Break-up via Text or Email? Hmm whatya think?

there is the ancient advice that says; "started with well, ended must also with well". so, based on advice that's, whatever the reason for ending a relationship should be submitted directly, face to face, not via email although if you do that's, for me, it's enough but nevertheless we still have to respect the feelings of others, right?

I had experienced a breakup through text and it's never easy because your questions won't be really answered on how or why things just ended. Or you can't even try to negotiate or fix things because the person breaking up with you is not anywhere near you. I believe it is better to breakup personally because perhaps things may end smoothly and you'll come up on an agreement. Texting is just like informing someone that it's the end and that's it. If you talk in person, there will be discussion, emotions will be dealt, etc. Yes, the same feeling of hurt and emptiness will be felt but at least if you do it personally, you can comfort the person you're breaking up with, that is, if that person still matters to you.

i feel that a person that break up with his/her partner via email or sms is a coward... especially if the person is a man... i would never accept it if i am being dumped by my partner through email or sms or phone... that is just unacceptable... a person should have the courage to face the person that he/she is going to break up with and make a clean break even though we know that it is going to hurt the other party... but it is much better than being a coward... take care and have a nice day...

Break-ups are really painful. If it's painful to the person who wants the relationship to end, it's even more painful for the one who's being dumped. I am not really good in saying goodbye face-to-face. I have been into a relationship wherein I dumped the guy via text, because we're mile apart. It's really hard to do, and he told me to just give him another chance, well things will be getting more complicated if I'll wait for a couple of months for us to see each other again before I'll break up with him. But if a guy is just living somewhere near me, maybe I'll tell him right in front of his face, so we could talk and he will understand my point completely. But it still depends on each person how to do it in a "gentle" way.

I think if it's a long-distance relationship just like what the previous responder have had, breaking up through text, email, or Facebook is inevitable. But other than that, I still would prefer breaking up with or being broken up with in person. I just have that feeling that it's more official and sincere, although I know that it's more painful to have goodbyes that way, seeing your the love of your life for the last time.

I agree with you Oxio, whatever way you do it it has the same effect-"pain" and it seems the whole world falls down on you. For me, it is better to tell me face to face that he does not love me anymore. It happened to me with my first serious reltionship. It was so painful telling me that he don't like to continue our relationship anymore. It take months for me to recover but the important is that I was able to suvive the pain and was able to move on. And the good thing is I don't have any hung ups anymore because he said it to me face to face and I was able to determine whether or not there is still a chance to our relationship by seeing his face while he was saying it to me so that I can totally move on.

I could remember how a friend was so devastated after several months of a rocky relationship. She met him a few years back and after just being together for months, they decided to get married. They both thought they were ready for it, and started to prepare for their 'wedding'. After a few months of preparation, things hadn't been good. They started fighting a lot and the differences was just too much to take anymore. After for not speaking with each other for about 2 months (the guy just ignored her). The guy emailed her saying that they're over. She was at a rampage but couldn't reach him. Her life would never be the same. It think it was rude that a person would break-up with someone over an email. How impersonal could they get?? I mean, during the courtship time you could face the person and even dared proposing, and now you can't even talk to the person properly to break up with her?!??! Worst, after a year now. He is acting as if nothing happened and has even dared to talk to her again. But she knows he's not worth anything anymore.

I do agree with you that no matter which way (text, email, in person) the break-up is done the bottom line is that... it hurts! But if my BF does that to me not in person that would be like rubbing salt to the wound. One word for that would be disrespect. Common, if the guy has some balls and good manners then he should have the decency to explain things to you. This way, if you have no idea at all you won't be left hanging and wondering what on earth was wrong in the relationship. Also, talking face-to-face would possibly lead to both of you still being friends with each other even after the break-up.

Hi, oxio10. I would just rather break up by telephone instead. I would not break up by text. A text message is very foul to me and I would not consider doing this at all. I think that it is very mean and thoughtless to break up this way.

One of my ex-boyfriends broke up with me via a text message. When I received the message I tried to call him, because I wanted talk to him and I wanted to ask him what happened. We were planning on moving in together, and all of a sudden he dumps me via a text message. He didn't pick up the phone when I tried to call him. He lived in another part of the country, I think it would have been okay if he had broken up with me on the phone, but he didn't even have the courage to talk me on the phone.

Hi oxio, yes it is insensitive and disrespectful! It is also being cowardly to not see the face of your partner if he or she wants to break up, it is not something small that it could just be taken care of via a text message or an e-mail! It is a huge decision to break up with your partner, it must be done correctly! Face to face, we need to face the situation, texting is very clumsy sort of communication when it comes to big matters as such, even a phone call is much better! But since someone has taken such a big step they need to confront the feelings of their partners, it's not fair to just send a text saying they don't want to see their faces anymore.! If it's their partner's fault they should be able to point out the mistake and why they have come up to take such a strong decision, they should talk it over, simply sending text messages would not help, maybe there was a huge misunderstanding on someone's part and that could have been resolved it they ever talked with each other at some place, plus reading their faces, if one of them is lying, if they think they can't move ahead together then they need to look into their eyes and say it why?! Break ups are always hurting, and one must be considerate and caring enough for breaking up face to face instead of being cowardly and send a text message or an e-mail.

If your relationship star in the email why not? if not it is better in personal.

It's better to break up by text.. it doesn't cause too much pain. based on my experience but it will leave you a message. DON'T LOVE TOO MUCH!

Well I can see your points but lets try to think of those other person who dont have the courage to do it... Sometimes its easier to say Yes than to say No. Well all I can say is it depends on the situation.... what if he/she is far but he dont wanna lie to you so he/she did it via email or text.... therefore you have to understand atleast you knew it early... But I can also see your point that making it in person will put closure... So first try to think of ways why he/she did it that way.... and maybe somehow you will understand:) Goodluck anyway and cheer up.... dont be sad theres a lot out there that will appreciate someone special like you...

I had this happen in my last relationship. We were living in the same house and he sent me an email! Coward! Whether you like hurting someone or not isn't really the question, someone is going to get hurt when a relationship ends. I agree, it's much better face to face, at the very least give me a good reason for it, or at the least their reason for it. Although there were no tears shed, other than for the dog I left behind, it wasn't easy. I got up the next morning after the email, didn't say a word, didn't reply to his email, just started sorting and packing my stuff. However, the hard part was and to some point still is (after a year and moving 1600 miles) there was no closure. But, there will be closure, sooner or later, he will get one final mail from me, and then I'll have the closure I need. I have moved on with my life, I'm happy, got my own place and a pup, living life to it's fullest.

I have to agree wtih you. If you don't like me anyore, at least have the guts to tell it to me face to face. I think it is only ninnies who text or mail. And that goes for guys and girls. TATA.

Lol, breaking up in person is always the hardest but always the fairest. I do not like the idea of breaking up with someone over e-mail or text. It's just too cruel, and would also harm your reputation and make people think you are cruel, shallow and a very stupid person. Also, I wouldn't deal with people who tried to break-up with me like that in the future.

i prefer breaking up via text. becuase when she ask why. i could answer her back with what i truly feel, if you break up with a person face to face you cant really tell to her whats the real reason. becuase she would cry non-stop. and begs you not to do it.so at the end you just cant do it.

both are not advisable..do it face to face or at least during an online chat or through the phone...text or email is like dropping a bombshell for her..

I would definitely want to be broken up with, to my face. I admit I have broken up with people through email and texts, but that's only if the relationship hasn't been going for long and if it's not a very serious relationship. I'd rather someone tell me to my face and explain why and that way I'd be able to ask questions and get answers. If you get dumped via text or email, they may choose not to reply to your questions. Face to face conversation is more demanding for answers.