Anger Management

I WAS a short tempered guy. But if u ask my friends now, you will come to know, i most of them have never seen me angry. I have made myself more patient and try not to get irritated at small things. Though i lose control and become angry at a very few matters, but not often..

Hello lol i am normally not angry, you may call be a cool person, but if i am angry, then one must have the courage to face me..we want to remain happy, so no need to throw anger on some body and made him/her angry too.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Prof

I felt like I was slapped smack in the face when my mother said I was nicer to my friends than I was to my family. Well, of course she doesn't see me and my friends get into heated arguments, but it's also because we often get together for FUN because we're busy, and arguing can only spoil the moments. With my mother, I can get real. What usually happens is that I frown (oh, the wrinkles), my voice sometimes get a little louder than usual, and I say hurtful comments without even thinking. I also don't like being held when I am angry. As you say it's anger management, so I think I have to count maybe until a hundred before I say anything. Unmanaged anger can really hurt relationships. I hope to get better at this. :)

I usually talk about it to a friend. I also try to get angry once in a while but oftentimes I do my best to stay cool and not keep the anger bottled in me. Anger unexpressed can explode later on that will translate itself into an illness. No, I'd rather forget about it and move on with my life. There's no use breeding ill feelings inside you. We know it is bad.

Frankly telling I am very much unable to control my anger. If I get angry the best policy to calm down for me is just be silent. That time I do not talk with anybody. And if I get angry on some particular person I just avoid him/her for few days. When I calm down then I talk with him/her again. If the anger affects your mind you can control that, but if the reason for being angry attacks your mind or heart it is very tough to forget or calm down.

I am a guy that expresses myself, so when I'm angry I show it and if time comes that it won't be proper to get angry in the situation, we can get use of diversional activities to relieve us.. Me, I usually eat Ice cream and play arcade games, much better than hurting anybody.. great day y'all

I usually sing until I get over with my anger. Sometimes,I pray for patience.

I can manage my anger very well. I am not a kind of person who easily pissed off. I have a lots of patience that's why sometimes people think that I don't have enemies because they thought that I am not getting angry.

iam anger man(i admit it) but i realize that anger in every situation can not helps me but sometimes make me in trouble. slow but sure i must realize that i had to change my habit

I always let out my anger but there are times when i just can't. For example, i can't shout at my boss. So what i do is i just hit the gym. There's a punching bag there. I just let my anger burst out to that punching bag until i feel much better.

What I do when I get angry is that I grab my phone then listen to music and sing along with every song. After several minutes, the anger goes away. I've been used to this routine ever since and it has been very effective. I don't want to keep the feeling for long because, just like what you said, it's gonna ruin my day, and it's not doing me any good at all. Anger is really a bad feeling. As much as possible I don't want to feel it forever.

Being angry would make me reach a wrong decision most times. I can't afford to be angry. But it's not easy done than said. While anger does not come from within me it sure does from external stimuli we have little or no control sometimes. The weather, the heat, the noise, the fumes and smokes from buses, cars, the traffic jam. Oh dear lots and lots of other things. Isn't it easy to be angry? But I would rather not! So how do I do it? I think I've said a thousand times I would rather write it on papers and have them crushed, torn, tettered or even burnt. Otherwise I would just take a long breath. Breathing in and out helps to take the anger-focus out of me and instead to focus on things that would otherwise make me happy.

I could't agree with you more. I used to be a person with a short fuze and I was quick to get angry. As I got older and after some rather serious scraps I began to evaluate myself. I came to the conclusion anger only made things worse. Don't get me wrong; sometime being angry is warranted. The key is being able to control that anger and chaneling it into something positive. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying never get angry. I'm just saying that when you do get angry walk away from the situation that made you angry and take a "TIME OUT". During that time out ask yourself what it was that really made you angry. AsK was it really worth the aggrivation? Could I have handled the situation another way? If so, How could I have handled it peacefully? I must say though there are some situations you can not avoid. During those times just walk away until you cool off. What do you think?

That is hard. Especially we cant control on the situation. The best thing in anger management is to be calm Try breathing exercise. It takes away the stress and so is the anger.

I'm very good at holding emotions in, not letting them show at the time of the activating incident, but unfortunately I hold grudges for decades afterwards. I had to do something once it started affecting my health with high blood pressure and occasional chest pains (thankfully not heart related - yet.) Last week or so there was a person sitting behind me on the public bus, ranting and railing about every subject her consort who was with her. The bus driver even had to tell her to watch her language. The very next passenger who got on was an elderly person with a small cart, who immediately pressed the request stop signal for the next stop. She watched her language, but out came another ranting about that. So some people have it worse than others. Perhaps a kind of emotional addiction that feels good until it gets out of control, or you are informed it is making the public uncomfortable. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy works for me, for you actively look at these emotions and what activates them in you, and figure a more rational response to the situation. Like elderly people are allowed to enter a public bus, and they can request to get at the next stop. It is not a personal attack directed at you, that is what that passenger wants to do, and it is in their right to do so. And if they are elderly with slow mobility, it is a reasonable request for them.

What works best for me is writing about my feelings. If I can write it down it gives me a way to get the anger out without hurting anyone and it's also a way for me to calm down, seeing all of those words on paper. It's a much better idea than taking it out on my husband or whoever else might just happen to be around.

when im angry i just keep myself quite for a while and i dont want to talk to anyone, drink a lot of cold water, sit back and have a nap sometimes. though they said we can control it by meditating like breathing techniques. so i just calm myself by closing my eyes and listen to my breathing for few minutes. Then think of a happy thought, thinking that who are they anyway as i have a lot of problem to solve and that being angry will not help to solve my problem but it will only add as it might affect to my health specially those who are high blood or with hearth problem. so i dont really get carried away with my hatred nor being angry its only a normal reaction but must be ignore, just smile and relax.

It depends on the person. If the one who made me angry are strangers, I immediately lash out. I can't hold my temper, I feel as if I have to let the stranger know what I'm feeling. However, if the person who made me angry is part of my family or a friend, I can control my anger. I can be patient and wait for my head to cool down. I don't want to regret saying nasty words in the heat of my anger.

I really thought I can manage my anger so well. As much as possible I can divert myself from getting angry. Every day we encounter various factors to be angry. Like the jeepney driver can be a factor to get you irritated. The saleslady or the the cashier in a department store can be annoying. I never mind them. It's seems like you ran out of energy when you get angry. Your blood circulation seemed blocked out. Out of anger, you get stressed out. I can managed not to be angry. But I learned lately I lost temper with my nieces and nephews. They were so stubborn that so hard to adjust. I wanted to discipline them but they can't understand. They never learned the things I taught over and over again. So I lost my temper and I can't help myself but get mad at them. So, I'm trying to regain my disposition to get angry easily. I just ignore them, because I want to be happy always.