Responding to Responders.

United States
May 8, 2010 6:45am CST
I'm interested in how my fellow mylot members would handle this situation, because its happened to me alot, and I just never am quite sure what to do. Ok so this is the situation. Lets say you start a discussion, and you're getting comments, and you're commenting back, but someone says something you just really don't know how to respond back to. Do you ignore their comment, ask them what they mean, or just attempt to decipher what they've said, and post something back?
6 people like this
16 responses
@umadper (947)
• India
8 May 10
hi,red,this will happen to every member at one or other stage.In my case,i used to clear the discussion,till they stop comment...if sometimes,the doubts are beyond my knowledge,i ask them clarification or just i will mention,i too don't know...
• United States
8 May 10
that seems to be the common response so far. Does it usually work?
• United States
8 May 10
lol ok. I guess this is a perfect example. What do you mean?
@umadper (947)
• India
8 May 10
hi,the response will be according to the depth and meaningful of the discussion.There will be only one correct answer...no two correct answers..who ever says 2+2=4..any country..any race..whatever the qualification..
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
9 May 10
I try to understand it and give back a comment
• United States
9 May 10
And if you can't understand it, then what do you do?
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
10 May 10
just copy what they write
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
9 May 10
It depends on my mood, what they responded. Sometimes if I think they are trying to express something that I'm just not getting then I will ask questions and try to get a better understanding. Actually that is usually what I do. It is very very rare that I just skip by a response.
• United States
9 May 10
So I guess its always good to have patience. I don't have much of that I guess. I should work on it.
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
9 May 10
Genuine mylotters know right away if you are just mumbling. So do not attempt to decipher. Ask for clarification. That way, the discussion could become healthier. As to the transient mylotters, some of their responses do not hold ground. They are probably just looking for big earnings and are typing words that comes to mind. Those you can simply say hi and goodbye!
• United States
9 May 10
yes, I know exactly the kind of people you are talking about. sometimes they entertain me, sometimes they annoy me.
@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
8 May 10
Hmmm. I think its better to ask what they really mean than just trying to decipher what they'v said. Because if you just try to analyze it, you might just give the wrong response, or even hurt the feelings of others because you thought the wrong way. Ignoring, would not be a good idea, because it would hurt the other person, especially when they are expecting a response from you.
• United States
8 May 10
And what if they are the type that speaks in "CODE" That is where they are attempting to seem beyond your intelligence, by talking in circles, so that when you ask what do you mean? they will just respond the same way they did before? Do you just keep asking them?
@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
10 May 10
Oh really?.. Hmmm... I think its really because of language gap barrier. THey mean one thing and could mean another thing to another person who really speaks the language. That hard. If you don't really understand them and could not really try to decipher what they're saying, maybe you should just try to tell them that you dont understand them.
• Philippines
9 May 10
i think it would be better to ask them what they really mean, to clarify the matter..however, there are responders who just go in circles, never really pinpointing the issue they want to point to, which would test your patience..so, sometimes, this style will not apply to responders like that..it would be better to just ignore them..especially if you are short in patience in dealing with people like these..it would be better for us to just let it go..rather than sacrifice our own sanity trying to decipher something that is intended to confuse us in the first place..lol..
• United States
9 May 10
lol yeah. sometimes I do think they're only intention is to confuse, so they appear intelligent or something.
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
8 May 10
Hi redhot; This happened to me last week! With my discussion regarding Puppy to Adult. There was a one liner response with about four words. One word I do not think was even a word, much less of the English language. I commented, asking what they meant. Later, another response from the same person with another one liner response, with something again, that I simply just didn't understand. At that point, I just left it. So, I will usually ask first. If I can not understand the second response, I will just ignore it.
• United States
8 May 10
ya that's pretty much what I do. I ask, or try to figure it out, and if the response is still confusing I'll just let it go.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
8 May 10
There are times when the most intelligent reply, is to remain silent! I've been, on occasion, tempted to lash out at a myLot member with a knee-jerk reciprocation guaranteed to know knock the socks off - But then on second thought, I've backed off upon realizing that this person is entitled to his/her opinion. If the response was made with intelligence, and consideration I'll give an answer if at all possible!
• United States
9 May 10
Haha. I try my hardest to remain neutral, to see all sides of something, and have an open mind, but sometimes I'm just like ok your opinion is sucky (sucky long time). But even if I throw a fit, I usually regain my composure, and bring it back to a discussion. Unless its just someone trying to get a reaction with their comment, then I might just ignore.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
9 May 10
I use the smilies when that happens, especially this one Then I might say 'erm if I could understand what you are trying to say I might agree with it too ' I had one today who only read the title grrrr. My disussions was about the media spreading rumours and gossip and the title was 'did you hear that one? So this user comes along and responds with 'yes I did', I just commented with 'wanna share? ' Those sort hardly ever come back and we don't earn for what they post anyway. We might just as well make the best of their offerinf and type something that goes along with it.
• United States
9 May 10
Ah ya. lol "yes I did" Its funny sometimes the comments you get. I get alot of ones that aren't even on topic. I should start using smiley faces more.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
9 May 10
I would definitely not ignore any members comment posted on my discussion topic .I am sure one can at least thank and add some of ones own views generally if not directly respond to the comment. I have had a couple of members come out with comments that were off topic, and I just pointed it out and the member responded back he/she had not realised lol, it may not be intentional but happens sometimes when you are in a hurry to post ...All the best and happy mylotting
• United States
9 May 10
ah yes, that's true. that's happened to me before. I'm posting on one topic, but thinking about another thing, and type what i'm thinking.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 May 10
I usually ask them a question that might clarify to me what was meant. I may also just thank them.
• United States
9 May 10
ya I do that alot. Thanks for the comment. So note to anyone that comments on my topics If i respond to you "thanks for the comment." it means I don't know what to say back to you.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
9 May 10
Its the most common thing one can face in here as there are people from countries where english isn't their primary language.so some misunderstandings crawl in.I would try to get them else i ask them to make it clear so i can attend them with a suitable comment .great day.
• United States
9 May 10
Does that work usually?
@phoenix8606 (4942)
8 May 10
well, i have never had a situation like that but I guess taht if some one do that, I will definitely ask him/her why is he/she think so!
• United States
8 May 10
ah yes that's good. Don't actually ask them what they are talking about, but why they have that opinion, so that maybe when explaining why they made their comment you'll be able to figure out what they were originally trying to say.
8 May 10
That really would depend on how you see politeness. If you're feeling polite, ask what they're on about. If you can't be bothered, ignore. Simple days :)
• United States
8 May 10
I have trouble with it sometimes. If its a short response I can take the time to comment back to them correctly, but if its really long and drawn out, i'm thinking I don't have time for this, I have other things I need to do.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
8 May 10
It seems like you had posted many discussions yet you cannot handle how to reply to those who made comments or those who responded to your discussion...Everyone here of course are entitled to their own opinion, so you need to be open minded in a way to take any kind of comment whether you agree or not. Consider also the fact that members of Mylot is interracial with different beliefs and culture. If the comment is quite offensive, then do not take it badly on your part because if you respond to it provocatively may lead to argument or he/she may give you a negative rate or even report you to the admin. Just take each comment lightly. If you are unable to understand the comment, then do not hesitate to ask or let them explain or decipher or even expand their comments because that way may lead to a good or longer discussion with such respondent.
• United States
8 May 10
So that is what you do?
@zralte (4178)
• India
8 May 10
Oh well, of course the best way is to ask them to explain it. But if I am honest, I don't do that. I just ignore it. I think there are some responses which are worth responding back to, and then there are some which does not need to be responded at all. Especially in a case like you have mentioned - the fakeducated. btw, I love the fakeducated bit. I think it can be applied to many people I know.
• United States
8 May 10
lol ya sometimes I just ignore it too. I'm just like what do i do? ignore it! yeah the fakeducated people that post these really long responses, that make you think wow this person knows alot, and if you just skim through the frikin story you think, this person is pretty smart. But if you take the time to actually read what they put you realize its all a bunch of nonsense, that doesn't mean anything. Or sometimes they're just repeating what you said in the topic, just in a long drawn out version.