Am I a bad Mom

I think you are a normal mom! You are probably doing a lot better than you give yourself credit for. You have your hands full and you are pregnant on top of that! Man... how dare you think you are lazy! Of course you are tired, you are caring for two little ones while making another one! You really might check with your doctor though to rule out anemia...

if i were you,i wouldn't think i am a bad mom.after all,you are also the women who wanna have your own space to do what you wanna do.not every thought can come true.look,haveing had two girls who you are bring up prove that you are a great mom.because it seems that u have been very clever in handling with some complex things.happy mylotting.

Hi there friend, From one mom to another, you are not lazy. Far from it. Think about what you are doing every day for nine months. You are creating a human being. Giving him all the nutrients and loving you have in you. Anyone creating a human being is bound to get tired. You just wait. You must remember the nesting stage. You know at the end when you get that burst of energy just before labor. You will certainly make up for time lost then. And dont be afraid to ask for help. People want to help, they just dont want you to take it wrong like you cant handle it. My pregnancy days are over, but oh I wish I could do it again. I loved being pregnant all three times. Two boys and one girl. And get the rest while you can, I know from experience, having three kids is a lot more work than 2. I think the only one that has big expectations of yourself is you. So lay back, read a book and relax. All the best luck to you and your family. Cheryl

Don't worry, you are feeling completely normal. Exhaustion is natural with all you have to do. Your life is so chaotic and you are legitimately exhausted. Ask the grandparents to take them for a night or a day and a night when you need a rest. Particularly if you are pregnant. You are NOT a bad or lazy parent. Just human.

Honestly, you are neither a bad parent nor a lazy parent. First of all, you've only spent three months of the last two years not pregnant and that in and of itself will explain why you feel like you are constantly tired. In addition to that, though you may not have realized it when you made the decision to be a stay at home mother, but that is a harder job than being a working mother because you truly never get a day off when you are a stay at home mother, you are working 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

You are not a bad mom,your last preganacy and this one is super close together and that takes a major toll on your body.I should know I have had 6 children in the last 8 years. Just do what you have to do and let the rest go for a few days the most important thing is spending time with you little ones THEY grow up super fast,Hold your little one's close to you even reading to them will bring ya'll closer. Good luck and God bless.

I know just how you feel. I have 2 little girls also. Mine are 4 and 2 and I am 6 months pregnant with another girl. I am so tired all the time and I start hurting in my leg and stomach if I do too much. Its kind of frustrating that I can't do what I want to do. At least I don't sleep as much as I use to. Thank goodness my 4 year old is in school and my 2 year old still takes naps. I take naps with her. Take care of yourself and that baby growing inside your belly. As long as your kids are being fed and looked after then thats the most you can do. Your not lazy and your not a bad parent. Congrats and good luck.

You are not a bad mom. .. It is just a natural feeling of a pregnant woman not to be able to do things which she used to do .. When you give birth, I am sure your energy to do things which will make your family very happy will once again be revived.

You're neither of those but you're putting too many expectations on yourself. Get your husband or family to help out. Talk to them about how you're feeling. Its not fair for you to be going through this on your own.

Hi Rose, I haven't been pregnant so I barely have any idea how it is to be one. Anyway, I did hear from many pregnant women that they did feel reeeeally lousy and lazy, and just wanted to sit all day. First it might help to acknowledge that this is a normal phase that you are going through. Perhaps you might like to decrease your sugar intake, or you might keep your blood sugar in check. Hyperglycemia can cause easy fatiguability, or the feeling of lousiness or laziness.

Let's see. You have a 2 1/2 year old. Twenty-one months later, you have a second baby. Less than three months after birth, you are pregnant with a third baby and are now six months along. Your body is exhausted! You need to give it time to recover from carrying and delivering one child before putting it through a very rigorous process again. Had you waited at least a year between giving birth and getting pregnant, your body would have had time to rejuvenate and you would feel quite a bit better. Call the grandparents, hire a sitter, have hubby take over in the evening occasionally. Your body needs a break before your mind does.

you are not a bad parent at all. I think you have all the right to rest since you are pregnant. And quitting your job has it's advantages and disadvantages- but i guess the advantages outweigh the disadvantages. You are a good mom since you quit your job in order to be with your family and because you think that you are a bad mom- I mean, because you think and you are concerned about if you are doing good as mom..does that make sense..to sum it all up, you're a good mom. :D

definitely , you are not a bad mom ,although i am not a mom , i know how hard the process of pregnant is , i see it from my mother ,and i ever have asked her about the things when i'm in her belly, she told me how her feeling is ,and i feel it is really tough time ,anyway it's mom who keeps me in the belly for over ten months ,and takes me to the world , all mom in the world is great ,hope you can have a health and lovely baby , you should get rid of this kind of thought , keep positive all the time , euthymia is very important for this time , happy mylotting !!!!!!!!!!!!

well i feel you coz im also a housewife taking care of my 5mos baby boy. its really hard to be at your own with the kids. i suggest you need to hire a house helper to help you with household chores and your kids. it really depends on how you talk about this with your hubby. but try to relax and be comfy at home since youre also pregnant. good luck.

As you can see from the many responses, you aren't a bad mom and we all go through this phase. It will pass. I have two kids of my own and I was a stay at home mom after I had my first child and would spend really good time together and we bonded so well. But by the time I was 6 months pregnant with my second, I was just too tired to do anything. I pushed myself to try and keep up with my older son...but by 8 months, I was way too tired. Fortunately I had my mother around to help then (but now I'm not so glad...lol...because my son was spoilt rotten by grandma and it took me a while to undo that). I started working when my younger was a year and a half old and a few months back (just before he turned 3), I was literally drained out and needed a break...couldn't keep up with everything...and I quit my job. Now, I'm homeschooling my older son, I'm at home (relaxed)...and spending time with the little....and now after 3+ years of me being tired and lazy, I'm happy doing what I wanted to do. You can't help being tired now....and if you can...no harm in asking for help sometimes (from friends and relatives). And if the toys are strewn around a whole day, big deal! You don't need to clean if you don't want to.

when I was pregnant I was bed ridden but I love to do activities. Having a job or looking after the kids will keep you busy and would not have the time to think you are a bad mom. Sometimes pregnancy can be very exhausting because you are carrying at least 10 extra pound on your belly. Maybe a day or two of activity wont hurt and then you can continue being lazy, which I think is acceptable.

The fact that you feel guilty about it proves you are not a bad parent. You are simply a pregnant parent. Have two small children is a lot of work and it is exhausting even to women who are not pregnant. Mix that with all the tolls that being pregnant can have on your body. Not to mention your body did not really have all that much time to recuperate from your last pregnancy. I think very likely your body is just really taxed out. I am not sure how far along you are right now, but I always found that I had a lot more energy in my second trimester and then the third was rough. I was really tired in the first trimester with all three of my kids. Just do the best you can and don't be shy about asking for help. You have a lot on your plate so don't feel guilty all you can do is the best you can do and if you need to rest and someone is willing to help out let them.

NO, You are not bad nor a lazy mom because being pregnant is so hard and our body gained so much weight that we cant bear with. also, there are lots of pain that we encountered during pregnancy so we just want to sit and relax and do nothing. I understand your situation because i am pregnant too and I am alone living, i want somebody always at my side but my family is away. I just getting strength from my baby, knowing that this little will give so much joy in my life.

Not a bad parent at all, just tired. Seems u are very young and active woman, and for the first time now, u feel tired. That shouldn't make u feel guilty, all of as, need to rest sometimes. It would be good, if u talk to your mom and ask her, to take the kids for some time. U should use all the help u can get. When u rest for some time, very soon u will feel in the mood again.

Don't get down on yourself because you are not alone. I have three children 6yrs old, 3 yrs old an 7 months old. With the first two pregnancies I was fine and active doing school and work fulltime and still able to take care of home. But with the third pregnancy I felt like you do. I was just so drained. My oldest started kindergarten and was in t-ball while I was pregnant so imagine hauling that pot belly to fields to in all that heat(we live in the sunshine state too, Florida). I was just miserable and felt that I was a bad mother for not being able to do what i used to or more. But I think its just all the hormones, discomfort and heat. I feel like the third pregnancy is the worst and I was having a boy also. Even now after having him and still having the same workload, I don't feel as bad but i think those thoughts just come with being a parent you're always going to feel like you should be doing more. I always have to remind myself that their happy and have all of my love and attention when I 'm able to be with them. Its better to devote the time you have with them to give them all of you attention then stressing about what you feel you're not doing enough of. Children can feel what their mother feels. And just from personal experience, you should spend as much down time for yourself as possible before you child is born because you will surely not having any to find once you have your addition to your family. We're states away from all family and friends because of my husband being in the service so We've been going on five years of no personal time for eachother and individually. Don't stress, they love you and appreciate what you do for them.