Do you sometimes feel that your relative tries to compete with you?

For me not but my neighbor now she is like that I feel not good to her.

yeah i know what you mean. i have certain relatives whoa re like that. just because they live in the US they think that their relatives who were left in our country are "under" them. so when i visited them one time, they were fine with me, very nice and all, you know, warm and accommodating. later on did i find out that they made an issue out of my visit there. like, they didn't like certain things about me. i felt bad because i was just fresh off college back then and they were much older than me. my cousin just told me not to mind them because in her analysis, they're intimidated by me, because i carried myself quite well, above their expectations on us who were "left behind." my cousin said that those relatives of ours makes a big issue always in everything. the jealousy, the competition, the crab mentality. oh well. i'm not close to them anyways.

competition can occur everywhere. often there is competition within the family. to respond to such a relative, you better not say anything and do not give a response. you better show that you have the ability to act rather than talk. so that others will appreciate more.

Hi Munach, That's bad. I'm glad I don't have a relative like that. They are very supportive in everything. We are very supportive with each other and I'm very close with my cousins. My problem has something to do with my Aunts. They have high expectatins to all of us. I'm not bragging but we are all achievers and that's where the problem lies. My Aunts expects me and my cousins to be the best in everything. Sometimes it's not good at all. I'm the rebel among us. :) After I graduated I took a job far from our home. They don't like the idea. I got married without telling them since I'm already at the right age (26 years old). I just told them when I already gave birth to my first son. They were shocked but did not say anything at all. hahaha! Have a nice day! :)

I think it is very common where most of us will have this kind of relative. I have too. My uncle like to compare and show of how much his sons and daughter will give him every month. And my cousin like to compare and show of how much they earn and when they buy a house, they will definitely let everyone know especially my parents. Honestly, i really don't like and i understand your feeling Munach. I wish you will doing better then you relative in everything include love, job, income and everything. Happy mylotting.

worse........try having relatives look down on u..

not really but my older brother compete when it comes to people how i am more talkive and funnier. and he seem to try to get me where he dont like seeing me talk to people he tried to get me to shut up which it dont work. and always tries to make fun of me which back fired on him since i am good and fast with come backs

Do you know why Cain killed Abel? It was because Cain was jealous of Abel - the first crime committed all because one sibling was jealous of another. It is there in every family and many of us have been victims of that.

hello ,munach .to be frank ,i completely understand you .yes ,i do .but now for me ,just for my family .my family live with so many relative together .just like my grandfather ,and my uncle ,aunt .maybe that is not a good thing to tell u this .but actually ,there is happend . when my family ,just my dad own much money ,my uncle ,he would jealous about our achivement ,and also he would said something bad to my family ,just like the sentence of irony which is what i most hated .sincerely. but you know ,this cant be changed easily ,we have to used to do it .long time after ,we still get to know the define of endurance .

I have a cousin who is the same age as me. When we were young, that cousin's mother, also my aunt, liked to compare our academic results. If my cousin did better than me in the tests or exams, she would brag on how intelligent her daughter was and indirectly implying what a loser I was. On the other hand, if I did better, she would mumbled about me being lucky or the standard of my school was so low that it's not surprising for me to do well, or things like that. Luckily, over the years, a lot has happened and my aunt had a change of attitude and perception, for the better, of course. LOL!

Good to me, I have a loving family from immediate down. Always appreciating what was done. But it sounds challenging, isn't it?. So, just go and don't ignore her insecurities instead always appreciate whatever she does to feel her secure. Its only a lack of appreciation I think.

I never had a relative like that. I know one person who's like jealous of me but I really dont care about her cause she is just so insecure. I dont like people who are like that and I dont want anything to do with them especially this person who's trying to compete with me when in fact she knows for herself that she is nothing.

I have some relatives who are like that but in a healthy way. I am quite flattered actually if one of my relatives or friends who sees me as a competition and strive to one up me at everything. That means, in a way, they are looking up to you if they do that. However, if its in your case, then it is pretty unhealthy and downright annoying. I would just jokingly tell them off without offending them too much since he or she is a relative of mine.

Ya, I have relative like that........She is my aunt. She always boast of his son, she thinks that her son is the best. She always compare me with her son in terms of study, look, being outspoken, etc.... But in some way If I excel her son then she would be upset and just be mute. I want to keep her mute, I want to shut up her mouth. And I am sure I'll excel her son in many ways.

I have a relative exactly like that. In my case, it's my uncle's wife. If someone says something good about me, she will find a way to talk it down. I try not to let it bother me too much. I think it is sort of complementary. If she does not think that I am better than her (or her children in this case), then she would not be jealous. I don't get jealous of people who I think is worse off than me. So, if anyone is jealous of me, that means they think I am better than them. I try not to be too close to them.

hi munach, well it depends on person to person. Thank God that i don't have a relative of that type. well according to me everybody has jealousy. But the difference is that in somebody it is high and in somebody it is low, But not 0%. Everybody has jealousy.i have jealousy, you have jealousy, everybody in this world has jealousy. well i had a friend of that high amount of jealousy. the level of his jealousy had reached such high level that he tried to fail me in the examinations. i didnt say anything about it to him. and after that i broke friendship with him. because a friend in need is a friend in need. Happy Mylotting :)

«Seven deadly sins»it's so terrifying.Aha i think you should keep your heart calm. Sometimes it will be a good thing.do you agree? But when this thing often happen it is really boring. I hope that you can do yourself and dont concern this little thing too more.you will be happy ! I have a friend before and he also competed with me .But i just feel it's pressure.I didn't be jealous. Maybe i don't want to think of it. Best wishes to you and happy everyday!