Stood up. How do you handle this?
By maezee
@maezee (41988)
United States
April 28, 2010 11:20pm CST
I was stood up tonight with an uber-lame excuse from the one in question. I am becoming a cynical old woman and I'm only 19 and in the prime of my youth. How do you handle these situations? I've already left a mean phone message, but I think I'm going to go for the cold shoulder routine now. And push him out of my life completely. What do you think? This has happened before. It's a broken record.
How do you handle being STOOD UP? Are you nonchalant about it? Or does it REALLY get to you, like it's gotten to me? What's a good plan of action?
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6 responses
@shawntae54 (14)
• United States
8 Jun 10
The cold shoulder routine should work just fine. Move on to bigger and better things. Theres no excuse for not calling and saying you couldn't make because of whatever. Its called common courtesy and should be utilized.
@arunmails (3011)
• India
30 Apr 10
[b]According to me.. no excuses.. excuses are the cause for the next wrong thing which is going to be happen...
So, we don't want ot give excuses and don't want any wrong things to be happened...[/b]
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
29 Apr 10
maezee,
Honestly, I do not think that anyone would like to be stood up or be standing people up, so I am sure your partner will have to explain his/her disposition.
I see in your case here, you just do not seem to be convince to be unable to accept it but interpret it as some lame excuse. I am not going to be judgmental here, but I think you should know yourself well enough if you had been too harsh and measured your partner unfairly with your pasts.
I say let the past be the past, listen intently with what the other party has to say and give the benefit of doubt accordingly. Stop comparing or measuring with your past. Always be fair.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
29 Apr 10
First time I listen to excuses after that no time for that kind of treatment. Dump him and go on with your life. You are to important to put up with that disregard.
@Auntiescarf (842)
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29 Apr 10
Oh god, what was the excuse, I remember when I was stood up, after an hour I sent him a text saying sorry that I hadnt turned up, but that I had something else to do, I wanted to try to make him think that he had also been stood up, I didnt want him to think of me standing about waiting for him. I also used the cold shoulder, but never let anyone think I was upset about it.
@kenruno (35)
• Kenya
29 Apr 10
The best way...Know what you want, understand the consequences of what you want, accept the consequences of what you want. For example: Should you opt to leave him, you are going to get lonely for some time. Are you ready to go through this? If you can..then go ahead. don't waste your time. The worst thing to do is to tell him off and the following day you are back to him...this gives him the impetus to treat you even more badly!
