Secrets for a happy married life.
By hollowheart
@hollowheart (1572)
India
April 13, 2010 5:41am CST
Anytime within the next time i am expecting to get married. As it would be an arranged marriage and the process of bride search has started, I am very excited and at the same time a bit scared. The reason is time would be too less to know and understand the girl before marriage. So the only chance to know her is after marriage.
So what do u think is the best way to ensure that whoever she may be, the best of relation and a happy married life can be shared?
Please send in all ur valuable suggestions and tips......
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5 responses
@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
13 Apr 10
Oh I'm so happy to hear that things will be looking up for you!!
I just had to comment even though I don't really have any other ideas than communication and getting to know each other through shared interests-like working out together...find a goal or interest and work towards it together. I'm very happy for you! @hollowheart (1572)
• India
13 Apr 10
Hey Rachelle.... Thanks dear. I knew u would be happy. U know i was actually expecting a response from u.
Ya u r right, this is definitely one important part of it.
Communication is the best way to know a person and also to find solutions for problems..
I am a bit excited myself about it, but jnust hoping i would get the right person as my wife. :)
Thanks Rachelle..once again..
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
dear hollowheart,
at last i see a very positive discussion here.
marriages in the philippines are never arranged (well, maybe in the old days, but not now). am sure it is scary just like being on your first blind date yet exciting. 
i would probably say that the first thing is attraction from each other. then, respect for each other's wants. do not in any way force the other person to do what you want. be attentive, caring and generous.
and this i think is very important as well, you married the girl of your life to be your wife, not to be your maid. so help in every possible way especially in house chores. that is not their job.. they do it because they love you so you have to return back that love of serving the other pair.
i hope you find your happiness and your girl.
ann
i would probably say that the first thing is attraction from each other. then, respect for each other's wants. do not in any way force the other person to do what you want. be attentive, caring and generous.
and this i think is very important as well, you married the girl of your life to be your wife, not to be your maid. so help in every possible way especially in house chores. that is not their job.. they do it because they love you so you have to return back that love of serving the other pair.
i hope you find your happiness and your girl.
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@hollowheart (1572)
• India
13 Apr 10
Dear Ann, i really enjoy reading each of ur comments u write. U really take so much of care to write them. U make me feel so happy and close to u.
U r right to say that its like going on a blind date.
""do not in any way force the other person to do what you want. be attentive, caring and generous.""this is so right. We often make mistakes here and i will take extra care to ensure i do not force her to be like what i want, but guide her towards the right side if incase she is wroong and change my path to the correct one if i am wrong... :)
Thank u so much Ann.
@Felicitus (75)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Apr 10
First find someone who will be able to share your interests. Give them a list of the qualities you would prefer for your bride to be. From there onwards you should be able to build your relationship. Even if you find someone you will have ups and downs in your life during married life. Also learn to respect, love and care for her. The others will fit automatically
@hollowheart (1572)
• India
13 Apr 10
Thank u so much. Ya thats very true. Without understanding no relations can work...
and when we understand a person, we start caring tooo :)
