..WHY?

well maybe you really have to have an conversation with your son the problem maybe occurs when some of his friends threaten him and your son was force to do that social living is what affect your son i think cause he do things someone would like him to do like stealing and to be able to make friends or be part of the society his friends belong

Hello there... I would say this is a serious problem. At this age kids might do anything. This is the age where there minds are shaped up! I think he is being or was bullied by someone (his friend)- there are such bullies always there. And his bullying might have forced your kid to take such an action. Instead of taking action against him at home, I would suggest to find more about his friends at school etc. As the shop keepers didn't want you to know, it suggests that your kid is well known and well behaved so far. Then, what must have caused him to get into such thing? Of course, his friends... Check who are they, what kind of kids, their families etc. And let your son know that any such action is painful to you and family members. let him know that it is a bad habit and it will take him no where in the long run... Good Luck!!

I think it is important to remember that children make mistakes and not to be extremely hard on them, because we were all there at one stage or another, and none of us even us adults are perfect. I think it is just important to help the child through this time and help him understand the wrong of it all. However I would not be too harsh but I would try to make certain that my child believes what he did was wrong and perhaps get him to do some good deeds to make up for it so at least he can still feel good somehow in the end for something that is not wrong. All children make mistakes but it is just important that they learn from them. So you really just need to focus on the positive so your child can take from this and grow as a person.

Hi, littleone3. I would have punished him and I would have explained to him the consequences to stealing too. I would not let this go that easily myself. It is wrong for his so called friend to push him into doing something so bad. How come he could not steal the sweets himself??? I don't understand why people want others to go out and do their dirty work. It is not fair at all. Now your son is into trouble for him. But, I feel sorry for your son because he was forced to steal the sweets or else he would be punched. Now, this would be a less punishment for my son. I would have to look at this side as well. He was scared of this friend so he stole so that he could save his hairs. Maybe you need to get into touch with the parent of this other child and inform them of what has happened. I think that your son is not the only one to blame. This friend of his threatened and bullied him into stealing. And your son did what he had to do to keep from being hurt. I would be more upset, if my son had to intentionally steal from a shop without being forced to. This is my opinion. You are his mom and you will have to handle this the way that you see fit. It was still wrong for him to steal. But it is even wronger when he was manipulated, threatened against his own free will to steal.

Hi,little,I 'm sorry to hear that,from what u said I can c ur son was threaten by his friend.In my opinion,the first thing u should do is to clean ur son's friend circle.Little kids can learn evil behaviors from their friends easily bcz they can't judge right or wrong and they don't know the consequence of doing evil things.I think u should tell him doing the right thing but don't scold him 2 much of his stealing experience.He is just a child and u can lead him to the right way.Have a nice day.

well littleone3 sorry to hear about this story of yours it seems as if your son is scaried to get beaten up if anybody were to threaten my son about stealing something for them i know for a fact my son would just walk away from them or tell someone about this person and soon the right person would take the blame for what has happened not someone Innocent so i would recommend you son take karate trust me makes a man out of your son and it sets a good standard for your son never to lie,cheat,or steal i remember when i was little i was sent to karate for stealing and i learned quickly that all that stuff is for people who want to grow up with nobody ever trusting them loving them and caring for them so have a good one

I think its GREAT that you took steps to punish your son for stealing. Where I work I've caught a young child shoplifting before, and told his mom and she said NOTHING to him. Not only did she not scold him, she even BOUGHT HIM STUFF from the store, therefore REWARDING him for being caught stealing.

I think children at this age do tend to do these things. Do not treat him like a criminal. Teach him the values of life and tell him that if he continues to do this he will be classed as a thief, and what will lead him into if he continues to do. Try to win him back and try to trust him again. Get more close to him and let him know the reason for his punishment. As you say there may be many reasons but you must try to get to the bottom of it. I think your action is correct but tell that you believe in him and that you have faith in him that he wuill not repeat it again. Also dont try to blam others for his actions get the actual picture from him. I think as a parent you have handled things well. Good luck to you.

Sorry if I sound barbaric, but the first thing I would do would be interrogation, then serious spanking. However, your kid was bullied into doing this, so perhaps you should talk to the bully as well. I hate both bullies and thieves. I would never let my child steal, if I have one. Why would you say nothing? By keeping silent, your child will think that stealing is no big deal. In most cases, children don't steal for money or material satisfaction, but rather the thrill of it. That makes me even more angry.

If you were to present your case in the court, you have no stand since they can never accept your reason that he was only threatened. In all the angles of the situation, he still stole something. Before he has done that, he should have not let the other kid bully him. He could have fought for what is really right.

I think you shouldnt have punished him, what if he was telling the truth? i would go talk to the parents of the so called bully, but thats just me.