Single Parents

I understands what she feels...it's because of her passed experience. But trust me oneday, if she could find another man that would love her deeply and accept her for who she is. She would probably says, she was wrong..having a family with beautiful and handsome children is truly good enough to be treasured forever.

its better to have someone with us to help us or to be our partner in bringing up our children and its a good thing for the kids to have a complete family... but what if the guy is irresponsible? and he's just bringing troubles and not really a help for you instead he's a burden? hehe i guess it depends on the situation. but i am not in favor of just finding someone to impregnate me and then just become a single parent. its still better to have a child inside marriage (well just my opinion) but in my case, i only have a husband but don't have a child yet! we are still waiting for the blessing to come and i will be more happy to have a baby and bring him//her up with my husband...

Hi screwdriver, I hope your friend is a really strong woman. If not she will be. I raised my 4 girls on my own due to divorce. It wasn't a way I would have chosen. We did alright and they all turned out very well. Still it would have been so much better for them I think if they'd had a loving and devoted father and two parents who loved each other. I know I would have been less stressed and had more time for quality time with them. I don't know your friends past but I assume she has had her heart broken a couple of times or more. I do think if a woman goes into this sort of decision with the mindset of raising the child alone then it is probably better than thinking you will have someone helping you and discovering to your great disappointment that you will not. I have seen some awesome single parents so it isn't an impossible task. Your friend if she wants to raise a child completely on her own should make sure the guy she chooses as a father is on the same page as she is or it could lead to future problems for her. Has she considered adoption?

It looks like your friend is quite depressed right now. Has she just been involved in a broken relationship? She seems so. Tell your friend that since she's so overwhelmed of how she feels right now, tell her not to make any decisions out of impulse or do anything that may have a drastic change in her life. She's got lonely and still in the process of "trying" to accept rejection from someone who didn't see her worth. She probably thinks that having a baby will be a good consolation and she thinks that she'll never feel alone again. Well I'm telling you, if she gets someone to get her laid, get her pregnant and leave her, the more she feels less of herself because imagine how heartbreaking it will be if she sees her tummy getting bigger, going to her OB for her prenatal without the father of her child by her side and giving birth without a husband's hand to hold onto. That would be so devastating. Imagine also while her tummy gets bigger, the more she will realize how she loves her child to the point of her wanting to give everything to her baby and one of which would be a COMPLETE FAMILY which she may not have because out of impulse, she went over some guy just to get her pregnant. I know how it works because my best friend is a single mom who has the same old story.

i have a husband but since he is away most of the time (he works abroad) i may be considered a "single parent." i can say that being a single parent is hard. having a husband as companion and support is important and much better.

I have been a single mother before, after my marriage broke up and I found it really difficult on my own. I think it is helpful to have someone to talk to and to share the problems with and the hard work of bringing up the child. But it is possible to be a good single parent of course.

A lot of women are doing this, and of course there is no longer any social stigma attached to being a single mother by choice. I read recently that 41 percent of babies are born to unwed mothers, so it's acceptable. However, I don't think it's an ideal situation for the child, who deserves a father. I believe that men play an important role in raising children, and these fatherless children are starting life at a disadvantage. I think women who intentionally choose this have not given it enough thought.

Hi screwdriver I don't like the idea of being a single parent. I think your friend is not looking at all the options in her life. She is not seeing clearly. I do believe she is being egoistic in this situation. It is one thing to become a single parent not by choice but because of your situation. The father might leave or for some other reason. But planning to be a single parent is insane. One have to take in condiseration the financial matters in consideration. And when the child grows up everybody wants to know who is his father. i think your friend is not being reasonable.

My friend also said the same thing. She just wanted to have a baby and not a husband. She said getting a husband would mean she is going to have to take care of 2 people, the child and the husband. At least if she has a child then that's the only person she's going to attend to. I dont agree with her ideas actually. She actually has a baby now and I am hoping she's going to get married especially the guy already offered to marry her.

well said.....kids are cute an awesome but thy need a good life in the future and that can be done only being united as a mom and pop tell her if she really loves her kid and want a healthy childhood 3 are unbeatable 2 is a selfish act (no hard feelings)

This won't be such a bad option. She longing to be a mother to a child and I don't see why it should be hard. I'm a single parent and my daughter's father left us the moment he learned I was pregnant. He backed out of our relationship as if he found out I was going away to school and couldn't deal with the long distance thing. I hardly needed a father for my daughter and not one like him because everyone in my family helped in raising my daughter. She never asked about having a father. To her, her family is me, her grandparents, her 2nd cousins and aunts and uncles. It's hard to get over thought of a person having the potential to love you and then leave you. At least with a child, it's easy because this child will come from her own body, and won't ever have the choice of leaving her. Besides, even if she has a child without a father for it, she can always find that person and if he truly loves her, he will love her child as well just like it was his own.

I am a single mother. But, my child father is still part of his life. Both of her parents may not have been there for her as a child, or she may be searching for some kind of love that she feel a child can give her. I wish i had waited until marriage. I do believe you should be married with a family before having a child. Having a child by a man who may not be there, is not a good idea! So, she need to re-think this situation. Good luck!

hi, With this new era, i do believe woman is capable to be role as mother and father. I do admit that if would be better if you have men in your life which can accompany, however if the men always neglecting the family member, priority on friends and work. It is much more better to be choose as single parent rather living in unhappiness everday.. A happy and blissful family should be comprising from both parties

I understands what she feels...It is because of her passed experience. She still struggles in pain.. But believe, one of this days if she could find a man that would trully love her and accept her for who she is. She would probably says that she was wrong, having a family with a faithful husband and a wonderful children is worth to be treasured forever.

It's called being selfish and unwilling to commit. I know someone who will willingly have a mna live with them, buy them new cars and things but won't say yes to the man's marriage proposal..Same reason is given. She says she doesn't want a man telling her what to. do.

She must not think just about herself. It is really hard to grow up a child by being a single parent. A child must have the love and affection of both mother and father. when she gets married she must compromised with certain things and her husband also so they her heart does not break. Tell her to forget the past and live for the future.

I can understand where your friend comes from. Life teaches all of us different lessons and that is how our mind-set and thought process get molded. That is why what seems right to her may not seem right to many others. But no one except her knows what she has been through in life. I think, as a friend you can give her advice but always remind her that no matter what, you will support her. That is what good friends do. :)