Getting married because she is pregnant

No, I totally disagree to getting married because the girl is pregnant. I believe that people should marry for love. Of course people should make love only if they are in love but, nowadays, it's becoming a step in a relationship. But anyway, getting married to each other because of one "accident" is usually the reason why people are seeking divorce, annulment or ending up separated. They know they don't like each other much and don't even plan to be together for long but because they weren't taking the necessary precautions, the girl ends up being pregnant. And because she's looking at a future of a child without a father, and still wants the "best" for her kid, she will marry the guy. Unfortunately, not all conventional ways is the best way. Getting married is the second to the last step in living, and once a pair commits to that, it should be for good.

i think love follows when everything is going right and this could only happen when a child has what he should have: a mother and a father. once a child enters in this world, the mother specifically has to think more of the child than of herself. personally, am a mother, and i would think twice about letting my child be friends with someone whose mother freely chose to get pregnant and not have a father for him or the father left the family. attitudes, behaviors are both processed by the brain and we all know how physiologically we inherit the mere appearance of our brain, of course the way it would process information and dictate the body what to do, comes along too.

I don't think it is fair on the child if you get married JUST because of the baby, if you really don't love each other, the chances are you never will and the marriage may well end in divorce, which would be much harder for the child in the future than their mother and father never been married. I had a friend whose parents divorced when she was in high school, around 14/15, and it killed her to see her parents separating, and she now no longer speaks to or sees her dad because of it, she would have preferred them never to have married in the first place. There is always the chance you will "grow to love each other", but you need to care a great deal about each other in the first place for this to happen, you need to be best friends, if you barely even know each other and marry for the sake of a child, it has a strong chance of not working!!! Marry for love, not for a childs sake, it may be tradition- but it's not law for parents to be married! Live together for a while, see how you get on, give a relationship a real go whilst pregnant, and then maybe see about getting married when the child is a couple of years old IF you have grown to love each other, but don't rush into it!!! A child does need a family- but families come in all shapes and forms these days, whether its a mother and father who are married, a mother a step father and a father and step mother, two fathers, two mothers, or even grandparents who are the main caregiver. A family doesn't has a set structure and only comes in one form, so long as your child has love and stability, they have everything they need from their family.

Although getting married for the sake of a child sounds practical, if you think about it, it will have negative effects on the parents and the child in the long run. If they don't really love each other, it will show throughout the course of their relationship, and the child will be affected by it sooner or later. However, there are some cases where the couple eventually learn to love each other after marriage, but it's very rare, and most marriages like this are usually bound to failure. If the couple doesn't marry, then the child will not have a complete family at first, but perhaps someday, the child's mother will marry someone whom she truly loves, and so the child will have an almost perfectly happy family. On the other hand, if the couple marries without love, either they can go on with their relationship and have a not-so-happy family, or they can divorce later on. Either way, the child will be affected negatively, and will just have a broken family. So, I guess if the couple doesn't really love each other at all, then they should NOT marry just for the child.

I don't think I will marry the girl just because of the child..I can be a good father to the child without marrying her..for me marriage is very sacred that you will bound yourself to the girl you really love in front of god and not just because she is pregnant.. :))

Having a child is a big responsibility, you've done it then you should be responsible with it.You got pregnant with lust,then if we get married to the one we don't love then its a big mistake, but Love can possibly learn if we want it.Sometimes pleasure can make a big mistake that we cant go back anymore.

well, i have encountered one case that's quite like that... my friend's buddy was having an intimate relationship with this particular girl... i don't really have any idea if they are in love or what... then the girl got pregnant... the guy was surprised about it because all along he knew that the woman was taking precaution or something... but it all happened already and they were forced to marry... now several problems arouse... they already had a son but the guy, was having an affair... the mistress was actually his real girlfriend before.... and everything is just so complicated.. so i think, if they will marry just because the woman got pregnant and they do not love or get along very well, better not...

The answer is a clear no. It's a disaster waiting to happen. You'll only end up hurting yourself, your would-be spouse and your child in the process. Now a days, love is not even enough. I once loved my husband and now, after 5 years of marriage and after a child, were on our way to separation. We've been battling our differences since we got married and we still have no idea how to resolve them even though we know we loved each other. and if you don't have love in the first place, it would even be harder to work out. So i suggest you just take care of the baby in separate ways, spend some time together with the child, but you really don't need to get settled down and get married.

When someone is pregnant, it is a huge responsibility. Getting maried is a commitment that combines the lives of two. You can still be a parent without getting married. You should marry for the right reasons. You should marry for love and because you want to spend the rest of your life with your special someone. Having a child with that person is an added bonus. Think about your reasons and what the future holds before deciding to get married for a child.

People marry for alot of reasons, but without love..you don't make a family and you certainly don't make one with longevity, or an environment that a child will thrive in either. Marriage isn't a requirement when it comes to giving a baby 2 responsible and loving parents that are both comitted to the child, even of they aren't to each other.

The best and basic foundation of marriage is love. Then why getting into marriage without love then broke up thereafter. Its still not giving the child a family but a broken family. However sometimes life is like a gambling, love was grown when they're reunited with a baby, very rare happens If I'm not wrong. So its all yours to take the risk.

i don't think a couple should marry because of an unplanned pregnancy. many teens find themselves in this situation and it used to be that a shotgun wedding would be the next step. but not anymore. nowadays the girl's parents no longer insist that the guy marry their daughter. i know of some parents who have refused to have their daughters marry even when the guy (and his parents) offered. marriage is a long-term commitment and should be entered into by a couple who are prepared to honor the commitment.

wish we could hve both right? well it depends on the situation and the individuals. morality and values are considered.

well it depends on the situation and the individuals of different parties. i believe that if there's love, passion and trust then there could be a chemistry not disaster.

I don't think having a baby together should be the basis of getting married or binding yourself with someone for the rest of your life. Love should be present for two persons to enter marriage. If you just marry for the sake of the child without love, how sure are you that this kind of marriage will be for the rest of your life since it doesn't have its very foundation in the first place.

I think they should not get married if it is just for the child's sake. I know there are a lot of people who will disagree with me but my points are these: First, the first and last reason why marriage should push through is because of love. The rest are in the middle, (e.g. getting companion, for parents sake, friends influence, getting someone to share your life with, for having own family etc.) Second, they don't love each other which is a great risk. Risk because what if the "give-it-a-try" theory won't work? I know that there are a lot of people who believes in the saying "I can learn how to love him/her in the long run or after marriage." What if the opposite happens? Third, there are already a lot of cases wherein a child was born without a father or he bears his mother's last name or that he does not even get the chance to meet his father. That is already a common and accepted case in the society. Of course I am not promoting that to happen but if that is really the case that his mom just happened to get pregnant without any love for his father, so be it. He is not alone anyway. I am not encouraging giving births here without wedlock, but what I encourage is never marry someone you don't love no matter what the reason is. It would be better to marry someone you truly love then separate in the end for some unworkable reasons, than marry someone and spend your whole life regretting of the decision you made. That is all my point, thanks.

I dont think so its a good thing too marry a person just because she got pregnant.But you need to sit down with her and decide how you guys are going to raise that kid.Kid is reality and there is no point in running away from this reality.So though you dont marry you need to contribute in bringing up this kid.

No, because marriage is not the answer when a woman conceived. IF they loved each other then I guess they should get married but if it was just an accident I think they shouldn't be. Because people who doesn't love each other and staying in one roof can have misunderstanding that can lead to serious quarrels. When i got pregnant, i didnt forced my boyfriend to marry me because i know we are not emotionally stabled yet. The baby will be the one who will just suffer if they did so.

Because she is pregnant so the couple should get married for the sake of the child.But if the couple don't love each other ,there will be many problem the process of marriage,and that will affect the child badly.So you may want to be responsible for the child to get married at firt but at last you just hurt the child deeply.Before making decision think and weigh everything .

If someone is getting married because she is pregnant, it will not work. you will live in a world full of lies. Anyway each of you can share the same responsibility though you are not marreid. If the man is responsible enough he could have help you raise the child. I really beleive that getting married should based on love.