love before marriage

@mjanakha (479)
United Arab Emirates
April 23, 2010 4:36pm CST
One of my friends, soon after marriage applied for divorce. The reason is that she came to understand that her husband was having a lover before marriage. And he has a soft corner for her even after the marriage. Do you think My friends application of divorce is correct. Or she should live with him?
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7 responses
@zeethegr8 (785)
• India
14 Jul 10
Well as long as the husband was not involved in a relationship with his ex during the relationship with his current wife, the application was divorce could be a hasty decision. I can't comment on whether it was the right or wrong thing to do because I don't know too much about the details and as to why such a situation arose.
@piya84 (2580)
• India
24 Apr 10
One way she is right but there was little hope I think.She should have waited for husband and have his own time to get over the old lover.Her husband has soft-corner for previous love doesn't mean he is not going to overcome it ever. I think her reaction was knee jerk and she should have shown some patience.
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
For me, the main reason for marriage is love. So love is important before marriage. There is no reason to live with a person who loves other person and not you. I can say that the decision of your friend is right.
• India
24 Apr 10
Cheating husband - There is no point in continuing with a cheating husband. It would spell misery for her for the rest of her life.
Your friend must jump out as quickly as possible out of this unhappy situation as quickly she had jumped into it. There is no point in continuing with a cheating husband. It would spell misery for her for the rest of her life. It is better to suffer heartache once rather than to suffer for the whole life.
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
having a divorce is not that easy i know., because there are some people who is affected regarding this situation., her family, and her children., she must also considered the effect to their children if she has a child., because its not easy to a child to have a separated parents.,
@darkdeivu (257)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
love before marriage showing an trustful relationship.It shows that you will be breaking relationship soon.if will planning to get married make sure knowing your partner before get married. Most of us feel that they what each other but after get marriage and having a trials and knowing each other attitude and plan to divorce. Why do we start knowing our partner before planning get married if we want a long lasting relationship? Marriage is easy to plan But becomes harder when your their!.
• United States
24 Apr 10
I totally understand how she feels. The marriaged turned out to be disrespectful for her. But was it a forced marriage for the guy? The description you gave here seems like they did not even get a chance to get to know each other before marriage. They simply jumped into it which was a bad move. I cannot completely say that your friend is doing the correct thing. She is partially responsible for getting into this. Marriage should not be taken as some form of joke. It is a serious thing. I don't think she saw it that way before getting married.