why do women take the mens last name?

I don't see why it's immoral. That has been happening since our ancestor's time. Did your teacher explain why it is immoral? If a man and a woman gets married, they will be considered as one family thus one family name. Though these days the ladies are free to retain their names, but I think most would still opt to change their last names to their husband's last name.

I wouldn't say it's immoral at all. I still have my maiden last name and took my husband last name. I opted in doing that b/c I loved my maiden last name and everyone knew me as that but I also wanted to take my husbands last name so I thought it would be the best of both worlds. PLUS my initials would be LMNO like the alphabet and I loved that idea. I was 20 at the time 2mo before I turned 21. Now my name is just too long so I just mainly use my husbands last name b/c it's shorter but legally I have both last names. I know my friend who;s Ethiopian, in their culture they take the mans first name as there last name and when the son gets married and has kids the kids last name would be his first name. It was very confusing for me to understand at first b/c everytime I heard someone call for the dad I always thought they were saying his last name to address him kind of like our culture "Hi there Mr. ____" with out the mister. It was funny when I finally got it. This was when I was 13! LOL!

Most of the cultures are subjected to submit throughly to their husband and that includes carrying the husband surnames as symbolized of uniting with him being the provider and head of the family. It have something to do too with the patriarchal domination.

Why does you teacher say that? Is it that bad? Yes, I thought it's a norm that the lady will take the guy's surname although nowadays, not everyone does it. But if they do, I don't see it as something wrong or weird...

The key reasons for a woman taking a mans name are: protection of family and wealth, designation of a new life direction and acknowledgment of God's presence in marriage. I do believe its more on a tradition. The practice make sense when looking at the function of marriage as creating a new family. One of the first ties of a family is the surname so it stands to reason changing their name to create a common family name. This follows on a common family name of their siblings. Just imagine if you have kids with different family names, it look like they have different fathers. That's funny!

Its a tradition so there is no problem about it. I'm carrying my husband lastname and so proud of it. Some people don't like that thing probably because of inheritance secondly immigration concern.

It was part of the world's culture but now it's changing. My wife didn't change her name when we got married.

Hello This is a traditional way to represent her husband. Now a days girls also use their fathers names too. Some family will have family name like Joesph end etc that its 100% its added to the women name. Thanks

Not just last name we do take your bank account as well.Jocks apart i think its a part of tradition.In old days society was men centric and when women marries to man she was suppose to shift herself to his home and accept their traditions and last name as well. I dont think so these things are necessary in this erra.But i dont find anything immoral in that as well.

I thought it was a tradition too. I don't know some things you can never really explain. I kept my name I am glad I did too.

Your teacher sounds like a bitter feminist. It is, as you say tradition. I don't think us men think of it as a way to keep the women down...

It is not just a tradition for many of us woman. For some such as myself its resoect and wanting to be one with our spouse its belonging to him(Not in a slave manner now). Also I believe that when you marry and start having children the families last name should be the same. Especially for the kids. As kids get older and friends come to visit they are gonna say Hi Mr and Mrs whats yourname. Not Hi Mr Whats your name and Ms. Whoever.... Far as your teachers explaination to why they feel its immoral that is foolish and needs to be clarified. When men and woman marry they do leave their childhood behind and their families to a certain degree. They start families of their own together as one.

I also wonder why women has to take the man's last name. In our country there are people who's got family names that are not really very good to hear. My sister and I always joked around before that if we are gonna marry and our husband's family name is not nice to hear then the husband has to follow our name. lol Good thing I married a man whose family name is also good to hear with our ears. I just wonder in the case of her since she's not married yet. But maybe that's possible cause Cruela De Vil got married, she had her husband follow her name. lol

When I got married, I took my husband last name and changed my original surname to my middle name. I was given the choice to do whatever I wanted with my name to either change it or keep it as it is. I think it is really nice to be called MRS. X instead of Ms. X. And it easier for people to address us as Mr. & Mrs. xxxxx instead of Mr. xxxxx and Ms. xxxxx.

Immoral?! I've never heard of such a thing, and it's not something most women take offense to. A woman taking the man's surname upon marriage dates way back to the beginnings of marriages I think. Of course, back then it was used to designate who was the son of whom (like Tomson would be the son of Tom). In times through years passed, it was a way of identifying children, if their parents were married, the children had their fathers last name, so that the name could be passed down through the sons. If they had their mother's last name, then they were considered not to be borne of marriage, but of a single mother. (Which we know from history was frowned upon even in the bible) Today, women who wish to keep their maiden name usually do so because they are professionals who already have a business reputation that is associated with their name. Others choose to hyphenate their last name with their husbands. I still believe it's a tradition which is probably a good one though, and I see nothing wrong with any of the naming choices a woman chooses now-a-days. It's a personal choice rather than a 'must' to do by the husband's surname only. When I married, even though I was a professional at that time, I chose my husbands last name and was proud to do so!

I took my husband's last name, and I don't regret it. I was very honored to take his last name. There are some people who don't for whatever reason, sometimes it's because of a business they own while others is because of their heritage. I love my husband, and I wouldn't have felt complete without his last name.

It is just the way it is. Some girls think it is great, others think it is horrid. Luckily, in the free world they have the choice. I don't care, so long as my children have my name. With Appreciation.

hi there, i wonder from what country are you, but here in our country and as most countries, when a man and a woman gets married, the woman carries the man's name. it's kinda legal here.