When you don't want someone to be your friend anymore...

I am very familiar with this, unfortunately. For about five years I had a very close group of friends. We would all hang out every day after school and just talk, or play games or go to the movies; typical stuff. Then a few new members joined the group, people I didn't really care for. I tried to express my feelings towards the other original members of our group, but they didn't seem to care that I didn't want the new additions. So when they started acting differently towards me, I had no choice but to remove myself from the group. I haven't looked back since, and I actually stand by my decision. I have new friends now that care more about how I feel; friends that are loyal.

Can you get her to talk to you when she's sober? If so you could tell her that you want to support her and would be glad to help but that you can't afford to risk your job or your reputation when she is rude to you in front of others. This may not go over well, but by laying it on the line you are setting guide lines for your friendship. Just be kind but firm. You know she will be hurt and mad, but at this time all she can consider is herself, that's one of the biggest problems of dealing with addicted people.

I can relate to this situation, and its sad but sometimes people grow apart or travel and different directions. In this case I would ask myself is this friend worth keeping around, does her good out weigh her bad. If she is a good friend then I would talk with her and let her know hey I don't like your lifestyle of drinking and smoking its not my character and tell her if she wants to hang around you or continue being your friend she can't smoke or drink with you because it disrespects you. if she choses not to abide then I would move on and keep distance... good luck

I've had friends I've drifted away from, but never anybody I just chose not to associate with any more.

I've had to present an ultimatum to friends who had a reckless lifestyle in the past. It's never easy, but I think it's best to stand firm and be as blunt as possible.I never want to come off as trying to be someone else's parent, but I expect friends to take some responsibility for their actions. They can either make what would appear to be a needed change in the way they conduct themselves in the presence of people they claim to be friends with, or they can choose to keep doing what they are doing, and become a loner in the process. Nobody really wants to be a lone in life. Unless you deal with your demons and quirks, you may end up having no choice in the matter.

when he/she will back bitting me. also a plastic person that always very good freind infront of you but in your back.there a ot of things he could say bad to you.

It is alright to choose your friends! you have every right to do so and that is because you know for sure what is good and not for you - bad friends doing not normal things may only lead you be badly influenced. i think it is the right choice. you can slowly stay away from this person by not being in constant communication with her... the best thing you can do is to pursuade her to stop doing whatever she is doing that is causing her life dearly... that what's friends do... but i think if she does not listen to anyone anymore... then it is about time you save yourself before you fall as a victime yourself.

yeah i have experienced this in my most early school age. I was good friend of her but when i came to knew about her double character which is like that of snake's. I have decided to cut relation with her and stopped talking with her in my whole schooling. She used to behave as very closest to my heart with me but the fact is she used to feel jealousy of me. I came to know this by listening and seeing everything with my ears and eyes. Usually i don't believe in others complaints but i will investigate based on my investigation i will decide the things...So i think this was too early to experience in my case...i will definitely stopped to continue friendship with such shamless persons...what do you say ?^_^

i stay away from her, or get rid of her presence. I don't want to compel myself staying in a person i don't feel friendship anymore with him or her. why? because we couldn't consider everybody as your friend sometimes they will make things against you. that is why i don't like them anymore. sometimes they talk of anything like this like that and a friend who couldn't keep secrets, the one i do not like. better to find another friend or to tell her frankly that you don't like her attitude.

if I were in your place, I would stay away. it's hard I know, because I'm guessing you have been friends for quite a while. but the thing is you have to look out for yourself first. you wont be able to help her unless you help yourself first.

Hi, silvercoin. I once had a friend. She was my first friend after I settled in this city. At first, I found her very nice and considerate. I usually hung out with her after work or at the weekends. But the more I got to know her, the stronger I felt we couldn't become true friends. She is so mean by placing her own self-interest above all else. From then on I managed to freeze her off. And gradually, we became estranged from each other.

it is very hard to regain trust and to expect again that your friend will not do it against you again.. So why keep them who can contaminate and are contagious?

When I lost the trust to my friends coz of some circumstances, its hard to gain the trust anymore.