"dont talk to strangers" is this saying... for kids only??
By acie_21
@acie_21 (5633)
Philippines
April 29, 2010 6:14am CST
what do you think ???when we were young our parents always tells us not to talk to strangers...now that were old and has our own mind and thinking...
knows whats wrong and right...
does this saying still applies to us???
in what way????heheheh!
do you often talk to strangers??
how will you know that this person is good or bad??
do have any experience??heheh!
please do share!
happy posting!
have a great time!..
cheers!
mylotters!
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24 responses
@phoenix8606 (4942)
•
29 Apr 10
hell0 there!
WEl I have really wondered why I have never hard that
saying from my parents or someone else, while
I still was a child!?
And I guess that it all was because here in my country, or at least in the times when I was a kid, there wasn't no violence,
no murders or pickpockets, no stealing...
well, there was some criminality, but not that much
and not that often as today, because I realy think that
the world today is more dangerous than before...
And maybe that's why people of today say to their kids
that they should not talk to strangers, because
it is dangerous! well maybe it is not onl for kids,
because not only kids can get hurt from some stranger,
even adults can be attackt and I guess that this is the case in many countries,
becaus adults are attacked by others more often than kids are...
so taht's why this saying is not only for kids
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@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
hi friend...
your definitely right about that..
so when this situation happens to...you..
a stranger ask you to help him cause he lost his car or something...he looks old but perfectly fit to kill you..
how will you deal with this stranger??lol!
cheers!
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
•
29 Apr 10
well, i guess that I will help him, because I never refuse to help people, who need some help!
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@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I always took a different approach with the no stranger rule with my kids. I was worried that if they were afraid of all strangers they wouldn't approach someone for help should they ever get lost or find themselves alone and in trouble. I told them to avoid strangers that made them feel scared or uncomfortable, but that most people are good. I tend to follow the same rule myself and I talk to strangers daily. I had a great conversation about hockey last night with a guy in the grocery store..had never seen him before..still don't know if he was a good guy or a bad guy..only that he is a blackhawks fan.
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@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
well..i think your right about that..
but now a days..bad people are pretty tricky already..
some bad people have their ways to pretend ..!to look good and innocent...
maybe we just need to be ready for any bad situations that might happen..
have a nice day!
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@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
As an adult, you have to know where to draw the line. Meaning if you talk to strangers, be sure you don't give exact details and information about where you are or who you are. In this generation that we live in, where Social sites are rampant and people keep on posting their photos without limitations and giving informations also.
But just to be safe, don't be too aggressive on befriending all specially if that person is just easy to go to your place, but if that someone is somewhere around the globe or other part of the world, you have the chance and time to go somewhere before they can find you, heheh .. just kidding, but what I m just telling you is that, be safe as always. Don't give your phone numbers to strangers and specially your address.
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
I think it is applicable only when we are young. Now that we are old, we know the type of strangers that we dont have to talk with. When I was young, before my mom let me in in my classroom, she always told me not to talk to any strangers outside because they will get me and throw in far away land. So I am scared at that time but my mom was just joking. I think that our parents only protects us, because as a child, we cant protect our selves.
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@gambamarcela (1012)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
Well, it still does apply to me even now that I'm grown up. I usually don't converse with men who seem to be perverted to women. I can easily sense it whether a guy has any malicious motives.LOL. I enjoy conversing to older people. I feel at ease with them. But, I feel awkward when I talk to people who are of or closer my age. hekhek. I feel weird tensions especially if they're guys.hekhek
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@greencard13 (317)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
Well "dont talk to strangers" does not apply anymore. If we do not talk to strangers we will be in big trouble when we are lost while we are on travel. If we do not talk to stranger there will be no discussion here in mylot. Talking to strangers is important :)
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
29 Apr 10
because we have better judgemnt then when we were kids, and we can often tell if a person is good or bad.
but i do as well talk to lot of strangers, but i can often tell if they are good or bad people
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
29 Apr 10
If we never talk to strangers, we are not going to meet new people and I think we would miss out on a lot of things that way. Children might not be able to protect themselves, sometimes they can't judge whether they can trust a person or not and they might reveal their personal details to the wrong person for instanse a person that they meet online. When you are an adult it usually easier to judge other people and it is easier to protect yourself, because you have more experience.
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@maanrodriguez (604)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
I dont think "dont talk to strangers" is for children only. us adults should also take caution when talking to people we dont know as we too can be victims of abuse or other forms of crimes.
@nonersays (3335)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I do thin that, in a way, the "dont talk to strangers" applies to adults too.
Obviously as adults most of us HAVE to talk to strangers every day as a part of our jobs. But some people "talk" to a lot of strangers on the internet and give away too much information about themselves, leaving themselves open to be robbed, or worse, by people they've never even seen in real life.
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@phoenix1344 (698)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I've heard all of my life 'Don't talk to strangers!' And I always followed it. Well now that I'm nearly 21 I do believe I have the ability to test the waters and make my own judgements. In most cases other people in their 20's who are obviously closer to my age, I don't have any problems talking to them.
But when it comes to people that are older, especially men, I do tend to keep my distance. I won't be rude if someone talks to me I'll talk back, but I'll mentally be keeping notes just to make sure I am safe if I continue to stay in this person's prescene.
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@kaylachan (69671)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Apr 10
Everyone is a "stranger" to somebody, but to keep this from being this way someone has to make that first move. I had always found the sentance "don't talk to strangers" to be quite counterversial.
Quite frankly I don't make it a habbit to talk to everyone who crosses my path. But, at the same regard I'm not going to be rude. I may say 'hi' or 'how are you' but usually nothing more then that. I like to feel the person out first before making any real moves.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
Yes, I strongly think that it should also apply to big people. I broke this rule and almost got swindled by three men. It started with one man who pretended to ask a question which I had difficulty answering because it involved something that would get me into some sort of commission, then another man came in to offer help, and a third one, until I noticed that I was about to lose some money in it. I was glad to stop their operation from progressing at that time.
@prince05 (92)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
the saying"don't talk to strangers" has something to do with how our parents protect us when we were young...
now that we're old enough..we know how, when and what to do..."different folks for different strokes"...or vice versa...
we need to reach out to others in order to learn...so, i must say that, one has to be careful ...without suffering being friendly
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
29 Apr 10
Hi acie, during my childhood and teens days my parents as well as the elders always advised us not to talk to any strangers. For many strangers were bad people with malicious intent. They tried to take advantage from innocent persons, especially young girls. I was a quite timid and obedient person that time. I even felt scared when seeing a police man. Needless to say when coming across with any strangers. Worse still after hearing all sort of scary stories about young girls were abducted or kidnapped by the culprits every now and then.
when getting older I don't have such worry anymore as I at least could see whether a stranger is good or bad. Nowadays we always meet strangers in may places, like in a queue. Waiting in front of the counter. In shopping mall, etc. Of course I will talk to stranger whom I believe he or she is not a bad person. Anyway I believe majority of the strangers are good people
Happy posting
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@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
2 May 10
hmmm....i have strong sense of vibration...heheheh!
and most of the times ..im right..
now a days some bad people always start a conversation of getting a help or being pity to look at..or selling stolen things...
but if the person was just asking if he/she is lost or asking what time..
i wouldn't feel scared ...i could leave the person in no time if he / she is acting suspicious ...heeheh!...
cheers!
thanks!for sharing!
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
5 May 10
Do talk to strangers!! haha =D
BEcause one will never know what surprise that stranger has in their bag of tricks for us!! hehe ^_^ Some might be carrying or bringing us money earning opportunities?? WHil some are plain tricksters.. haha =D
It's fine to be talking to strangers as long as they are in public places and not following anyone to a narrow alley etc.. hehe
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
Your right my friend, when we were young that was the most common thing we heard from our parents. Now that I am already old enough I can still remember those reminders but never took it seriously. Maye because I already know how to handle things. But nowadays, we must be still careful to strangers because there were a lot of common crimes which were related to strange people whom we talked.
Nice topic...cheers!!!!
Mobhomeir here...
@mario_stevens (6971)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 10
once upon a time, i was a happy go lucky individual. always willing to get to know new people and always up for a good chat. i was even 'approachable' and i liked to approach people too.
but then i got some sage advise from my fiancée, 'don't talk to strangers'... so i just had to stop it. she still frowns at me when i have this twinkle in my eye when a girl who's also a stranger passes by me. i just want to get to know her....but i can't talk to strangers no more....*sigh...
or maybe it was my fault for doing all that in front of my fiancée? hehee.... :)
@mAck_08 (1)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
i would like to opposed to the saying, that only for the kids... i really do abide with that saying, that it is not only applicable to kids, but also to the elders and to all ages... for it is really dangerous in taking cared of somebody whom u don't know... its exactly right!
-mAck
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