Is it possible for five family members to stay quiet in an apartment?
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
May 7, 2010 9:21am CST
I know that was a dumb question. But I am asking you this because the guy downstairs feels this way. If there are five members, then you know that there will be some kind of noise. He has got to me kidding me, if he expects it to be quiet. I have an 8, 4 and 2 year old. They are not going to want to sit down all day long.. Speaking of noise, last night, they were fighting. A woman was yelling at the top of her lungs. She kept calling someones name to let her inside of the apartment. And I heard a lot of movement. My husband said that he saw a computer monitor on the ground outside. He said that it was thrown out there. I guess the woman did this. My husband started to call the police on them last night. I told him not to. I did not know that it was my neighbors from downstairs that was doing all of this arguing. I thought that it was the girl that lived underneath my neighbor's, that lives in front of me. And he wants it quiet, but yet they were fighting..
I always say, when a person tries to create problems in someones home, they end up creating problems in their own home. The hole that this man has dug for my family, he has now fallen into this same very hole.
I always say, when a person tries to create problems in someones home, they end up creating problems in their own home. The hole that this man has dug for my family, he has now fallen into this same very hole.3 people like this
19 responses
@SViswan (12051)
• India
7 May 10
Yes,I've seen that happen before too. A neighbour once told me she heard us arguing about something. And I have to admit that it had gotten out of hand. I made sure it didn't happen again. The door to the master bathroom was open that time and the noise echoes down even when we talk...so I can imagine how it might have sounded with us arguing. But just two weeks back, this same neighbour was heard shouting and arguing with her husband out in the corridor where everyone could hear. But the lady called me up and apologized for the noise(which I had not heard because I had the television was on) and also apologized because she was the one who had pointed out to us about the noise when we were arguing.
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@CynicalStephen (283)
• New Zealand
7 May 10
Ha-ha :) My neighbor complained that my family was to loud sometime ago. He said that we "open the garage door too much" and "talk too loudly". He needs his sleep apparently.
It made me feel guilty , especially since it was like a week after we had moved into the home. It made me feel like I was intruding into the community they had made.Like they didn't want us.
But for some reason he never complained again . I still watch T.V late at night and haven't made a conscious effort to be quiet. So just let you're neighbor put it with it. "Suck it up , you Mary Sue" :) As long as you're keeping the noise at a reasonable level , everyone will be fine.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
8 May 10
Hi, CynicalStephen. That is how it was for us too. When we first moved in we had nothing but complaints of two issues. One, water was leaking onto the downstairs neighbors ceiling. The second one was the noise issue. I am glad that I am not the only person that had to went through this. I felt not wanted too, like we did not belong here. I think that it is sad for a neighbor to make a newcomer resident feel that way.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
10 May 10
If anyone says "yes" to this question, pleeeeaassseee let me know how..lol No, it is impossible. I just spent all weekend with my 8 y/o son and my nieces children who are 5 and 9 and I can't count how many times their noise level went sky high. Right now I am enjoying the peace and quiet of just my son here playing a quiet game.
As for creating problems only to have those same problems hit you, I too believe this. My one neighbor who use to be snobby because of her money, is so much now that her business went under. Watch how you treat people, it will come back to you..
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
7 May 10
I assume the guy below you is single and lives alone. In a way you have to understand where he's coming from. He pays good money for his apartment and certainly shouldn't have to deal with noise from all his neighbors.
This is exactly why I refuse to live in an apartment. I know my kids are loud, and even just walking through the house they sound like a herd of elephants. I don't want to disturb my neighbors with their noise.
When I was younger we lived in an apartment above someone else. There was a young girl who lived below us, and we could hear her running through her house too. It was very distracting, especially when she was running through the house late at night while we tried to relax or sleep or watch movies.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
7 May 10
He is not single and he has a lady friend that he is staying with. I am not sure if both of them pay rent or just her alone. We can't help where we live at. We have to live where we can afford until things change financially. Believe me if we could have it our way, we would live in a house. In fact that is what my husband has always wanted for us before we even got married. We are not trying to make noise on purpose around this man. My kids are young and not adults. So it is expected and acceptable to hear noise. An apartment is not a house. There is a little boy that lives with them. I don't know if that is his real son or not. I do know that he is hardly at the house. Even when the lady goes to work, I think that she takes him with her. That is very strange to me. He should have the right to be a father to this child, whether he helped create him or not. But I don't get into this matter, because this is none of my business to. What I am saying here is, if he has a child that is very young, he should know that a child will want to play and make noise. This little boy is very quiet and he is the only child. It makes perfect sense, he don't know how to be a father. He does not have any patience, which will mess him up in the long run. The woman that he is staying with is pregnant now, and I want to see how he can handle the newborn baby when it is born. This baby will be making noise and crying. If he has such a short temper now, imagine how it will be for him after the baby is born.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
8 May 10
I myself live in a mobile home for a couple of reasons. 1. we can't afford a house, 2. we refuse to live in an apartment.. though around here apartments are more expensive than trailers. However a trailer offers most of the same comforts as a home, as in I don't have neighbors above or below me... and I'm allowed my cats here, which I wouldn't be allowed to have them in an apartment.
When we do visit someone in an apartment though I make sure my kids understand that our friends have neighbors who we might disturb if we make too much noise, so we must walk softly and speak in our indoor voices.
I don't mean to offend you, but from your post it appears to me as if you're not really taking this guy's feelings into consideration. Sure maybe you find him rather uptight, but from an outsider's point of view it seems like he should be entitled to peace and quiet in his own home.
Alas, this is the dilemma with apartments, or anywhere you live really. You can't choose who moves in next door, or upstairs....
@himanshuorange (1145)
• India
7 May 10
hey that normally happens in an apartment but what i believe is that when a person see somthing abnormal then he should try to inquire instead of sitting inside the house and thats what you guys have done.......great job take care.....
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
7 May 10
You live in a different part of the world. Here in the US if she or her husband had went out and gotten in the middle of what was going on or tried to stop them from fighting then the fight would have been turned on them! That is why many times even the police do not get involved in "domestic violence cases" they wind up being the victim!
I'd have hate to have heard from my friends husband today that I would not hear from her again for a week or more or worse yet not at all because she was killed because of going to see what was going on downstairs.
This is the sad truth of what happens here! Also, it is sad that many people do not feel they can get involved in what is going on around them. Or even try to help out.
You reprimand my friend in your sly way and think you are doing something good or oh so smart...when in fact you are not. You are just showing how much you do not know of how things work in this country.
I am sorry that I am coming down on you for this, but I am so tired of people saying things to be hurtful to others when they do not have all of the facts!
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@sachin1975 (2)
• India
7 May 10
If you will stay quite in apartment then you not human being so being human being it is not possible for five members to stay quite in an apartment.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
7 May 10
Hello sachin welcome to mylot...you are very right about what you said in this case. lol
Keep posting dear but try to make your response longer so you will get something for it. Try to make it 2 lines or more. Happy mylotting dear.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
8 May 10
Serves them righ
t…I really don’t understand some people… I mean its obvious that a normal family with kids would have their usual noises… I guess they should look for a house beside the cemetery and have zombies for neighbours
t…I really don’t understand some people… I mean its obvious that a normal family with kids would have their usual noises… I guess they should look for a house beside the cemetery and have zombies for neighbours1 person likes this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 May 10
hi cream 97 maybe if there is enough people causing all sorts of
noise one he will leave you alone and twokhe just might move
out and wouldn't that be really great? I am sure you a nd your
family would not cry to see him move out.I also would report these
other people fighting and carrying on so. or call the police I w ould not chance any problems later, I would let the police handle it.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
8 May 10
i don't think there is a quiet time where there are five people in a house, aside from they are humorous people, if there are kids, sometimes it will a riot when they are playing. we will have a hard time controlling the kids when they start to fight with each other. but seeing mature people fighting, it can be told that they are uneducated persons who should be living in the mountains.
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@celticeagle (166760)
• Boise, Idaho
8 May 10
I think you guys need to start looking for a different place to live. These people sound demented and mentally impaired. The poor woman. This fellow that is so sensitive to noise needs to invest in some ear plugs and No0Doz. I think people who live in apartments have to be considerate and understand that there is going to be SOME degree of noise.
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@OYGAK2005 (371)
• Saudi Arabia
10 May 10
hi ...cream ,,,i think for to live in an apartment people that to make a noice hard to avoid . particually the famly that with more kids... the children makes noice not to acceptbale. but that the adults makes noice disrupit your rest time at the midnight it could be unbearble for must of people. there are good you may with their talking of this issue and give their more chances then to understand them and their stuations...i think throght this way you will not only got a quite space but also got more friendly communites.....have a great day ...
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
8 May 10
hi,it was a nice quote u types at the last .A very old saying.Anyway coming to the problem an apartment is a combined thing and though individual all should be on a one decision.We live in society and definetly we understadn each other.Children are children we cant stop them however necessary guidance is to be given.Parents are responsible for everything.So anything happens only parents are targetted.As u said if anyone tries to make a problem will definetly be in the problem.
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@snowqueen200802 (1463)
• United States
8 May 10
I really don't know how you all could do that unlest you and yours our made from stone. I pray that it will get peaceful for u all, after all that's your home as well. Take care my friend
Snowqueen
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@liuzhihua906 (21)
• China
8 May 10
i think u can find a chance and have a small chat with that wife or man,in a sly way,give them a recommandation that they make less noise...
well,i don't think it's possible that the make absolutely no noise...u know,children are born with the nature of noise...
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
7 May 10
This goes back to two of the things I always say, what goes around, comes around and you get back what you put out but it comes back at least in 3 times fold.
Meaning if you put out bad you will get back bad...if you put out good you will get back good. Do something good for someone or be good to people and that good will come back to you.
The same with the bad!
And I have found that no even one person can be quiet all of the time. So NO, 2, 3, 4, or 5 can not be quiet! Not at all times or even close to it.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
7 May 10
lol =D IT's only possible if there are no kids in the house, and all of them are either adults or elderly.. IF not, how can children ever be kept quiet??
I think that neighbour of yours is living in the wrong place.. IF he likes privacy or peace so much, then he should be buying a house, rather than an apartment.. lol =D
All i can say, dun be too calculative towards him, and let him do whatever he wants.. at the end of the day, so long as u dun budge, there's nothing much he can do.. hehe
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
7 May 10
lol =D IT's only possible if there are no kids in the house, and all of them are either adults or elderly.. IF not, how can children ever be kept quiet??
I think that neighbour of yours is living in the wrong place.. IF he likes privacy or peace so much, then he should be buying a house, rather than an apartment.. lol =D
All i can say, dun be too calculative towards him, and let him do whatever he wants.. at the end of the day, so long as u dun budge, there's nothing much he can do.. hehe
@vorgzangief (54)
• United States
8 May 10
Its very possible to stay quiet in a apartment. As long as you don't spend most of your time there. Most of the time I'm outside and tire myself out, but the time I get home, all i do is sleep.
