Who tries to make up first over an argument?

@Shar19 (8231)
United States
April 13, 2010 2:55pm CST
When you have an argument with your spouse do you try to make up first or do they? How long will you stay mad at them? Will you try and make up even if they are the one that is wrong and didn't apologize?
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@quita88 (3715)
• United States
13 Apr 10
Whether I was right or wrong I get tired of the distance when we are mad at each other and I try my best to get back in the good graces of the other one. This usually brings on a quicker apology by the other one.
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@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
16 Apr 10
I know what you mean. The distance is very awkward.
@quita88 (3715)
• United States
16 Apr 10
Yes it is and regardless of who is right or wrong it gets lonely on either side of the battle so best to I just take the mental beating and let life move on.
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
It depends on the situation. If I am stressing a point or something to him I won't make any move especially if I think I'm right but of course on some occasions I do say sorry.
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@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
16 Apr 10
That sounds like what I do too.
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 Apr 10
Usually, he will walk away and then come back 10minutes later as though the disagreement never took place. That in itself can be frustrating because nothing is ever properly resolved.
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@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
16 Apr 10
I can see how that would be a problem. You have to talk it out.
• United States
13 Apr 10
well lets see here who usually the one apologizing i would say my girlfriend but then again we both say sorry at the end. She is someone who you would give all your thoughts and feelings for thats how special she is to me and i can only stay mad at her for so long till i start to break down from the stress
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@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
16 Apr 10
That's good that you both can say sorry. It is often difficult for one of the people to say sorry in a relationship. Sounds like you are a good couple.
@baifuwa (636)
• China
14 Apr 10
i will try to apologize if i was wrong .i don't like argument.
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@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
16 Apr 10
That's a very good thing to do. I would hope that most people don't like to have arguments.
@shoeface (52)
13 Apr 10
I'm always the first to try to make up, and usually it's after no more than 2 hours! I hate the thought of being mad at each other for silly reasons. There's never usually much to be mad about. I find talking about it does always help.
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@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
16 Apr 10
Talking really does solve a lot problems. It's an awful feeling to stay mad at someone isn't it?
• Canada
14 Apr 10
when my husband and I disagree, we don't argue, and we don't get mad at eachother. We see where we disagree, and we talk about it until someone makes the more logical point. Sometimes he makes the more logical point, other times I do. It just depends on the point.
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
16 Apr 10
Now that is a very mature way to resolve things. If only all of us could be like that.
• United States
14 Apr 10
nope,i'm terrible.if i know they're wrong 100%,i'll be damned if i apologize. in some cases it just encourages them if you apologize and you weren't at fault.
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
16 Apr 10
You're right. I think sometimes people need to be told that they need to apologize too.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Apr 10
hi shar19 I am a widow now but when my hubby was alive we never had a whole lot of arguments but the few I think we sort of made up together as I would say oh lord I am sorry, and he would say,yeah me too, what the heck were we arguing about any way? So we did get it s ettled and both of us got mad quick and over it quick, we did not harbor long grudges like a lot of married people do. I always tried to make up because we did argue so seldom and when we did it really upset me so much as I really loved my husband and i hated and still hate confrontations of any kind. I am a peace keeper not a warrior.
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@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
16 Apr 10
You are very lucky to have found a husband that you didn't have many arguments with. A lot of the arguments really are ridiculous and people just need to stop and think is it really worth the fight? You are like me, I like to keep the peace too.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
20 May 10
When me and my girlfriend will have a fight or arguments it's me who always stay silent first either i am wrong or not. I just can't stand arguments with anybody because having an arguments is very tiring. I don't like keeping bad emotions inside my heart because it's not good for me because I have heart enlargement and my blood pressure always on the rise. When I make the first step for reconciliation I expect my love ones to understand that and I don't like to wait if I am forgiven or not. If my love ones don't want to forget things that easily I don't persist and you can expect me remain to be in silent.
@asherra (35)
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
the guilty one!
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
25 Apr 10
One would hope but it doesn't always work that way.