is getting married after 2 months together would make the relationship stronger?
By alocure
@alocure (370)
United States
May 9, 2010 9:10am CST
i believe that if you really, truly in love and care about this person getting marred for within 2 months should not be a big problem. although it is very early because you dont know very much about the person but you have strong feels for them. what do you think?
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14 responses
@prateek149 (590)
• India
10 May 10
ya Love has a strong Power..Hope you will have a happy married life...Best of luck fren..happy mylotting
@daliaj (5674)
• India
10 May 10
My culture doesn't allow people to live together before they get married. I agree with you that the couple should know each other very well before getting married. There are other ways to know each other compared to staying together. I decided to get married after dating my husband for four or five days, but we got married after 6 months. We got to know a lot more during the period of 5 months.
@7thheaven (95)
• Indonesia
10 May 10
I'm not sure about it. In my opinion a relationship is not determined by time. There are some who just met briefly then marry and grow old together. There is also a long courtship but eventually split up. I think that makes a relationship was true love. And true love can come anytime and anywhere.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
10 May 10
I did that when I turned 18. I married my first husband whom I'd been seeing only 3 months. What a learning lesson that was! The marriage lasted for 5 years but it wasn't good almost from the start. There are no guarantees that even if you know someone for a long time that the marriage will last forever. People are growing and changing all the time and things happen that can cause people to move in different directions. Still, 2 months is not enough time to really know if someone is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. I'd give it more time.
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
9 May 10
I totally agree with you. Love does not need time it needs great feelings and true love.
so i believe yes getting married after 2 months together would make relationship more and more strong.
@caliya (1169)
• Philippines
9 May 10
In my country there is no divorce so I would like to get to know the guy that I am going to spend the rest of my life with. Marriage involves a lot of things. Love is the foundation but two months is quite a short time. We all have the tendency to put our best foot forward in a relationship and I want to know not just the positive aspects but I also want to deal with the negative side and in order for me to do that 2 months would not be enough.
@HADDOWZ (1469)
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9 May 10
I am not so sure getting married after such a short period of time is the best thing to be doing. Yes you can be madly in love with your partner but you surely cannot really know them that well to decide to spend the rest of your life with them. Remember marriage is meant to be for life and not just to show signs of affection for each other. What works for one couple does not always work for another.
It is too easy nowadays, ( in some countries / places) to get a quick divorce and start again. Time can only build a relationship.
I have never been married so what do I know. LOL
@screwdriver (643)
• Philippines
10 May 10
I think not. Getting married is a serious decision. 2 months is too early to commit into something thats sacred. Its a vow that you promise to each other that no matter what happen you will be together. Know the person well before getting into marriage.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
9 May 10
I think there is no guarantee in marriages, while some people are lucky enough to stay in love for a lifetime (even if they married only after two months of dating) , there are also people who've made the mistake of choosing the wrong mate, resulting in a marriage ended with tears. I think it would be wiser to wait a little longer, get to know more about the person, BUT again this is no guarantee that you won't be making the wrong choice of marrying this person. It's all a risk, like gambling, and you'll know never know if you'll win unless you try. I think it's enough to take all the necessary precautions, but there's no sure way of finding out whether a marriage is meant to last forever or not, unless it's already over.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
9 May 10
I think it's best to wait. If you really love them, then why the need to rush into getting married? Move in with them first. Things change when you're around someone 24/7. Get to know them a little more. If you really love them then after you've been together a year you'll still want to be married, after two years you'll still want. There's not really a time-frame before you get married. My husband and I dated for a year before we were engaged and a year and a half when we were married. But, we knew each other since Kindergarten so we'd known each other for a long time. And we had lived together for 6 months before getting married (and really we would've waited to get married except he didn't have health insurance and it was easier for him to get on mine).
I think you don't have to be married to be in love and just because you're in love doesn't mean you have to rush to get married. Marriage is special in many ways, yes, but remember that the majority of marriages end in divorce. Just make sure you're ready before getting married is all. ^_^
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
10 May 10
WShen love and commitment are true and strong, time should not be aa barrier. Two days, two months or even two years can still bring the same results. The strength is in the emotion.
@stephbond89 (359)
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9 May 10
It depends how long you have known the person. I married my husband after 6 months of dating, this seems very little time, we were living together within 5 months! But we had known each other for 2 years before getting together, and were mad about each other.
I think it depends on the people, we got married because we were crazy about each other, but many people say "why rush", my sister was engaged for 13 years before getting married to her now husband, but were livign as a married couple, whereas we were together a short time and then married. But that was the way we did it.
Something which stops people marrying is 1) Money- a wedding for a lot of people is about the day and so they save and save and save for a huge wedding. My wedding was very small and cost only £1000 including my dress! It was about the marriage for me, and not the wedding. 2) What other people think- if you are in love and wnant to marry and you are sure it is what you want, then i don't see why you should wait, if you know it is what you want to do.
All I would say is make sure you know one another before marrying, 50% of marriages end in divorce, and I think the reason for this is because alot of people don't know their partner enough, tell each other everything, even if it may end the relationshp- better allow the relastionship to die now knowing the truth, than to marry have children and then the truth come out later and ruin the marriage.
@verptc (246)
• Philippines
10 May 10
Truly in love for a short period of months does not guarantee stronger relationship. It is weak since findings ones inside personality is difficult to find for a short period of time. It takes time to discover ones likes and dislikes, natural behavior,
and temperaments or any tantrum that is hidden and yet you will discover at the middle stages of married life say 25 or 30 years from the date you got married. I suggest give 2 or 3 years more to be well known to each other in all areas of life so you can say It will make more stronger relationship since you have got the dry run.