I have a tiny problem

Can you say stalker? I would delete this person and totaly ignore him if he keeps on contacting you! He sounds like nothing but trouble! He is becoming obsessed and it has to stop! He sounds desperate and needs to be put in his place! I would not keep him as a friend either! If he can't take no for an answer that is his problem not yours. If you don't get rid of him I fear he will get even worse and there will be more trouble! I would not trust him and do away with him as soon as possible! He sounds dangerous!

Be very careful. Tred lightly and perhaps withdraw yourself from the friendship for a time so he can cool off. This sounds to me like potential trouble. Not to mention this guy sounds very immature. If any thing he is in love with the idea of loving someone, possibly you but he can hardly say he is in love with you when he doesn't even know you. He may love the idea and could even love you as the person who you are but other than that I would say that there are major red flags here. Rethink your choice of friendship with this person. Stand back for a month and reassess this situation without contact that is likely daily. As for gifts, maybe he just wants to know where to send them so to get your address. Be very careful. People can appear online as someone they are really not, quite easily, even if they are sending you a video feed of themselves. If you are exchanging video with him, ask him to scratch his head with his left hand like a monkey and see if he can do it. If he can then you know that who you are seeing on the camera is who you are speaking with without a doubt. Also be careful what information you are giving out about yourself. One month is not a long time ago. For him to be speaking of that which he is, in such a short period of time is a sign of bigger problems. Immaturity, possibly someone who gets off on control, desperation and loneliness but above all my friend, this is a major red flag, flowing in front of you for you to take caution.

Ive had this happen before many times. I do not understand how they can say they are in love when we have never met. To me for someone to fall in love they have to actually KNOW you. Not just KNOW OF you. First of all if they never actually saw you on a cam how do they even know thats a real pic of who thy say they are in love with??? IDK it just dont make sence to me. I always figure they are after something. Especially if theres a huge age difference and/or they are from another country. What is scary is when in person someone does this. At least on internet they can not follow you around.

don't accept gifts from him cause i think though he is a very nice person for now , he may feel bad for giving you gifts by the time he realized that you don't like him at all or don't like him at all. so if you can't avoid him at least don't accept the gifts. that alone can give him a hint that you don't like him without being rude. anyways, i just hope that he is really nice person that he will not be rude after the time he realize that you don't like him. there is just a thought in my mind that he is just nice because he is just interest with you but may still hiding his real personality cause he is still trying to hit on you.

This is a really difficult situation to be in because of the fact that you don't want to hurt the guy. That said, you need to let him know clearly how you feel or else there will be no way that any kind of a relationship can come out of it. If you lead him to believe that you are interested in him, it is going to hurt him in a way that he will come to resent you. However, by letting him know how you feel there is also a chance that your friendship will not be able to prevail.

First of all - anything written on the net is just "talk" so the gift thing is meaningless unless you give him your mailing address or agree to meet him. I hope you don't intend to do either. Guys like this are not interested in friendship. In fact they are a little spooky for the reasons you've mentioned. No one falls in love like that, unless there is something a bit wrong with them. I suggest that you give up the friendship idea and put a block on your computer so he can not send you further E-mails. Telling him not to correspond will just encourage him. He is on a mission to win and he will not give up. Stop it now become it becomes a more serious problem for you.

I would definitely not give him an address to send the gifts to. I would not accept them and I would straight out tell him that you want nothing more than to be friends. If he cannot accept this, you will have to quit talking to him and hope he gets the hint.

Yes I have it happen. My ex said he loved me but I thought I fell for him too. It ended quickly. All you can do is gently tell him the truth . You can't make a person fall out of love unless you Really do something Real evil to them and he doesn't deserve it. ps. Tell him to save his money and not to give you gifts.

yeah i agree with what the others say... if you are 100 percent sure that you do not have any feelings for this person, better let him know straight to the point and don't give him encouraging signs that will only make him want to pursue you even more...

the more contact there is the more complication. stop going online to be with him. this is easier done than said. peace .

I noticed you asked about gifts before. Since you know that he wants to be more than friends, you can not accept any gifts at all. If you accept even one gift, even $1 over paypal, it would be equal to you acknowledging his affection. You will accidentally validate his interest in you, in his mind. Further, men can get (being honest) an air of ownership, if you accept the gift. "Hey, I gave you that thing, so you and me are a couple." You can no accept any gifts, or send him any information on how to reach you... period. Stalking is real, and often the men that end up in such things, really don't intend to get there. If you give him your address or any other way to find you, he could get the idea that, "well if we just meet, she'll love me for sure" and then he shows up at your door. "well if I protect her house, she'll see I'm faithful and true", and then he's sitting in a car on the street. I'm speaking from experience of a close friend, who ended up stalked, and sent the guy to prison. Don't go there. Now, I'm not saying this to scare you, the point is, since you do not want this relationship, don't play with fire. I used to have a friend from Seattle. Great gal. After I had known her for several years, she wanted to send me a little gift. I ultimately accepted the gift, and gave her my address because after several years I knew her well enough, and she knew me well enough, that neither of us was interested in anything more than friendship. The sad truth is, you don't have that with this guy, by your own admission. If I was in your place, I would not accept anything, nor give him information to reach me. Second, and this is sad, but it's the truth. There are some people that really just don't get it. They simply don't want to be friends. They want something more, and they will try until the end of time to get you, unless you slam the door closed. I had one girl, long ago, want my phone number, my address, she was going to fly to where I live, and all this crazy stuff. Worse, she was married at the time, which meant she wanted me to commit adultery with her. Yuck. I flat out had to tell her, very directly, that if she didn't back off I would have to completely end our relationship. The odd part about those people is, once they figure out you are not a player in their game, they move right on to someone else and forget you exist. She found another guy in 2 weeks, and last I heard she moved him with him, from another state. Haven't heard from her since. Now, it's possible you can still be friends with this guy. And maybe not. But either way, my suggestion is to be very direct, and very clear. Make sure there is no possible way to mistake your meaning. And do not put up with him trying to come onto you either. If you give in to him being flirty, he'll think there is a chance, regardless of what you say. So like Forest Gump, that's all I have to say about that. Good luck!

Goodness, I just had this problem as well. I'm a female gamer and I game online sometimes...one of my Xbox 360 friends got a mic and started talking to me while we were gaming. Soon enough, he was sending me messages that were extremely flirtatious and all that. I told him I was married, and the poor guy sounded devastated, and said he didn't want to sound like a jerk considering the circumstances, but he was in love with me. Of course, my situation is different in that I'm married, and it sounds like you're perfectly single but have a preference as to who you date (which is great!). Just be honest with him if he asks, but politely decline his gifts. He may say he's in love with you, but he's really in love with the idea of you, in my opinion, just like the guy was with me. There's no way he can truly love me. We haven't even met in person! It's flattering, but I simply don't believe it. You should also tell him when the subject comes up again that he's a great friend to you, and you want to stay friends. You like him too much to lose contact with him, but you don't think dating is in your sights right now. I wish you the best of luck. It surely is an awkward situation...online, if you make someone angry by telling them no, you don't want to date them, but you want to be friends, they may just log off and not get back on for awhile. You want to be polite, gentle, but at the same time, get the message across. Good luck!

He wouldn't be offering gifts if he weren't that interested to take your friendship to a higher level and you wouldn't be accepting anything from him if you do not want to be more than friends. You already explained to him that all you want from him is friendship. Why does he sound like he's in a rush? Does he have a timetable to follow? I suggest that you get to know each other more, see if there's more to that friendship than meets the eye.

Just be very careful with finding anyone online. There is many guy's online that will feed you a bunch of bull just to try and get you to go and meet them and they are just wanting one thing.So, i just recommend you to ignore those that say to you quickly that they are in love with you.Just wait on someone that is slow to wanting a relationship and get to know them as much as possible, and ask questions about there family members and find out stuff in details. You will find the right one in time and it will be someone worth waiting for and you will be happy and have a great relationship and also good communication.

I wished there were more honest people like you in the world. People who don't take advantage of lust-filled young people. It's good you're not leading him on because he's head over heals for you girl. You should tell him straight up as a friend that you don't want anything more than that. If he doesn't accept this and won't lay off warn him that you have no choice but to take him off your friends list for awhile until he's ready to email you and let you know that he's not going to act that way anymore. Things could possibly change later on for you and you could develope different feelings toward him.. who knows? Take care

He sounds like a creep to me. Only a month hes in love with you and wants to buy you gifts? I don't trust online dating anyways to many creeps out there. You don't know who you're talking too. I wouldn't lead him on anymore just tell him straight out how you feel and if that doesn't work then block him and have no further contact with him. Best of luck!

I have encountered one such person on a social networking site, not myLot. This person added me. I really have no qualms about adding another person I don't know, but this incident taught me a lesson. So, the story goes like this. He initially send me a message to ask for work, which I have none to offer. Then the next moment told me that he was in love with me? That is so strange. If he really noticed, my profile says that I'm married. From then on, I blocked him from my friends list! Your situation may be different. But some people have different motives. Although we do hear stories of love via the internet and all, they are true. But can it last. Is it possible for one to fall in love so easily without even meeting the person. If you don't want to date him and just want to keep him as a friend, then do yourself and him a favour, tell him directly. All the best!

I was in a simlar situation some years ago. I had a friend that I had never met. We kept in touch via letters, and when we had been writing eachother for a few months he started talking about marriage and he wanted to send me presents etc. To me he was only a friend, and his words about love, marriage and presents made me feel pretty uncomfortable, because I was only interested in friendship. I told him that I wasn't interested in becoming his girlfriend or his wife, but he didn't understand and he kept on talking about marriage. Eventually I stopped writing to him, because he didn't respect my words about friendship. If I were you I would keep on repeating that I was only interested in friendship and that I didn't feel comfortable receiving his presents. If he doesn't respect that, it might be best to end the friendship.

if you dont have any feelings with him, then go away or dont make any communications with him..stop being connected with him for him to realize that you dont have any feelings for him..

nothing my dear, just say him in plain word that you are not interested in that kind. May be he is mature enough to understand otherwise just tell him to break frienship.This is normal problem that many internet user faces so its solution is also normal. thanks