i'm so depressed right now

Hi Romelyn. Nothing is really predictable in this world. And, nothing is permanent but change. One thing I learned in life is that, at the end of the day, our problems are still being solved, so why worry too much? I've been in situations where I thought I couldn't get out with. But as soon as I give my problems up to the One who knows everything, things just fall in right places. Are you resigning because of the pressure in the office? What kind of standards are these that you are mentioning here? Are you not happy with your work anymore? You know, you can always find another employment, but you can never be sure if you will also be happy in your new work. If you are having problems with people with your current job, you can never be sure that you will not meet the same kind of people in the new workplace. What I am trying to say is that instead of escaping or avoiding particular scenarios in the office, why don't you just face it, process your thoughts and feelings and try to stretch yourself out. Finding new employment may not always be a good solution. We don't have control over other people's attitude and behavior. But we do control ourselves. Instead of expecting others to behave the way we want them, we can change our paradigm about this person or a situation. If your current job makes you depress and not happy anymore, then go out. But do not expect that these things will not happen again in your new environment. I have been jumping from one job to another; and what I found out is that, in each workplace, there people who can agree with and not agree with. And work sucks at a certain level. My regret is that, I could have made a good track record of employment had I not been jumping from one employment to another in the search for a "happier working place."

Please understand that this happens to everbody once in a while and it is not only your problem. I was so depressed with my personal and professional life a week ago. I took a week leave from work and went home to my village to spend time with my parents. That helped me to destress a lot. Somehow I managed the situation and now I am hearing good news about my personal life. So, things will start working for you too. Please be patient and wait for some time. Try to be in the same job and search for a different, but better job. Getting a good job is 50% luck. Good luck to you.

Life is full of compromises and you too will have to make your sacrifice to keep at least one part of your life happy. You’ll have to choose whether you money or family or job or type of job what keeps you happy. I’m going thru a similar tight spot right now…the company where I’m working for 12 years now, will be shifting to a place in a few months time where it would be very far for me. Now just understand that I’ve been working here for 12 years, the pay is good, the job is good and its near my residence. In a few months time, I’ll have to give up all these just coz I have to spend time with my family, my child…if I go that far, I’ll get hardly a few hours for my child which will eventually make me unhappy, no matter the money I earn. So at the age of 37, I’m now looking for another job. Whatever I’ve got till now, the pay is not that good and of course a new office is always a new environment which will need a lot of adjustments…yet, I’ll be happy if its near my home so that I can come home early in the evening. Similarly, you too will have to have an honest talk with yourself, evaluate your options and see what makes you happy.

if its anything like here in the states you dont want to quit. you will not get another if its like here. unemployment is unbelievable. my son often gets depressed about his job. he has a very nasty dirty job. but he thinks about all the things hes accomplished, looks around at what he dont want to loose and goes to work. glad he has a job because so many dont and are loosing everything

My dear, I have gone through the situation where you are now and during those years, it was so easy for me to leave my job and get another job till one day I found myself jobless. Sometimes our work can cause depression especially if it's done in routine,but what you can do to combat this is everytime you feel depressed think of the excitement you had when you first started with your job or try to discuss this with your supervisor maybe she could assign you another work that interest you. And for your life always count your blessings,think of the happy moments you had with your family, your friends and your officemates. And talk to someone, bring out what you feel and of course more than anything else learn to communicate with God and I assure you everything will be okay.

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Maybe you're just having a rough week? See if next week goes smoother than this one has. That's how I think about it by the end of the week when I've just had enough pressure from the stresses of my job. I work in a nursing home and if it's not the pushy, demanding elders always being miserable, then it's the staff walking in during the morning all cranky looking. It somewhat makes me feel like I've been doing something wrong. It's very difficult to get praise for something good that I've done around my work. Sometimes when my partner and I get an extra person up in the wheelchair and dressed, we get an occasional "Thank You" but that's about it. I think I take things personally to the heart and I think it's something I've done but I never think that perhaps that person is having a rough morning and just not in a mood to be cheery. My paycheques and benefits are what keep me at this job. Take care

That's a tough situation to be involved with but what I would say is, you should not remain in this job if you are unhappy! This could lead to health problems in the long term and that wouldn't do you any good. I think you should try and find another job, something that probably is less stressful. Another thing for you to do if you don't do this already is to try and spend some quiet time with your thoughts, I'm referring to meditation! This is supposed to relax you and keeps you in good health as well as sound mind. I don't know how much spare time you have to do this though. The most important thing is that you find some happiness for yourself, you want to become content and satisfied with your life. I wish you well, things will improve for you in due course I'm sure. Andrew

do you have anything you can fall back on? Any hobby that you enjoy, have a passion for, and may be able to generate income from over time? I say you should look into pursuing a field that you are really interesting in for sure. Just don't kick your current job to the curb, at least till you are certain that you can stand on your own two feet financially without it.

Romelyn, you have taken your first step just by talking about it and that's my advice; regarding your job, talk to your supervisor and colleagues; regarding your personal life, talk to your family and friends. And just for a short period indulge in your depression and do whatever it is that you want to do, for example; if you want to sleep the whole day do it, take a sick day or two, depression is an illness. Just remember not to over do it, I don't want you to lose your job because you're not showing up for work. And go see your doctor if you haven't done so yet.

you have not mentioned what kind of problems you facing in your job.

You can resign and look for other jobs. But piece of advice, I know finding a job is really hard so if you really do want to resign, make sure that you have a job waiting for you. What if you dont get a job after resigning? I'm sure it'll be very hard. So think about it first. Remember, there is no easy job that pays well. Just consider the hardships in your current job as a challenge for you to be more strong and competitive in life. Good luck! Happy mylotting!

well Dear dont worry every thing will be alright!i am all alone even i am having this depression as my wife has left me its has been 2 years i am alone she is working some where with her colleaguse!!the time will change,dont worry i am also doing job,but i have to fight and now i have adjusted with the atmosphere!!

Hey we all feel down sometimes... In fact , I think I've got Bi polar disorder. I sometimes feel really sad but when I do succeed (like get excellence in a test) i'm all motivated to work harder and enjoy life. You should concentrate on the positives and learn to calm yourself. Don't take everything too seriously :) Enjoy life.

Hello romie, I'm sorry to hear your going through a depression right now-I know it hurts,I've suffered myself. About your job-I would not resign instead look for another job whithout resigning & talk to your supervisor,it could be possible that some pressure on the job could be relieved & that may relieve some stress on your personal life. I wish you all the best of luck & you are in my prayers. |:)

According to nerves expert Dr Weekes,the first and the foremost thing one has to do in this situation is not take any decision.More so a decision about something as important as the job.Then you might ask what to do then.According to the same doctor, one has to accept the condition totally one is in.When in depression one might experience strange and bizarre feelings and one might also experience strange bodily experiences.One has to accept them totally.Nothing happens.After accepting fully the facts one has to let some time pass till such a time that being depressed doesn't bother.Once we begin to accept the fact of being depressed, the effects of depression, both mental and physical, disappear slowly and gives some relief.If the feelings of depression are overwhelming one can be on mild sedation purely on the advice of the doctor till the condition becomes bearable.That's it. The time takes its own course mostly positive and for better without much of our intervention.Good luck!

your just burned out with the things you do everyday as you feel like your not moving up and that you feel like your stuck and your not happy. just try to relax, find time to have vacation for a week, enjoy life. or try to think of your salary as once you have it im sure you will forget everything, try to think those jobless people whose still need to wake up early to apply for job and yet they cant find one, or those who work under the sun to work in order to earn. its not easy to find work and be jobless, and all job are the same, even if you transferred to other company and other position, after few months you will be bored again coz you still doing the same things there. you need to explore life. just try to understand and love your job and make it as part of your life coz if you always think how hard it is and that your not happy then you will really feel that everyday. just ignore it and continue and think of the salary day.

I was actually in the same situation as you are Romelyn and believe me looking for another job is not that easy. I would say that you try to work out a solution for your problems in your job. Maybe you can ask around from colleagues for help and support who knows they have a work around that might help you. If all else fail then try to find another job but please continue working while searching for a new job. Happiness in very important and I believe that you will be more productive as a person if you are happy with what you are doing. Take it lightly and don't be so hard on yourself. Take time to smell the roses. If you have time maybe you can visit the beach or the mountains to get some fresh air and relax. Best of luck to you!

In this case only don't kill yourself.I don't use any pills.