what will you do when you fall in love with your workmate?
By Joseph_Xu
@Joseph_Xu (2)
China
14 responses
@eidoj31 (23)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Falling in love,(or in lust), with your workmate is a very bad idea. Love and work do not go hand in hand. Think about this....what if after a brief affair, things don't work out for you? Then what? Can you stand facing someone everyday that knows intimate things about you? You better hope that things ended on an amicable note, otherwise, everyone in your workplace will know about it. It is very hard to maintain a relationship with someone that you work with on a daily basis. In the best of situations, this one is very difficult. You should never mix love and work.
@caliya (1169)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
To some extent yes you do have a point but will you tell your heart what to feel just because of that reason? You have to be open to the possibility that yes it might end up badly but what if that person happens to be the right person for you? Life is about taking chances and I don't want to go on questioning myself what if?
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
27 Apr 10
First thing to consider is are both of you available. If either one is married, forget the whole thing. There will always be attraction everywhere, so this factor is very important so as not to end up hurting anybody or yourself. If both are available, the other thing to think about is if it fails. Can you or the other party face it? Are both of you able to forgo your occupation and work else where with ease so as to transit without too much hurt after the breakup? Or are both of you easy to forget type of people that takes relationship very lightly so that if a breakup occurs, it's no big deal? After answering the questions, you will know what to do. With a workmate, it's different from with somebody outside your work place. Outside, if it doesn't end well, you don't see each other anymore. Workmate, unless you can easily change job, you still face each other cos you need a living $$$. So consider both characters and outlook about relationship before jumping into it.
@mercury_yan (127)
• China
5 May 10
that's a easy question.
i will tell her how i love her and nomatter she is my workmate or my boss if i fall in love with her. but i think the diffcult question is how you make sure that you really love someone?
@ericpapasit (1274)
• Philippines
3 May 10
Joseph ask God about it.... and if it is not complicated for her then if you have a chance talk to her and be prepared for the response....
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
I would first assess why I fell in love with him. If it's because we're always together then I don't see it as much weight for a future between the two of us. I'm rather the type of person who 'waits'. Unless he starts asking me out or doing something to show me that he's interested, then I'd just do my part.
He could be my eye-candy for now. Hahhahaa..
Oh, by the way, relationships are not permitted in the company I am connected with. So, should that happen to me, then he'll stay as my eye-candy forever.
@BART78 (2927)
• Canada
26 Apr 10
it depends with policy of your company, in my experience i fell inlove with my workmate which is against the policy so we're sent other other deparment and branch..
@common_man (1799)
• India
26 Apr 10
same things as I will do if I fall in love with any other person.but of course nothing love related in office complex.
@mackiejp (374)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
If your company is so lenient that they allow two individuals be in a relationship at same place then go & get her but if not since it is always in the company rules & policy that is against two individuals with a relationship to still work together at one working place, it's either one will resign to give way the other. But if it'd be ok for the company then why not....
@caliya (1169)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
it actually happened to me. at first we kept it a secret as we don't want any nasty office talks and rumors but eventually people found out. i think it's alright and if you happen to check on a survey most of marriage partners are actually found at work.