Have you ever rejected a proposal of marriage?
By taraelocin
@taraelocin (1138)
April 18, 2010 5:55am CST
Years ago a boyfriend of mine proposed to me. We had one of those on-off relationships and kept breaking up because he kept lying to me. That time we had just got together and he wanted to prove to me that he changed and I could trust him. He thought asking me to marry him would be the proof I needed.
Unfortunately - poor bloke - I thought he was joking and started laughing. I felt bad afterwards when a friend told me that he had been serious and was devastated. But I am still pleased I said no. He lied to me again within weeks and we broke up for the last time.
Have you ever rejected a marriage proposal?
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
That's sad for him and fortunate for you. Guys like that can't seem to stay solid regardless what they do, they're just 'weak'.
Personally, I was proposed to but it wasn't something serious. You know, when you meet someone and they initially feel you're 'the one' and is swept off their feet and you just don't understand what happened?
I got that like 2 times already.
It's something serious, and it's not funny nor does it feel good when you find someone who's utterly infatuated and blabber such talk as marriage and forever when you've just met the guy! Poor thing.
Of course I didn't have any choice but to reject those 2 guys. I just felt that they're overly emotional that time and could forever regret their decision. Further, I don't like guys who are thinking of marrying on the spot. I want it to be something they're really put more thought of and is sure of what they're actions are.
I never saw those guys again. One threatened he'd jump off a cliff. I didn't stop him. I'm pretty sure he got over the idea and felt stupid for doing so.
Marriage isn't something simple. It's not the 'end', it's not the 'happily ever after', it's a vocation that isn't easy. Many people lose this mindset when they're in love. Yes, it's good to be in love, but to be overly in love when deciding isn't the best way to go. You'd end up regretting in the end when you see that you both are not that compatible at all.
I have yet to see someone who'd still decide to propose to me even when he has seen my worst. That's a person I would say 'yes' to.
@taraelocin (1138)
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20 Apr 10
Wow, that's quite an experience. Normally it is hard to get guys to committ to marriage. You must be quite special that both guys fell so quickly and deeply in love with you.
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@taraelocin (1138)
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20 Apr 10
Well, if it doesn't feel right, one shouldn't get married. It is likely to go wrong otherwise.
@worldbestwriter2008 (1633)
• Philippines
2 May 10
oh yes! and i don't regret..I"m still young and couldn't ever imagine how i raised my family, on how to take care my future kids..I want if i will enter a marriage life, i am physically and mentally mature.
