How do you/How would you treat an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

Indeed it depends on how you guys broke up. But the situation would be different if you, her or both have other partners. Regardless the type of break-up it would be extremely uncomfortable for the new partner to see his girlfriend or her boyfriend still talking or hanging out with someone he/she had a past with. It would be hurtful yourself if you see that your present girlfriend (given you have one) be with her ex and giggling, wouldn't it? I haven't wronged anyone in the past in terms of relationships. Which is why I have nothing to fear with talking to the ex. However, since I'm not comfortable seeing my beloved talking to an ex often, I try to keep it a group thing (meaning we go out as a group with our other friends and I don't dwell to talking to him alone or too much). My boyfriend trusts me but I wouldn't want to disrespect him by allowing him to assume that I enjoy the ex's company better than his. In the same way, I would like that he do not talk about nor talk a lot about his ex to me. Which he rarely talks about. So it really depends. But if both are still not in a relationships with other people then it's cool. Perhaps sooner or later both would realize that you'd like to get back together or perhaps it's solidly friendship. But indeed, things would have to change if you find someone else.

Yes i do believe it depends on how you two got separated. If you broke up because you have no time and there are so many differences then it is vague if you will be friends after the relationship. Like you, you have a mutual breakup , it is not magical that you can still talk with each other, that is good to know. My friend , her and his boyfriend also have a mutual breakup and they are good friends now, i am happy for them.

I have an ex husband and I don’t hold any animosity towards him. He has remarried and has children as I do and every few years something usually throws us together and we catch up and briefly talk and then we move apart again for a long time; we would not ever socialise together as my husband would not be comfortable with it. I have an ex boyfriend who did very wrong towards me and I have absolutely no desire to relive the painful memories by seeing him again, ever! Friendship with the ex works for some; I would rather move on and let the past go.

Well I was dating this guy 22 years ago and he worked on the road. I needed him and he was so hard to get in touch with I started having feeling for this other gentleman and needed to talk to him. 2 weeks later he gets back to me and then comes to where I am and I give him a chance but I hurt him for he found me just sleeping in this other mans bed. He knew he lost and got ready and left the next day. Now we are still friends and we see each other just as much as we did back then but talk on a regular bases. So it is possible to be friends even when you break up on bad terms. He is friends with his ex- wife also who cheated cheated on him. So I know this can happen. Myself I can be friends with lots of different people.

it sound like to me that you don't want to be x you love each other and you our seeing who will out last before saying your sorry

I only have one ex boyfriend and we're still pretty good friends. I wouldn't go out of my way to hang out with him because he has changed quite a bit and we don't have a lot in common anymore. We do talk from time to time and help analyze eachother's problems. It's nice to still have him as a friend.

If it did not end on bad terms, then just be as nice to them as possible, if it did end on bad terms, then just ignore them.

I am still friendly with my ex wife and my ex girlfriend. We don't exactly spend much time together but will on some occasions go out for a coffee together and have quite an enjoyable conversation at time. . My present wife is fine with this as are my ex's partners. They know that those are relationships that past and gone and if we had been meant to stay together we would have done so. _Derek

My ex cheated on me with my brother, and we broke up because of it. However, now, we're good friends again. But I suppose we dont have much of a choice, seeing how we have two kids together....

eddyspaghetti I never had an ex as my husband was my first and always but I was his second wife. we went to Walla Walla to see his folks and while there he just had to visit his ex. this made me feel really weird I just could not believe he would do that. She was as plump as I was thought and not really as pretty as I was either. also she was married with four kids. My hubby only stayed about ten minutes. I guess he was wondering if he did better with me than with her, or if h e had missed out on something. he did tell me he still loved me a lot so guess it was okay. Really she was much plumper than me and older too. Anyway ou r marriage lasted for 33 years as we meant the words we said in our marriage vows.

For me it is not easy to do if you meet your x but for me I would be friendly to them.

Hey Eddy, I still speak to my ex ex- boyfriend(Lets call him Herman). I broke up with him so that I could date another guy (Rob) as I didn't wanna two time. He didn't wanna break up and inspite of me hurting him so much, he didn't wanna lose me and is content to just speak to me. If I were in his place, I would have stopped talking to him!!! Now Rob and me have broken up as well,it didn't end well so I stopped speaking to Rob completely and will never consider speaking to him again, I'm still in touch with Herman though!! Guess it depends, guess if it ends on a bad note you don't speak to the person again but if its mutual, like in your case then your still friends with your ex. You never know, maybe the two of you will get back together since you share such a good rapport and get along well.

Like you said, it depends on the situation. My ex-boyfriend lives in the same apartment building as I do. The only time we talk is usually outside by the cars if we are there at the same time. But, that is as far as it goes.

i used to be friends with all my exes - except the one who cheated on me. if you are in a mature relationship and can end a relationship like adults, there's no reason you can't be friends. however, through the years, i have found that being friends with exes can complicate potential or current relationships and find that it's best to just let them move on - let others enjoy what is good about them and lose that baggage... if they were worth keeping in my life, i'd still have a relationship with them...

I don't talk to any of my exes anymore, except for one. But we only talk like once every three months or so, and we get to see each other, only because we work for the same company. I do agree that in most cases, the person who did something wrong is the first one to approach or to start a conversation again, I'm not sure why, maybe because of guilt or something. LOL. Most of my exes now have their own family and I don't really see any more reason to start communicating again. I think we have all moved on, and are all fairly happy with our lives.

This would have to depend on the breakup. If it was done on good terms, I could still be friendly to them. If it was a bad break up, there would be too much bitterness to be kind.

me and my ex boyfriend became good friends. maybe because that our breakup is not so bad. we broke up just to make the two of us to become a better person.

You have to be civil with your ex. although it is best that you have to drift away from the person for a long time. Especially no communications for awhile. Sometimes it will just follow in the long run you would be talking again. It really depends on the situation on what happened.

If there aren't kids involved, the ole must keep in contact with the ex is a game and a very dangerous one at that. No two people think alike, meaning one might be brain washed into thinking we're just really good friends, but the other one may be in the wishing mode (just one day, we'll be together again and it may take sometime, but one day he/she will be all mines, once again). Then, it's always the one who thought "we're just really good friends", who moves on and finds happiness and so on,,,leaving the other person feeling betrayed, used, dumped, left out in the cold and whatever other twisted mind games they can think of. A lot of women love to use the term "he walked out on his family". If you have children, handle the ex with respect and consideration and with a long wooden spoon, especially when they're new companions in the picture. Other than all of this being said, believing that everything can be all peaches and cream with the ex is just one of the many games that should be left for high schoolers to play. They're an ex for a reason and it should remain that way, for everyone involved, even for the family pets, because they have feelings too.

whatever the reason couples broke up there must be someone hurted.so i think it is better not to contact each other.giving enough time to each other because time is the best medicine for healing wound.if you met him or her somewhere in the future,you can give him a friengly smile since you have loved.