What would you do in my position?

zralte, What is really the truth here? I mean the truth with X where she is rushing back to see her boyfriend. If you are really her best friend, I hope that you would hear her out completely before opening your mouth. She should be the most important concern above anything, so don't be too fast with what you are about to reveal. I am saying this because there are still something you might not or do not know about your friend X and her thoughts. Unbeknown to you, she may know and that this trip could be for her to talk with her boyfriend and see if there's a way to save their relationship. Besides, I feel that hearing what is between Y and Z may not be enough ground to take it as the actual truth. How well do you know this person who told you this, to take the account at face value? Did he/she witness it personally or got it as a hear say from another source? From experience, I would never breathe a word if I do not personally witness it or hear from the relevant parties directly. Since, you are X's best friend, I suggest that you prepare to want and do the best for her. There's just so much one can do and as such you should be mindful for her and support her. It is her life that she wants and decides on how to live and as friends we should always look ahead for her. So, just hear her out before you say anything and when she has decided her course then be prepared to catch her when she collapse from exhaustion and defeat. Take care and have a nice day.

If you are sure that Y is with Z and not interested in X anymore than yes, you should tell X about Y story so that she is not broken after coming to India and knowing all the story. Another thing is taht if X is your very good friend she might share about Y with you, another chance may be that she will misunderstand you. Get the trith and help her knowing the facts.

Well, after reading this story, I think you should clarify these things first. I mean you should confirm this before getting into action. You must be sure first if the rumor is real. If this is real, you should tell your friend. She will suffer if you will not tell her. She has the right to know what is really happening. She will be hurt by the fact but at least you did your best to help her.

Butt out and let X, Y, and Z get their personal relationships straightened out on their own. They are adults and should be quite capable of handling their own lives. Often when well-meaning friends get in the middle, that friend is the one tossed to the side when things turn out different than what they thought would happen. They get blamed for everything.

If I would be you I'd tell the truth. She would eventually find out. If I'd tell the truth she'd be hurt but even if I'd not tell the truth she would eventually find out and she would be hurt more. She might even hate me for not telling her the truth.

You should absolutely go ahead and keep the facts open for X. It will surely break her heart, but you know, truth is always sour. I would prefer to be painful in truth rather than happy in sweet lies. Also these type of instances give us lessons of how life is and how to be neutral in life whatever things come up. I would request you to inform X the reality and save her from that cunning Y. Maybe later he may also break up with Z and try for another A, B or C.

Stay out of it. Let her know the truth because otherwise she will be hurt that you didn't tell her when you knew about it. Tell her what you know then step back. She has to experience this for herself with no help so she can decide what is true and learn her lesson. Some things are not meant to be and this is one of those things. Her bf and her gf are both cheaters and have little or no regard for her. She is better off without them...better to find out and finish with it and move on than to get more involved and find out too late. A liar and a cheat will always be a liar and a cheat. That's the truth.

You have to tell your friend x. X is madly inlove with Y and as you said she had spend a money just to see him. you need to tell her to stop this foolishness. you are a friend of X you must be loyal to her. You are not ruining her life, try to tell her.If her reaction is not good and she hates you after that, then she is blindded by her love to Y.anyway she will thank you when the right time comes. If she talked to Y and Z then leave it all up to her. Your only concern is telling what you know.

Hi, friend. It can be a tough thing to make a right decision in such a situation since what you will do may have a strong effect on X who may not be ready to take the blow. Nevertheless, you still need to take the step for the sake of her because you are good friends. Friendship means you'll always be with her whatever happens. If you just keep silent even if you know you should tell her everything about it, you'll sure to lose her friendship before long. So what you need to do is to reveal the truth to her, even though it may hurt her a lot. But you do it for the good of her. I believe she'll be grateful to you when she finds out the hypocrisy of both her so-call boyfriend and Z.

Well she already purchased the ticket. I would let her go to see him and wait a day or so to see if he comes clean with her and tells her the truth about what is going on. He might possibly break it off her and having her be there in person when he does it will give her the closure she needs. Also you don't really know if he is really cheating on her or not. I am thinking if she sees him and he is cheating on her then hopefully the truth will come out one way or the other, hopefully she will find the clues she needs and you will not have to get involved. However, if a few days go by and everything seems all fine and everythign you might want to call him up and confront him about what you heard and see how he reacts and try to get him to do the right thing.

That would really be a difficult situation to be in and it really stinks that you ended up in the middle of everything. Though you feel like you really have no reason to doubt your employee, everything that you hear is only hearsay until you have the story confirmed with one of the parties involved in the situation. So your two choices would be to either confirm it with one of the people involved in the situation or to try to stay out of it. What would I do in this kind of a situation? I honestly don't know.

well i think that i would be quiet because people that chet will hang there self sooner or later

I think X deserves to be happy and if her ex boyfriend has a new partner please the truth could hurt but at least she will save herself money

so how is your relationship with Y? you could ask him if he can talk to X about the problem...or in case X's aware of what's going on between Z 'n Y, Maybe X's just coming because it's the only way to accept the truth? otherwise it'd be better if Y talks to her

Since you really dont know for sure if its true or not. You need to get more information before telling x. Or you can tell x that one of the people you work with told you this. and tell her you dont know if its true. . Either way you shouldn't just blurt out to X Z is having an affair with y. because you only heard a rumor.

Well if I was X and I knew that you knew Y was cheating or even thought or heard it, and you didn't tell me that he is seeing Z, then I would be mad at you, for letting me go on and spend money to see someone that is using me or cheating on me. It is hard to keep a long distance relationship going with trust unless you really know this person. But I would think it would be better coming from you than her hearing it from someone else. If he is seeing or messing with Z then he is a dog and she needs to know that, it will hurt yes and she maybe mad for a time, but in the end she will be glad that you at least had the guts to tell her what is happening with these 2 people. Z is a dog because she is hurting the one that helps her when she needs it. Both are losers in my book and they deserve each other, she probably is a nice person and could do better than what she is getting out of these 2.

it appears that x already knows about z and as you stated, she can't accept it. i think he should tell her instead of you. it is better that it is between them.

If they are a true friend then i would tell them what i would tell them aswell as i would want them to tell me if someone was doing the same to me.It would hurt less if you were to tell them rather than they find out the hard way.

hi I think you should tell X the story but make sure she handle this by make her see if she lost a friend is not the end of story she have you and her other friends like you that they care about her. good luck my friend !!!mylotting!!!

If I were you, I will tell X the truth, that there is no reason for her to come back and look after Y because Y is having an affair with Z already. There can be no better things than honesty. The truth is, there are no secret lies....nah... Also, Y and Z should realize the fact that X will be more than hurt to know that his boyfriend is having an affair.