Separation makes the heart grow fonder? yes or no?

My Children and I have always been very close so really it is just the same I am glad though that you and your Son have the closeness Yes it will have been what you have both been through together also it proves that he is missing you Big Hugs

I think seperation does make the heart grow fonder. I know these last weeks I have sure missed and felt pure love for my little grandson. I see him and he is so amazing to me. I hope that you two get to move into a nice apartment and live happily.

Yes, I too have noticed the same thing with my son. He recently moved out and back down south to the coast which is 600 miles from me. He calls me at least 3 times a week and we talk on the computer through yahoo IM at least a few times a week. We were really close when he was here too. We just didn't seem to talk so much. It's strange though now that he is gone, he calls me so much or talks to me a lot on the computer. It's really nice! Hatley, I really do hope your son gets another job and a good one so that he can get you and him in a place together. Many many blessings for a bright future!

My two sons are now working and living in different towns. They become more closer to me than they were before. Though they might not be able to come and see me because of work commitments but make it a point to call me every now and then to find out how I am doing. And am always looking forward to christmas season when they all come home for family reunion. I agree that absence seems to improve the relationship more.

Hi Hatley, I think this is somewhat true. My son has not lived near me for years, he is only 50 miles away, but it's too expensive for us to drive that distance. :( Though I miss him, I don't think he misses me, he prefers to call his dad only when he has a problem. I didn't even have his phone number until yesterday when his dad finally gave it to me so I could call and wish him a happy birthday, but he wasn't home.. I think it depends on the relationship, obviously I don't have one with him or his sister who only live 3 miles away, she won't talk to me either..Just their little sister talks me and of course my 7 y/o son..:)

Yes. I think my mom have grown closer ever since I moved out. Now we are on the same boat. I am now able to realize how hard it is to raise a family. Whenever we see each other, I can easily tell her my troubles and I know that no matter how I relate each story to her, she would understand because she has been there. We send each other "missing you" notes over facebook or a simple email and we have never done that when I was still living under one roof with her.

True.Even in the case of Mylot.I always begin to like it more whenever I come back to it after a gap.

My two sons appreciate me much more with 1800 miles between us! I miss them like crazy but I hated where I lived and wanted to come home. Seeing each other once or twice a year doesn't really suit me but I'll probably move closer in a few years. They miss me, too, and when we all lived in the same house they took me for granted.

I'll let you know in about 10 years! :-)

In my case it is that I moved away from my mother for the first time a little over a year ago. She and I have always been very close, but I do think that now my family and myself are on our own I have come to appreciate her far more than I did when I lived under her roof. We have less tension between the two of us than we had when we lived together and our relationship continues to grow stronger. So, from my point of view I would say that yes, being separated from your parents or from your children will make your relationship grow.

Hi Hatley, there are some things that are difficult to reconcile, and I am a bit confused on how I should react on them at this stage of my life. So I have just put them in a separate chest or compartment of my mind and locked them because no amount of thinking on them is really getting me anywhere to an answer that would not punish me further. I leave that one on god. But other than that, there are very few differences between me and my parent now. Somehow the past issue once out in open has brought us closer, possibly because my parent thinks I have forgiven it. I for one am torn between gratefulness, and denial of love to myself on one hand, and standing up for right on the other hand. I guess he has his regrets. In so far as he has wronged me, I do feel I have forgiven but every once in a while the feeling of self-pity takes over, and the frustration that accompanies it gets aggravated when my father wittingly or unwittingly does something hurtful. I guess I am giving him a tight rope to walk. Its like - you have had all your chances, now no more. Wish my mom had been alive. :(

My kids are still young, so there is no separation yet. The closest I could relate it to is when the older kid goes on sleep overs. He does seem so loving after a sleep over. Maybe he misses us. One time he even called late at night. I got worried thinking there was a problem. As it turns out, he just wanted to say good night.

Yeah, if the one who is away from you is someone dear to you, just like my son. When he reached 21 and found a good job to fend himself, he started to move out of the house. But the good thing is, he makes it a point to call or text me every now and then asking me about my health, if I have worries, if I have been taking my vitamins...such I miss you and visits me on his day-offs. Unlike before when he was still here and lives with me, seldom that he talks to me becasue he was busy with his activities. Yes, I guess so, separation makes the heart grow fonder!

hi!hatley.i don't think you turned out to be an old man.in my view,the number of old people who love to internet and is able to surf the internet.if i make you feel unconfortable,i apologize.to your question,i think different people have different views.almost all of old people hope their children live with them even their children have grown up.if the children get along well with their parents,they will be happy.if not,all of them will be unhappy.

for almost two years now, my son lives with his mom in the province. we don't communicate a lot but when we do talk on the phone or chat on the internet, we have lots of things to discuss than when we were together. my step daughter seems to miss his little brother so she make it a point to call us everyday. she is now in the province spending their summer vacation.

I don’t have grown up children because my daughter is only eight and, at this stage I cannot even imagine her not living with me! I would imagine that being apart and the sons and daughters having to deal with everything on their own would cause them to miss home and their parents. My daughter is young and we are very close but after a few weeks of school holidays together I start craving for my own space and look forward to her going back to school but when she’s there I miss her like crazy! Go figure...

Yes, if i truly love the person i would truly miss her company and no, if i am just playing games and just for fun. Up to the point the length of times of separation is just a test or challenges as true love stay no matter the distances is and foolishness know it's over when one of the partner forget and keeps other company. then it is a close book...

Hi Hatley: It's nice that you tell us about this feeling. I have no children but I'm a young adult that will be out of his parent's house very soon and I think I can understan the reason of this approachment. When we are far from the people we love, we start to understand in a deepest way the reasons why we love them and we start missing the good memories with our family. I think that, being far from your house at some moment of your life makes you gro up. Thanks for sharing with us your experience. Have a nice day. Alvaro

can't say- I have one daughter who stays with her family in Europe and the younger one staying with us ( unmarried) but independent meaning that she is a working professional and doing many other things ( like choosing her line of higher education, extra curricular activities, etc) on her own. Both are very close to us, though as you say whenever we visit my elder daughter's place or she comes down here- which is normally once every one and a half years- she seems to be closer than she was during the the previous visit.

Maybe it's true during the first days you were apart but as the days passes by, it will be a no. Just keep the communication because if you don't, he might learn to live without you by his side.