What if your best friend was feeling depressed? What would you do?

@mlotta (218)
Managua, Nicaragua
April 22, 2010 12:56pm CST
Let's suppose that your best friend is feeling down. He/she is feeling lonley, depressed, or not in the mood to talk. It's those kinds of hard times that make you want to say "I need to help my best friend get better". If he/she is feeling lonely, then try to talk to them and maybe they will feel better. If he/she is feeling depressed, then try to console him/her and let that friend know that you will always be there for him/her. If he/she is not in the mood to talk, then try to leave him/her alone for a while. Eventually, he/she will get better. I would do all of the above for my best friend.
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12 responses
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
if i can not cheer my best friend up, i will just cry with her... maybe through it she can feel that someone is with her...her bestfriend is with her!!
@mlotta (218)
• Managua, Nicaragua
23 Apr 10
Ooops. The last 3 w's made a hyperlink. Anyways, how sweet of you to say that.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
25 Apr 10
shoot them and take them out of their misery...javascript:__doPostBack('ctl00$cphMainContent$lbStart','')
@mlotta (218)
• Managua, Nicaragua
25 Apr 10
Hey!! No threats here. You can't kill them. You should be ashamed of yourself for saying that and posting that in mylot!!!! I'll even report you to the moderators and have your post removed for saying that.
@cbjones (1147)
• United States
22 Apr 10
I like hanging out with people who have a bright and uplifting demeanor. Some of my friends just seem to let ever4ything negative roll off their backs, and are able to move on instead of dwelling on things because of that. When I'm feeling down, they are always there to to help lift me up.
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
There are times that we are feeling lonely and depressed without no reason at all. We feel so down that we tend to think and enteratin unhealthy thoughts. So it is a good outlet to mingle with those people who have a bright and uplifting demeanor. Prayer also helps.
@jugsjugs (12967)
22 Apr 10
I would do the same as you aswell as that i would try to get them out of the house and try to take their mind off things as that usually helps a bit as i know.I would also ensure that their other friends were aware that they were feeling like it as that way everyone could ensure the person did not do any thing stupid like take their own life.
@tangurama (204)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
I would simply try to cheer he/she up. If they don't feel like talking, that's fine, I'll give them their alone time. But when they do feel like talking, I'll be the first one to listen. I'll try my best to make them feel better, perhaps doing something that he/she enjoys or offer advice/suggestions from my own experiences.
@mlotta (218)
• Managua, Nicaragua
23 Apr 10
Talking to them will make them feel better. I know. By the way, did you have a best friend that was feeling down at one time or another? I really want to know.
• United States
22 Apr 10
My best friends are each very different in the way they need to work through their upset periods. With one, I just need to be there and available for her to talk it out if she feels like it. The other I actively try to cheer up; we go do things, have fun, and if she's always open to hearing what I have to say about her problems.
@mlotta (218)
• Managua, Nicaragua
22 Apr 10
That's good. At least you're doing the right thing. People get depressed sometimes. I get depressed sometimes too, and my best friend had the same problems. I usually try to cheer her up. I have 6 best friends, 3 boys and 3 girls, so it may be difficult to deal with.
• China
23 Apr 10
If my best friend is depressed, the first thing i'll do is to figure out what's the reason of his/her depression and then i'll do whatever in my power to help him/her find a way out, which may make him/her feel better. If he/she is lonely, i'll be with him/her as much as possible to show him/her that he/she always has me by his/her side. If it is the last case, i"ll walk away silently and leave him/her alone because i know he/she just wants to be all by himself/herself at that very moment and it doesn't hurt our friendship a bit.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
23 Apr 10
When your best friend is feeling depressed, it can bring you down too. I have found the best solution to a best friend's depression is to try to find a way to lift their spirits and their state of mind. It gives them a boost and makes you feel good to do it.
@fever324 (51)
• United States
23 Apr 10
If it's a guy. I would leave him along, give him sometime by himself. guys usaually will be fine if they are by themselves. Talking to them might make them more depressed. To me it is at least. If it's a girl, I would talk to her and help her to solve the problem. I dont really know how to help a girl though. sorry
@phoenix8606 (4942)
23 Apr 10
hell0! well, it is really sad when a friend feels depressed and we must always try to help them feel better. my friends have been in situations/moments like that not so often but i still have some experience with it so I can tell how and what I do to make them feel better when they are depressed! the most of the time when my friends are depressed or feeling sad about something I always take them out and have a lot of fun like go and play some football or volleyball, swim on the river( if it is summer) sometimes we also like to go and haev some fun in the old school with our old teachers- talking with them about the good old times and how happy we were as students. me and my friends always feel happy to see our teachers from the high-school! sometimes when my friends feel sad we also go fishin'- it is one really nice and cool experience- we love fishin' and every time we can and the weather is good, and even when it isn't we go no the river fishin'. my home town is on one of the biggest rivers in Europe- the Danube, and it is really good for fishin'. something else that we often do when someone of us feels depressed and shares it with the others is to play some video games and eat alot of snacks :) I know it sounds a kind lazy and like some people who haven;t anything else to do, but it really refreshes us and makes us forget the problems which make us feel bad and depressed. so that's how I help my pals when they are depressed, or the way they help me!
• Japan
22 Apr 10
i will need to know what is make them had that feeling,depressed,and try to find way out,yes i ll sit down whit them being a good listener than i ll talk and give advised if it need it too,then i ll ask them to go out together to have some fun may be go for clubbing,picnic,shopping or just eating outside to make them feel relax or even forget their trouble.
@nafmdt (40)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Hi mlotta! Well, everybody has their own problem. If your really a bestfriend to him/her, you know what actions to take on how you are going to help him/her. We have different perspective in life. There are some people who are not really showing their feelings if they are depressed, you will just noticed that if he/she tells you that he/she really is depressed. The best thing to do is to let your bestfriend would take some time for himself/herself alone, and if he/she is ready to tell you, then that would be the time for you to listen and counsel.