To Err is Human, To Forgive is Divine...
By katumbal77
@katumbal77 (29)
Philippines
April 14, 2010 2:54pm CST
Is it right to use this as an excuse when you make a mistake? Because you're human, you are susceptible to making mistakes. And how forgiveness and second chances would you give a person? At what extent would you go in forgiving a person that has erred you?
What will make you forgive or condemn a person?
With so much hate in the world, you just can't help but think that there are people who does not deserve second chances. Well, there are those who has had second chances but wasted them. I myself asked for forgiveness a lot of times. I erred against my parents, friends and family. And time and time again, I get forgiven. But somehow i always find myself going through that path that I had been before, committing again to acts I've tried to turn my back to.. Sometimes I can't heelp but think, do I deserve such chances? It feels like squandering all your momey till all that's left is guilt and self pity.
It will be nice to hear your thoughts on this. If you could share...
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8 responses
@zim1fW (285)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
Forgiveness is not really so until forgiving hurts.
I used to harbor bad feelings when I got seriously offended by others. But later on I realized not letting go the hurt only makes me the one who suffered more than the offender. So I changed tact. Unless the person asks forgiveness from me (which usually not the case), I let go of my pain but I watch out for situations when that person do the same thing again. Of course, I keep my distance when possible. That's possible in the workplace.
But in the family, that's another story. You just cannot ignore a child who offends you. What I do is set down with the kid and talk it out until I know what's going in his head to make him do what he did. Then I try to ask him if what he did was right and what makes that wrong; these are all questions to draw his own reasoning in helping him make sense of the error he did until I could see he got it. Then I forgive.
@katumbal77 (29)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
Yep. You're right about that. It's easy to ignore others especially if they are not in any way related to you. Why bother with them. But with family, it's a different thing, especially with children. Family deserves extra effort and understanding. Children usually don't know what they do. That's why they need guidance and they need to be told what their wrongs are.
But if the family member is an adult, they must be responsible for their actions. They should have known the consequences of their action, and unless they explain their action, it's kinda hard to forgive.
That's why forgiving is divine because it's not easy to do so. But forgiving and forgetting is kind of like a relief. Like thorns taken out of your side. And it makes living life easier.
@reulin (101)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
making an err is a "choice" and same with forgiving.. see, humans or people like us has the choice of doing what is right or wrong. so with if other people who have wronged us, we have the choice to forgive them or not...so i guess it's just a matter of choosing the right or wrong choice, it depends on the grounds of what had happened, the person or persons who committed an "err" and where it happened.
"chances"....as we woke up early morning everyday, we have the chance to do what we wanted. so don't think twice when you get another chance, instead, think of how you are going to grab it and nurture it.
@replyashu (745)
• India
15 Apr 10
they are all idol things to be frankly speaking
practically we do prefer err, but always look for divine.....
enjoy
TATA
@katumbal77 (29)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
quite funny... but it will not be as funny if somebody errs you, like scratching your brand new car... lol...
@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
14 Apr 10
It is very hard to forgive at times. I think it depends on how deeply you are affected.
@katumbal77 (29)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Yes i agree. Forgiveness, I believe is one of the hardest thing to give especially if the hurt is so deep. But it could also be one of the best gift that a loved one or family member could get. Thanks!
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
11 May 10
Hello welcome to mylot
lol i believe on this statement, but we can't use this as an excuse in any way, these are just ideal concept, very difficult to practice in real life..
Thanks for sharing.
God bless you.
Cheers.
Prof
God bless you.
Cheers.
Prof
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
15 Apr 10
Yes its true. its only human beings who err and its only human beings who find it hard to forgive. Nobody is created perfect. we must understand today we need to forgive someone and may be tomorrow somebody needs to forgive us. I have seen in accidents where people quarrel for money without realising that the mistake was not done intentionally.
@Eppie2010 (509)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
For me it's okay to use the phrase "To err is human" if! - the wrong deed was not done intentionally or repeatedly. As for the "To forgive is divine" part, yes! I totally agree! It takes "Divine powers" to forgive a person, especially if that person has done something to make your life miserable. But there are instances that you really have to forgive (and forget) in order for you to move on and live your life accordingly. ^_^
