would pretend to like someone for anyone else ?

whats funny my wife side have a saying its not our place to say anything, and the kids can make thier own choices

And why not? You love her don't you, you want to protect her. That's enough reason for someone to say something. It's not always easy. You should put your foot down sometimes, you are after all the head of the family. It doesn't matter if she's an adult, and that "she's old enough to handle situations like this", we are human, we get hurt,too. They're right, kids can make their own choices, but it would be better if there were someone there to guide them, the duties and responsibilities of the parents don't really end once they reach the age of 18, if we want our kids to come out right, we should learn to be there for them, even if they don't say anything or sometimes we try to ignore their cry for help, I say, we should still be sensitive and aware, and not wait till it's too late for us to do anything. People kill themselves for reasons that are trivial compared to this. Your daughter is lucky, she has a father that cares for her.

ive done it for years, but over the years different things had happen not just with my daughter but with me and people in my wife's family. her sister accused me of something no man ever wanted to be accuse of. and she was really nasty about it, and still i went around everyone and i pretend to be happy and nothing was wrong. but i had to watch everything i said and did. and all my life i was always told to pretend things didnt bother or hurt me. get around those who did wrong and be nice to them so i wont hurt thier feelings. i told my wife ive done it all my life, ive done this for years after years with her family. and i am sick of her parnets making excuses up for the other kids, but when it comes to my own she is always wrong, and she need to try harder, but when it comes down to making up she's the one who always make the first move. now this was the last straw with them, my poor have to deal with her brother and others leaving her out of everything, and treating her like crap, and dealing with the fact not just almost raped by a friend but her brother and cousins even the nasty aunt is beliving the boy story over her as well. so i do have issues with them all of them. and i do have issue excepting the fact they hang out with this punk and beliving his lies, and my son even said well he have to work on the trust issues with us, but my son wont work on his issue with his own twin sister. so i am pretty done with my wife side of the family, because if someone start something i am not going to sit there and pretend for them no more, and i will not keep my mouth shut at all. i will speak my mind if they like it or not. and i even told my wife when the holidays comes and our daughter still dont want to go over, i will be at home with her, if they want to tell me im wrong for picky and choicing oh well they are right i wont leave my daughter alone

More power to you. i know what it's like my brother in law makes a lot of statements (usually when trying not to have everyone on him for his misdeeds) and has made accusations not only to me but to all the sister in laws ( I am the only one around he split up his other brothers first marriage and the new sis in law has made it clear she will sue him for defamation again so...). Their parents always believe he does no evil (even while cheating on his wife in their house with their knowledge) and we are always the wrong ones. I say more now then I used to because I can no longer deal with it and my husband has cut off most of our ties as he too is sickened and tired of the BS. It is hard when it splits the home up though and I wish you much luck and it's good that your girl has at least her Daddy to support her, I am sure that makes a very big difference to her.

ive done that before with my wife sister, and been doing it. over 25 yrs. always kept my mouth shut, walked away. tried to get along with people and they still do the same dumb stuff over and over. and dont know why it seem like my son and others have issues with my daughter and why they want to hang out with the dude who tried to rape her, and belive him over her

thanks, ive hard that too she's 25 time for take up for herself, but she's always out number