Is there a perfect relationship?
By roscelcruz
@roscelcruz (82)
May 8, 2010 7:27am CST
I'm always wondering if there's still a perfect relationship nowadays. Base on my "experiences", i think there is no perfect relationship at all. What I mean in the word perfect is, you're living with someone you truly love and he love's you like you do. That is what I mean to say... So if anybody there is living with a perfect relationship, CONGRATULATIONS! And goodluck! GOD bless!
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26 responses
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
8 May 10
roscelcruz,
Honestly, is a perfect relationship that predictable and restricted to just living with someone you truly love and that the other party loves you like you do?
I am sorry, but I just beg to differ here, as there's just many ways we look at things, issues and the way we live our lives. A perfect relationship is never a birthright and it just needs two different people to come and work together. Ever resolving and evolving within to accommodate and adapt to, one another.
So, I always ask this - Why must we define love in a worldly sense? Would having that answer solve any conundrum in the first place?
Instead, why not ask what's our own definition of love, what it means to you and how does having that perception benefit your love relationship?
Why do we want to generalize Love when it's boundaries are infinite?
Why do we want to cage the spirit of love with a one-size-fits-all definition when the dimension of love is probably as broad as the span of this universe?
Don't ask what's love - go experience it and figure it out in your own words... in your own voice... in your own emotions and in your own soul.
So, remember loving someone a lot is one thing - making it work is another.
@maxyl12 (236)
• Philippines
9 May 10
for me... yes there may be a perfect relationship... it depends how u understands it or how other people see to it... or how they will deal with... there can be no perfect relationship if you cant accept imperfect... loving for your imperfect makes perfects.. its so confusing,, but that what love is all about... can explain.. it just happen.... that's perfect... Peace
@beginnerblogger (3)
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9 May 10
"perfect" is based on how we believe and see to it..There is no literally perfect but only GOD...in relationship,God will put hassles to it together with the strength for us to surpass everything..so if we believe and we see a relationship in a perfect way then it will go perfectly...it is on our perception..:-)
@roscelcruz (82)
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13 May 10
Actually, you're right! that's what i'm talking about! in my case, i had many experiences having a relationship and all of it are not good! that's why, i made this discussion! thank you for your response!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
11 May 10
My guy and I love each other but we don't live together. It is perfect for us.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
10 May 10
Hello roscelcruz... welcome to MyLot!...I just think relationships are as good as we make them...but perfect? I don't know...we all have diferent espectations in life so a relationship or marrige may be very good and one may think quite perfect...and that is probably as good as it get!...when you love someone you love this person faults and all!
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
12 May 10
I do not think any relationship is perfect.... I think if you have a spouse or significant other that you love and truly loves you back that one is doing good.....One that treats you with respect and you have no problem treating them the same way......
@pabreen (237)
• Philippines
10 May 10
Based on your definition of perfect relationship."living with someone you truly love and he loves you like you do" I could say that there are couples who experience this, but very rare. In my case me and my husband lived together for 23 years, we love and respect each other. During these years we have disagreements but we try to iron things out before the next day. We are open with our feelings and we understand each other's imperfections.
@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
9 May 10
We are living in an imperfect world so we can't expect something or anything to be perfect. I think every couple has their own set of trials and challenges and what i important is both parties work on this and try to work out the relationship. That really depends on both parties if they want to work it out or not. By just loving each other is not a weigh to tell that a relationship is perfect it is how you work it out that matters the most. Hope this helps.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
9 May 10
People aren't perfect but when you said if there is such as a perfect relationship based on your definition, well indeed there is. My parents are a good example to that, even if they have fights (well all normal relationships do have petty fights) but they still do love each other.
You see when you love unselfishly and the center of the relationship is God, that makes the relationship lasting. If both couple has a deep rooted love for God and is fearing God, it will be a reflection of what God designed for love. Our parents are our role model.
Now that I am married, I do have a loving hubby and I also do the same thing for him. We do have our fights or quarrels but we see to it that we settle our differences before the sun sets down on us. We should be aware of the stingers in a relationship. Keep in mind the things that your partner likes, and avoid the things he/she dislikes. Give compliment to each other and always help each other. Pride should not step in so that it cannot be a foothold for the enemy to come in and destroy the relationship. We know how the devil wanted every family to break apart as well as the relationship of couples. So we must keep God as the center of that relationship, the one who will hold us no matter what will happen, He is there.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
9 May 10
For me yes but the attitude of your partner is bad because of the time now is imperfect and we have a sin because of Adam and eave.
@HeadKiller (11)
• Singapore
9 May 10
I think , according to Jesus , everything in this world is perfect , what does perfect really mean? That is a hard question
@Frostyboy (39)
• Denmark
9 May 10
Of course there is perfect realationships. There just aren't so many of them. Tody everybody tells the truth about eachother, even if they dont really care about the truth.
@charylady (419)
• Philippines
9 May 10
i don't think there is such a thing as a perfect relationship. we are humans, each with our own flaws and imperfections. good relationships have to be worked on.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
9 May 10
There is no perfect relationship in this world, to make it one the two of you must work for it, there is always ups and downs in a relationship too. It's the two of you only know how to manage it to become it strong. Even if someone truly loves you thats not still an assurance that you had already a perfect relationship.
@Kisha14 (117)
• Philippines
9 May 10
I dont think there is a "PERFECT" word for something it is a matter of satisfaction. We are not created as a perfect being but we are created in the likeness. In the relationship there are ups and down,relationship cant be happy always there are times we have fights and jealousy. Well its up on how you handle relationship but for me there is no perfect relationship.
@screwdriver (643)
• Philippines
9 May 10
For me, it depends on how you define the word "perfect". Its between two people loving each other. For me, its a perfect relationship when you are together for a very long time and that you are still together, getting stronger. The way you define the word perfect is exactly what I meant. Arguments, Quarrels and Misunderstanding is part of the relationship. Those things are part of your relationship to make it perfect.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
8 May 10
No relationship is perfect. Relationships need love and care and commitment to last. Seeking perfection from another person is a great burden to bear. Disappointment will come if expectations are too high. Put your heaart in a relationship and your rewards will be there for you.
@stephbond89 (359)
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8 May 10
I don't think there is any such thing as perfect in any respect in our world, there is always something which you can fault.
But when it comes to a relationship, I think mine is pretty close to perfect. :) We get on well and although we argue sometimes, we are still best friends!!
@chocolatelle (277)
• Philippines
9 May 10
I think nothing is really perfect in this world. But if some people think that their life IS perfect, it's because they're contented with what they already have. They're happy with the way things are and they just accept it as part of their lives. When it comes to relationships, yes there are no perfect one i guess but if you're contented with the one your with right now then congratulations! you found you're soulmate lol. but if you ONLY see nothing but flaws on that person you're with then maybe it's time to for the two of you to go separate ways. :D
@mavieserrano728 (670)
• Philippines
8 May 10
For me, I don't think that there is a perfect relationship. We all have our flaws, weaknesses but as long as you and your partner accepts each other and respect each others individuality. A relationship does need to be perfect. It's up to the individuals involved in it on how to nurture and strengthen the bond.