Do you ever feel like you know when there is going to be a arguement?

Hi, jugsjugs. Me and my husband don't argue like we used to. A couple of years ago, we did. But after praying and trusting God. Things have gotten so much better for us both. It was not all that easy. My husband is very strong minded when it comes to dealing with stress. So, when he gets home from a long day's work, he does not act mean towards us. He may look tired. But sooner or later he will talk to me about what is going on with him. Sometimes, I can just look at him and tell that he may be exhausted. So, I won't bother him. Maybe your husband is stressed out about something that is going on at work. I would suggest that you talk to him and ask him what is bothering him. Give him as much personal space as you can. And pray for your family to stay closer. When my husband is irritated with the kids making a mess in the apartment, he will get agitated. I know that he is upset when he starts complaining about the mess that is on the floors. I hope that things will get better in your home. And I hope that he gives your son a break. Seeing your family in this condition can make you feel confused and worried, I am sure. Take care.

Yes, there are times, when I can somewhat tell when there is going to be an argument, whether I'm going to be involved in this argument or not. There just seems to be a few signs, at times, which kinda lead up to these arguments. At least, this is what I've noticed.

I felt that way on Friday evening. My husband came home after a three day business trip and I was looking forward to seeing him but I knew the minute he walked in that he was in a lousy mood and I just had to say one wrong word and all hell would break lose so I said nothing, made him a coffee and kept working on my computer while our daughter played with her friend. I know better now and by ignoring him for a few hours I avoid huge arguments. We used to fight regularly and my daughter once heard us and got upset and from that day I vowed never to do that again and nowadays I avoid conflict as much as I can. Believe it or not, since my doctor prescribed me anti depressants for bouts of depression that I had been suffering from since childhood, it a lot easier to let things go and keep calm. I’m not suggesting medication of course; I think that, sometimes it is a matter of making the decision not to argue. It does get easier...Hang in there...

I have also felt like this several tmes, yeah an argument is in the offing = a blowing up of the individual perceptions turning into intransigent stands. Where will all that end up in trading abuses and more misperceptions, hurriedly drawn conclusions, and escalating tension. The sad thing is that, in order to circumvent the blow up od a domestic quarrel, which we know is sure to happen, one of the parties need to downplay, (or if necessary even retreat) their irritation(the spark that ignites the fire), so that peace prevails. Otherwise peace will return to the household only after the pent up negative energies are fully spent. There are times when I have used this to avoid the escalation of tension. The problem is sometimnes this is seen as victory by the other party! Even that is fine, there may be repetitions of similar situations. In domestic difference of opinions, while the retreat of one party does "solve" the problem, if that party happens to be the same all the time that could lead to health problems in later life.

I never know when an argument is about to start since I live alone. However, I don't like to argue, either. It upsets me. There are some people who seem to enjoy arguing, though. I had a boyfriend one time like this. He thought it was stimulating, lol. We met in college and would you believe he was majoring in pre-law, lol? Our relationship was pretty stormy and I broke up with him because I got tired of arguing so much. Your husband must be awfully tired when he gets home from work. That might be why he wants to argue. That's just a guess, though. I hope everything is all right now.

OH yes I tend to tell that too, and usually like to end them before they start. Some people really go out of their way to disturb the peace.

I sometimes feel it too. Many times we bring it on ourselves cause we are afraid to discuss somethings. I tend to let things build up and unfortunately they get loose. Living with anyone we see the best and the worst. Little irritations build up and we suddenly realize that a lot of things bother us. Some of us can even feel an argument coming on just by body language. Life can be annoying.

Oh yeah, like I could feel that argument building up and its just gonna explode. But anyway, I hope you and your husband would talk it over and try to have an open mind as to avoid a huge argument. Good luck!

Luckily there aren't a lot of arguments in our house, but that doesn't mean that I don't feel when there is a storm brewing under our roof. It will feel to me like I am being ignored for a period of time. And then when I feel like saying something, it is like nothing that I can say is the right thing. It is really a terrible thing to go through. My husband and I have luckily only fought with each other a couple of times in the course of eight and a half years, but still, every time that we have an argument it is almost more than I am able to bear.

Hi JugsJugs Yep I can feel it too But its important to recognize whats happening and try to put a stop to it or at least minimize it before it gets out of hand By doing that it will lesson the impact of what can easily get out of control sometimes we as people can push our partners buttons and vice verse and before we know it BANG the gloves are on! If your partner has been in a snit all week it could have nothing to do with you or your son and could just as well be something at work or something that involves him and some other issue , As far as your son is concerned whats wrong with having a night light on and the door open? Any chance of you guys sitting down and talking about whats really bugging your partner that might help things

I hope you could talk it out smoothly with your partner. Sometimes I know and sometimes I'm caught unaware that an argument is coming up. When I'm ready I try to talk calmly but when I'm caught unaware I easily get upset and become stubborn

HI Jugs!! Arguments and misunderstanding is a big big no no, when it comes to me and my family because it would really smell trouble around the place that's why we learned to be more patient and understand one's mood to avoid such confrontation.

It is sometime sure that certain topic would end up with a few arguments. If things are without any reason or just for a sake of argument, ignore it and does not advocate for the same. If you keep silent and you can get peace of mind and get away from such pointless arguments. Regards, Thank-s

yeah when my nervous start going bad thats when i know am about to get into and argument with someone or something bad would happen especially on a rainy day or when everyone has a bad attitude.

When my house gets strangly quite ya get that feeling altho I havent heard the fight I know one has happened for no one is talking

May I suggest something? If the issue is between father and son, keep yourself out of it.It is his son too and unless your partner is a drunkard and you fear the safety of your child, allow them to find their level.Whatever the issue is, they can sort it out themselves.Interventions normally tend to aggravate issues and blow things out of proportion.

Don't avoid it, face it straight on and get it over with. You know how. Just be kind, say I know that something is really bothering you, you've been upset all week can we talk about it? Can I help. Then listen, don't talk no matter what until he's finished, then think before you answer. Take your time. Blessings

Oh, I know exactly what you mean. I totally hate that. It's like walking around on eggshells, knowing one will break, just not know which one and when. It's the worry that is the worst. Your poor son. I remember being a child and feeling like that with my parents. Horrible.

Some people are just like that. They seem to like to argue. I like knowing how to head off an argument before it starts but sometimes the person will not let you.

my boyfriends like that sometimes,but i just ignore him,well first i say ' what the hells wrong with you ',,he replies nothing,so that's when i ignore him,coz i think he wants me to keep asking what's wrong so he gets all the attention,well that's not happening,ignoring him winds him up more,,childish i know,but it's fun