First time moms make me nuts!!

Oh heck no, if anything I was the opposite extreme. If anything I was probably doing too much by some people's standards. But I had just taken the attitude that women had gotten through pregnancies for thousands of years under horrible circumstances, that I didn't have health problems per se and that it was so rare for women in my family to lose babies that I just couldn't conceive of it being a problem. Maybe I was tempting fate, but turns out I was right...

No, I wasn't overly nervous, I was just excited to be pregnant and enjoying the experience, apart from the morning sickness of course. Being pregnant isn't an illness or an excuse to slack off from some of the more mundane things in life. Like you say it's difficult to know if she is using her pregnency as an excuse or if she is really just being an over anxious new mum.

There's no reason this woman shouldn't be able to carry out normal activities, as long as they aren't too physically strenuous and she doesn't have doctor's orders against it. However, if she's adverse to cleaning because she's trying to avoid using chemical cleaning agents, then I'd say she's justified. Most household and commercial cleaners are a cocktail of harmful chemicals that, in truth, ought to be avoided by everyone but especially pregnant woman. I do most of my cleaning with vinegar and baking soda even now, but if I were pregnant you wouldn't get me within 20 yards of any conventional cleaning agent.

katsmeow1213 well who knows may be she is allergic to dust or may be she just too much cautious for her unborn kid.Its natural to be worried when it first time.But in this scenario she should sit at home and take rest instead of doing job.If she want to do job then she cant runaway form responsibilities that post involve.

I don't have kids so I can't talk out of personal experience. But my sister has 2 precious kids and I have been with her during those pregnancies. She was a little cautious, but never gave up her regular activities. Except for the heavy lifting, she was doing all that needed to be done at home and at work. The way this girl seems to be reacting does seem a little cuckoo. But I was just wondering, is it like she has had a bad time with a previous pregnancy..God forbid like a miscarriage or something? May be that's why she is super-scared? But if as you said this is the first time she's pregnant, then this does seem strange.

I wasnt, I got put on bedrest and I still was as freak out as some people. I worked at the humane society cleaning cages. I worked with the dogs so it was fine even though i would help with cats sometimes, if freaked my boss out. I was wearing gloves its not a big deal as long as you know what you are doing.

I had my first (and so far only) child when I was 22 and at the time I working at UPS. I don't mean working in the office of UPS either, I was in the warehouse loading and unloading trucks, stacking pallets, and sorting boxes that were up to 125lbs. And I continued to work there until I was 4 months pregnant, the only reason I stopped was that I was having horrible stomach pains and my doctor told me to stop. That being said however, I feel the need to play devil's advocate on this subject... perhaps this girl does have a history of bad pregnancies, either with herself or close family members or friends, and that's why she's being so cautious. You've also admitted that you have yet to even meet this girl and everything you know about her and her work habits is based solely on what other people have told you. There's always the chance that they are exaggerating her lack of effort as well. Perhaps she IS being overly cautious. All I'm saying is, perhaps it's best to give her the benefit of the doubt since neither you nor any of us know her history or her personally.

that is a little crazy. i wasnt like that and i am sure i dont know anyone like that either. i dont think she will have a job too long!

Yes...I haev met a few of those myself. I don't remember if I was causious or not...been too long time ago. But I can relate to whom you are talking about....just think what it will be like for her when she goes into labor! LOL

Hi friend, I have had three c-sections and the first was a miscarriage. These women who play sick are radiculous. I felt healthier than I ever felt in my life. How could you not. You are making another human being. I worked an office job in the day and a waitress at night until I was 9 months pregnant. I had big beautiful babies, all three. So come on ladies, you are not sick, you are pregnant. Cheryl

One this girl is lucky she even got hired in this economy & in her state! The only thing I ever worried about was getting gestational diabetes resulting in a c-sect & dying my hair that's about all. Maybe she wants to milk her "condition" and not lift the slightest finger. I dunno I think I could certainly handle dusting!

I think part of the problem is the doctor to tell you the truth. I am seeing new doctors this pregnancy as my old Dr. retired. These new young doctors make everything seem as though you are trying to kill your child if you do it. I had one actually take me aside and ask me if I cared about my child because I was not taking the discussion about caffeine seriously enough. First off if caffeine was poison my entire generation as well as those before it wouldn't be here at all. They gave me booklets about cleaning products, food hazards, smoke hazards yada yada, a totally of three books, and at least 15 brochures all designed to scare the hell out of the poor pregnant woman. One was even about clothing being to close to the skin or too tight or made of non organic materials. The whole thing is so over done and so different from when I had my first 11 years ago.

My wife is pregnant now, also the first time. We are cautious too. But I think that girl is not cautious but just irresponsible. The baby is only her pretense for her lazy.

welll first time moms are jus getting use to being a mom. because its their first time and all, they jus want to make sure the baby is all right and provide all their love and care to the newborn. i know it seems like their overdoing it but maybe its what the baby needs lol

I don't remember being that cautious when I was pregnant for the first time. I worked in a daycare up until the day I had my daughter. In fact, I had to call off work that day because I was in labor lol. So while pregnant I was taking care of 5 or 6 toddler age kids every day. I was lifting them, changing diapers etc. It sounds to me more like she is using her pregnancy as an excuse to be lazy and do less work rather than be cautious.

I am currently pregnant with my first child and i don't act that bad. I would even move around a lot that other's would remind me that I am pregnant and needs to be careful. I still do chores at home and do things normally. Thought my first trimester was kind of bad since i feel so tired always and tends to be lazy at times but after the 4th month i was back in my old self. I even told my friends that I am pregnant and not an invalid... Well maybe their are a few who are overly cautious.

I think it depends on the mother. Not all first time moms are crazy like that. We're currently trying for a baby and I certainly don't plan on being like that. In fact, I work at a restaurant, so I really don't have much choice but to do what I always do! I think it was a bit immature on her part, though, to assume she can't do any sort of cleaning. That sounds a bit like laziness to me and like she was trying to milk it for all its worth (and I've seen plenty of women do that).

It sounds like immature and stubborn.... Maybe she is using her pregnancy as getting out of working really hard..... If cleaning is so unsafe for an unborn baby all of our houses would be in shambles for nine months..... Unless a doctor or order from one come with her she should do her job..... I would hate to think what her house looks like

I wasn't like this at all when I was pregnant for the first time. In fact, for much of the time that I was pregnant with my daughter, I was actually working two different jobs. I had a full time job and I also had a part time seasonal job at the local minor league baseball park. I didn't stop when I was pregnant with her until the day that she was born. Now, as far as those overly nervous first time mothers, I know one example of those right off the top of my head. That is actually my daughter's teacher. She is bordering on being a hypochondriac with her pregnancy which is definitely not a good role to play while teaching a first grade class.

I think she is just plain lazy. I was nervous, but there are lots of information available on the internet and books to tell you what is safe and not safe. Granted each pregnancy is different, but there are generally accepted dos and donts. Sure, everyone is worried about their first pregnancy. I know I was. But then, you get through it. Of course you don't want to do anything that might endanger you or the baby, but dusting?? Give me a break!! I think your husband should fire her or demote her at least.