Can a stranger be a friend!!
By Fireheart
@Fireheart (683)
India
May 18, 2010 8:33am CST
Today when i was travelling by train i was approached by a girl(pretty) about my age, and maybe because am handsome she en quired about where i was going, beginning of a conversation like on and on,then i was struck by a confusion that should i go for it or not to make friend with her,like i had a doubt whether i should ask her cell number, when she was at her destination she bid me good bye. and i missed that big opportunity of a friendship,what will you do if your where in this position.Need your view point.
11 responses
@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
18 May 10
I don't really know if I would get her number, considering that It's somehow suspicious because usually girls are shy type and maybe there really planning something (Having hidden Agenda) or maybe your right when you said that she was strucked by your being handsome.
O well, I don't really talk to strangers unless they're asking for help or I'm the one who asked for help. Anyway, If in case that I've seen the person for the second time that I possibly befriend him/her.
I remembered when me and my friends were sitting in a bench when suddenly a guy asked for my number and I was really shocked and in the end I refused because it was too sudden and my phone number is something that I can't give to a stranger. It can be too dangerous.
If in case you did get the number of the girl do you think that she would also refuse like what I did? haha
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@Fireheart (683)
• India
18 May 10
I didnt felt like the girl has any motive, anyway she is the one that came onto me, and what can i say she is too pretty for me to deny her. we had some talk like a friend, not the guy you mentioned without any introduction asking for number. It was one time meeting that i cant forget and i think she would give me her number but my pride killed me for not asking. i hope god would give me a second chance to meet that pretty and at that time noones gonna stop me from being a friend with her. Thanx eil_noz for sharing your thoughts.good day
@Fireheart (683)
• India
18 May 10
ya i sure hope to see her again. well itz not like i make friends with a stranger but in this case somethings different maybe becoz she is pretty and attractive,and yea not to mention she laughs.
@Reyachan (589)
• Romania
12 Aug 10
Hello Fireheart...I know very well what you mean, I missed quite a few interesting opportunities in my life because of such moments of confusion. But i have to start by saying that i doubt that girl only wanted to be your friend :) When you get approached like that by a total stranger it proves a big interest. And i bet it took a lot of courage for her as well to start talking to you.
In my opinion, I think she had seen you before and she didn't want to miss this chance as well so..if you see her again, you should really really ask for her phone number.
I had a huge crush in high school and tried to gather my courage to talk to the guy till he graduated but i couldn't. Luckily for me, he came to the junior prom next year and i didn't miss my chance again. And it's a decision i'll never ever regret :)
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@Fireheart (683)
• India
13 Aug 10
yea..next time am gonna catch her for sure. and i wont regret my actions too.
who knows we may finally end up in some relationship.
but one thing i lack is that courage and shyness destroys me. wonder i will see her again.
@Reyachan (589)
• Romania
15 Aug 10
I wish you good luck in finding her again. Though i have to worn you , you have to morally prepare yourself for this "battle" :) It's obvious she is a bit more extroverted so i think what you have to do, if you lack the courage is just give her a small sign of interest, a look, a smile and she will find the courage for both of you to try again :)
@med889 (5941)
•
18 May 10
I have many friends who were once strangers or complete strangers to me. We have come to know each other and to understand our differences to be able to cope with each other for a long time though. There is one friend who is abroad and who has become one of my very best buddy as he is always here for me and the same applies for me to him.
@Fireheart (683)
• India
18 May 10
I got to say, you do have a lot of stranger friends, well some time trusting a stranger might end not too well,always play safe,never have i plan on making a stranger friends,itz only because i felt some attraction to her that i thought to make a friend with her,there is something i cant explain but somehow i felt like regretting for not maker her as my friend.
@uchihaseymour (1025)
• American Samoa
18 May 10
well, if it really meant for you and that stranger to create a new friendship why not? i mean it's a good opportunity to meet new friends. but thanks to your handsomeness it really worked to attract girls :3
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@Fireheart (683)
• India
18 May 10
yup that would be a great opportunity,but at that time i couldn't think for a friendship with a stranger,thats the reason and am still regretting for not asking her number at-least. lets hope another day comes, after all we learn by mistake,and good day uchihaseymour thanx for sharing your view.
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Yes, I had a similar experience like that when someone approached me at the canteen where I worked. I had no one with me and everywhere else is full so this guy asked if he could share the table with me. I didn't talk as I ate but he was the one who started the conversation and then we talked like real friends until it was time for me to go. I know he is a nice guy because he has a genuine smile in his eyes. I don't know when I'll see him again but I'll definitely greet him as an old friend would.
I say that our "short" encounter" would mean we will still be real friends if ever given the chance. That experience thought me that there are still friendly people like him whom we could trust because they show that they are real and not fake people who will do you harm in anyway they could just because you've opened up a part of yourself on them.
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@Fireheart (683)
• India
18 May 10
The same thing as mine ,only that place is different and it was a boy for you, I think that person got some attraction from you, to do lunch with you not that it is bad,usually girls dont approach guys, likewise boy approaches a girl. Even though mine too was a short encounter, the girl did impress me. Every time i close my eye i see her,i hope this is only temporary.I was wondering have you asked for any contact details with him.
@keval32 (1096)
• India
18 May 10
Hey, first congrats on the matter that a girl approached you, I am congratulating you because I never got approach by a girl. (Ha ha ha...My Bad Luck).
Okay...I will surely ask her for cell number, but not directly. I would say her that "Can we be friends?" If she says yes, then I would go ahead and ask her for cell number.
Dude, I tell you that you missed out really big opportunity to make friendship with pretty girl. If I would there at your position and missed (certainly not) opportunity to make friendship with that much pretty girl I would surely cry loudly....Ha ha ha....!! Nice discussion my friend !!
@Fireheart (683)
• India
18 May 10
Someday who knows some pretty lady might approach you as well, and yea i did really miss out big time, well there is no use regretting for me now whats done is done, lets take this as am gods trail,next time..i meet by chance i would certainy go ask her, lucky for me that she is somewhere near my institute.someday am sure i would get a chance to get to meet her in that same train. frankly to say for not asking her number i felt like crying like i lost something hope it wore offs.
@bubblymommy (3)
• United States
18 May 10
I hate the "Can we be friends?" question because I know that's not what they really want. It's also a good time to give out a rejection hotline number ;).
@bubblymommy (3)
• United States
18 May 10
I made a friend on the street before. He asked me a question about the Sephora bag I was carrying because he hasn't seen any Sephora stores around us. We didn't exchange phone numbers or emails or anything, but I did tell him my name. And he added me on Facebook.
@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
18 May 10
we are all strangers in this world. The bible says "do not be weary to talk to strangers, they might be angels sent by God".
In your case, you are both strangers to each others, It is not bad to talk to each other, what would be matter is "motive" why you speak to each other. If your intention is good without a mixed of arrogancy and conceitedness, then go on.
The same on her part. You can exchange numbers at the right time between conversation. Actually, it depends on how the conversation started and how witty you are.
I used to travel by bus and by boat and even by plane before. That scenario in vice versa, happened to me. Not all was granted because I am a girl and I can sense that something is wrong, so I made my way of alibis that those request be declined.
I even had an experience from 6 hour travel, that one passenger want to drop by our house first before going to his destination. He was such an "easy boy", I thought.
It seems to him that we've known each other for so long, when in fact we were just met during travel for almost 6 hours. He attempted to ask a goodbye kiss when I got down.
@dead_line (63)
• Iran
18 May 10
hi
I think,about all friends,the first time you saw them they are all stranger for you because you do not know anything about them.in other hand my best friend is my most stranger friend.so I think the stranger friends are better than others at least they are not look at you as a solver or their slave or something like this...
good luck
@Fireheart (683)
• India
18 May 10
i would think the same but i dont friend every stranger i meet up with,only some who earns it, and who knows what all people we meet up with..but i think sometime stranger friend maybe be of great help than someone close by..thanx for sharing your thought, good day!