Spoiled in every sense of the word?

An ex-friend of mine comes to mind. She always had to have her way. She ran her bank acount into the ground, then her husband's, then they had to go bankrupt. But no one could tell her that an $80 hair appointment was something she couldn't afford (just one example). She would harass you and harass you until you agreed with her opinion.

I have actually seen several spoiled kids growing up and getting what they want all the time. I actually pity those kids because it will greatly affect their relationship with other people when they grow up. Discipline plays a big role in a person's life and at times, parents need to sacrifice a little not to raise a spoiled kid. That's if you really care on how your kids will be like in the future.

I have to agree with this theory of yours. As a parent, I know what it is like to want to give your kids everything. As a single mom I wasn't able to do that and I always felt pretty bad that I couldn't do what I really wanted for my kids. They are grown now and they work hard and are very responsible and respectful. I still have a 16 yr old at home and she too holds down a job and is very responsible. I guess us being poor may have been a blessing in disguise because if I could have, I probably would have given my girls the world and then some. I wanted to. Our goal as parents is and should be to raise our children to be independent and good people. I can imagine it is easy to lose sight of that and give them all they want while thinking we are doing good by them.

I think spoiled children grow up. They become grown spoiled brats. They are stunted in some ways. My daughter was watching a friends child one day and she was a brat. I asked her to tidy up the room because she had made a mess and she said she didn't have to because I wasn't her mother. I made her go outside and wait for her mother.

We are in the middle of watching this happen with a set of our nephews. They are so spoiled and undisciplined that it has come to a point my oldest will not go into the house if they are there. She cannot deal with bratty little kids who hit and bite as well as boss and be rude all the time. We go to family occasions and I have to force her to come in to see her grandparents. My youngest has taken up the defensive front and reminds them every time we see them that she will hit them if they touch her, Easter turned into an all out brawl, it was horrible. Now my BIL and his wife do not see their behavior as bad just "spirited" and we can't stand it. We will not go in public with them and avoid inviting them to anything we can get away doing so with. Luckily we live far away and they will not travel to where we are. This is their mother's doing, she was very spoiled growing up and still is by her parents. If she wants it they buy it and at 36 that is seriously ridiculous. She has tantrums and stomps her feet when things don't go her way. I have insulted her several times because I do tell her she is being a child and ask that she not behave that way in front of my kids. I do not let them behave like that and do not want them to think it is OK to do so.

IT really is sad when the older children don't want to take care of their elderly parents. They just wind up putting them in a Old age hospital or a care center. I hope they learn to become more loving and supporting of their parents in their time of need. Because you don't know how much time you have left with them.

I just responded to a discussion similar to this one. Yes I've seen "spoiled brats" get older and act the same, inappropriate ways as they did as toddlers. Geesh, they even have TV shows about rich spoiled brats all grown up who run to daddy for lavish gifts and give nothing of themselves in return to either their parents or the society around them. They do not learn nor desire to learn to care for themselves. Then what happens when the parent isn't able to care for them? A lot of them get great inheritances and squander it away then are lost. A "spoiled" adult can be a very dangerous person for our society. As I said in my other post. A child may yell, "I hate you" while the spoiled adult may just shoot you.

I have an aunt who was a spoiled child. When her and my mother's mother got old and could no longer take care of herself, my mother (who my grandmother did not always treat very well) was the one who cared for her. My aunt wouldn't do much of anything, and when she was asked to do something, she'd agree to but gripe and complain if she thought my mother had left her there too long. I don't want to give the impression that my aunt is not a nice person. She can be very nice, but she is spoiled and continues to be spoiled even now by her family. As a result, she has become totally dependent on others.

Oh Yeah. I know a person like that. My brother-in-law. He can't take responsibility at all and he acts like he is all that. Saying that, it's the parents (or in this case, the grandparents) who are to blame as much as him. I don't think he'll ever grow up.