What would You Do in This Case?...Will you be Hurt?

that's what I want too.. but we are not living together.. we are just boyfriend and girlfriend.. the story goes this way.. he was invited by a guy friend for out of town... he did not tell me coz he's thinking I will not allowed him coz there are some girl friends.. fortunately, I found him sleeping in a lodging house in one bed and two girls in another bed of the same room.. when they saw me, they all explained that it was nothing... he cried and explained... we both left their friends... until now it makes me think how can he never told me all about this after all we are in a relationship for over 7 years... do you think he is still into me?...

Agree's, if there isn't trust or respect after that long of a relationship, then there either has to be a huge change in him or find someone that will. After seven years he already knew how you would react, is that maybe why he went anyway knowing these things? You truly need to think about what you truly have in this relationship, is it one sided more than not?

Sweetie, if you have been in this relationship for seven years and he still cannot tell you these things, then i am baffled. The most important things in any relationship is trust and respect. If you do not have that, then i would let him go. No excuses will ever be able to beat those two. If he still loves you, you have to talk about this. TATA.

If his explanations are acceptable to you, then give him another chance.

This is my opinion krystal, but this can only be the beginning. If he can't be truthful with you out of fear, then there are going to continue to be problems. For example, would you have been ok if you knew about the girls? If you are like me and would not liked it, it only opens your relationship up for more lies. If you don't mind, I would caution you that one time it may not be as innocent..

..and yes it freaks me out... this is the first time he do it to me for 7 years we are in a relationship... the whole story is that.. he do it because he really wants to go out of town, but afraid to tell me coz he's thinking that I would not allowed him coz there will be some girls.. so he kept it from me... fortunately, I found him in a lodging house sleeping in one bed, and two girls in another bed of the same room.. As they saw me.. he explained and the girls explained too that it was a group friends out of town... he cried and told me that he was just afraid to tell me... we both leave the place and we left his friends... so what about this?.. if you are in my place.. what would you say my friend?..

Yes, I was really hurt... It breaks my heart... Have you ever experienced something like this situation?... he was invited by a guy friend, he did not tell me coz he is afraid that I will not allowed him to go coz there are girls in it... fortunately, I found him sleeping in a lodging house's room in a bed and two girls in another bed of the same room... It freaks me out... they all explained that it was nothing, he cried and told me he will never hide anything again from me... do you think he deserves to be forgiven?.. what would you do if this happens to you?

I would be glad he told me the truth. I think it is time for you two to have a very serious discussion. If he is affraid to tell you for fear you would not let him go then it sounds like he has some issues regarding your leadership in the relationship. And, perhaps he still needs time to be singular. But you two need to talk and come to some conclusions about what to expect in the future.

Absolutely, at this point you both need to sit down and set the rules for both of you. No excuses are acceptable after that.

Hi.. I freak.. I really do.. anyway.. we are in a relationship for 7 years.. this is the first time he do it for me.. to just disappeared for three days without answering my call or letting me know where he is... luckly, I found him in a lodging house with friends... sleeping in one bed and two girls in another bed of the same room.. When he saw me. he explained and the girls too... and we both leave the place.. He cried and explained that he just want to go out with friends, but afraid to tell me because he is thinking that I will not allowed him coz he will be with some girl friends... so what do you think about it?

I would truly think about all of this through, the all of it from start to end. If he has to hide things he wants to do from you because you don't agree and can't discuss it and decide together, why is he with you in the first place? He would leave with you, because he was already gone for 3 days.. Did he explain what they all did for those three days? Did he admit to maybe some other extra activities to you, or side step the whole issue. Or maybe blame you because of how you felt about it all in the first place? How long have you been with him? Can you trust what he says? Do you watch his face when answering your questions or does he look away when answering? All these things you need to take into consideration. Is he worth keeping, even if he makes mistakes. Thing is does he change to not make those same mistakes again. Oh one more thing, make sure he understands how upset you were, worried, and hurt with his actions. Comes right down to it, he made the choice, you did not.

Are you sure he hasn't done this before and you never found out? That question came up while reading the rest of the comments and responses here. Hun, you really need to look at him when your talking about these things. Watch his reactions, physical reactions, you should know him well enough by now when he isn't telling the truth just by watching his physical reaction. Don't get hurt anymore, you deserve better than that.

... oh you made me think a lot.. thank you... first he explained that he was invited by a guy friend, but he was thinking that I will not allowed him to go because there are girls in it.. so he decided to hide it from me.. he really wants to of out of town that time... I was looking for him for 3 days.. he is not answering me... he don't want me to let know that he is with friends... then lucky for me, with my instinct.. I was able to drop by to some lodging house not far from the city and ask if his name was in the check in list... the front desk clerk told me he is in this room.. I found him sleeping in a separate bed in one room.. with two girls in the another bed... when he saw me.. he explained and we both leave the place.. we left their friends... he cried and told me he is really sorry... I really don't know what to do...

hi there friend, have you read my whole story in previous comments above you?... I just want to know if you are in my situation.. will you still give him another chance?.. will you still trust him?... I ask him if he need some space.. he said no... as of now... he's making up with me... but still don't know what to do sometimes, still there is pain everytime I think that he prefer his friends than me for those days...

even if he explained to you that he's just afraid to tell you because he think you'll get angry?... he just do it for friends bonding.. hmmp.. but I guess.. that was just a very stupid reason from a man like him, I guess you're right friend.. better off without him...

I would probably say - far better to tell me the truth than to lie or hide. You might be testing to see how much I love you - trust me, I won't test you by kicking you out if you don't test me by hiding or lying. I guess there are some gals more desperate for a boyfriend than I am... probably why I'm still single at my age!

@krystalheart: If he tells me that he didn't tell me because I'll get angry I will be angrier than before. That's the dumbest reason guys have ever invented. I don't know about you, but I really think there's something fishy going on. If he doesn't have anything to hide he won't be so afraid to tell you. @ElicBxn: I so totally agree with you. If that would happen to me I would immediately dump my boyfriend. I do have a boyfriend right now, and thank god he's not like all the other idiots in the world.

Hi Hatley, I was too really angry that time... honestly I slapped him several times.. I give him a lot of hard punches in front of those girls.. It looks like I there was a big typhoon in that room because of me... He then explained that he just want to go out of town with friends coz he was invited by a guy friend but afraid to tell me coz there are some girls in it... the girls explained too but there is really nothing in it... He cried and told me that it was really his mistakes and will never do such thing again... we then left their friends... so do you think I should give him a second chance if you are in my place?

Just hope you will do what is best for you, whether you want to be in a casual relationship or if you want to get married someday. That is definitely your decision.

...and yes.. that's the question I am always asking... hope I could make the right decision... thank you for reminding me all of these.

Hi there, he was invited by a guy friend for out of town, he told me he is just afraid to tell me coz he is thinking that I will be angry if he is with friends with some girls in the group.. fortunately, I found him sleeping in a lodging house in a bed with two girls in another bed of the same room.. It freaks me out, they both explained there is nothing in it... he cried and told me that he would never hide anything from me again... we then both left their friends... It hurts me coz I was thinking how come he was able to take it...without answering my call for 3 days... how come he prefer to come with his friends and hide from me for 3 days... do you think he deserves to be forgiven if you are in my place?..