I love you but we just can't have a normal conversation

Try communicating using computer, sometimes it works better and you also get to see each other on the screen :D

I would like to give some advice if I may sir. I will hear and now assume you said go for it, what harm could it do. My advice, ask deep, value based questions. I will provide a few examples, and I know you probably already know the answer to a lot of these questions, and I will offer a way, to go deeper later one. What is the best thing that has happened to you in the past week(time frame does not have to be the same) and what makes that special for you hun?(couldn't resist the filler) What would your ideal day be like? What advice would you give someone just starting on a venture to a foreign country? I am sure you get the idea by now. A lot of this can be followed up with such wonderful fillers as, Wow, tell me more about that. How does that work exactly. What is right about that? What makes that right? What would be ideal? Give it a go, you never know what or how well things will work. Sincerely and With Appreciation.

I am sure that when you start missing one another communication may just become intense in a good way. But of course the distance can also become a ground for the relationship to break up. I think this kind of conversation between sweethearts are just normal especially when you already have talked a lot and know each other already. So maybe you can open this up with her and maybe you can make compromise with each other so that you can both be happy with your expectation.

My boyfriend travels alot for long periods so I know what you mean comunication is key and you run out of things to say sometimes. My boyfriend sometimes calls annd if I had a really boring day that was uneventfull I feel like I have nothing to say cause nothing new has happend so its not that my boyfriend and I are not connected its just that we already know everything about eachother.

hi chipestrerkhan I think the problem is the newness of the idea of her leaving the Phillipines.she probably feels guilty if she loves you and it sounds like she does, and you are are maybe already missing her in your mind even if she has not left yet.Maybe with more time you both will be able to be more yourselves with each other.Sometimes I know I can do better with an email or letter when I get all awkward over the phone. May I snoop and ask why she has to leave the Phillipines? Is it for work, maybe you both would be happier if she found work at home instead, I am just supposing as I do not know what your situation is. good luck and God bless.

What a coincidence! I am having the same problem lately. I want to talk about so many things with him, but he goes back to the same I love you and romantic stuff. All I can tell you is that list the topics you want to talk about and impose it here and there in the conversation. If you sound serious she will have to listen to it and give her opinion. Keep trying and it should work. This is what I am gonna do actually!

When you are far way you will have things to talk about like how each other's day went. And how you miss each other. It is hard to Make conversation if you are Always together. I think the distance will help you make better conversation. If you love eah other , you will make it through this.

We are also like that! And I hate how I just keep saying the same things over and over again! But that worries me too because we are going to live worlds apart when either he or I will go abroad since we do have plans to go overseas. I don't know. Come what may, perhaps?

Well, that's really sad.. But maybe you could work it out, try talking about what happened during the day, or something that you have done together before. My boyfriend and I don't talk that much over the phone, cause I like it when we see each other, and we have so many things to talk about. Maybe you should spend less time together so you can talk about things that happened to your life that doesn't involve her? Hehehe. Good luck on your training for a long distance relationship.

oh that happens sometimes between couples as you would have already spoken everything under the sun. but this occurs most often when you guys have a very routine life! try something new together or just talk about good old memories from the past and appreciate the good times due to your partner. soon, one thing would lead to another and you'l be discussing great things in no time! :)

Hi Chipes, It's really difficult to adjust if you are in a long distance relationship but what you should do is to talk to your girlfriend with excitement, show concern that you want to know how is she doin', tell her the good news you want to share, ask her if she's okay. Chat in the internet so you can see each other. I'm also 2 1/2 years away from my husband, but he would call 3 to 4 times a day just to say "hi" and to check if i'm home because I used to managed our small fastfood. I missed him so much because it's our first time to be away with each for 23 years of marriage. It really took me some time to adjust. we used to chat every other day aside from the calls that he makes but now we just text each everyday, just to give some encouraging words and share if there are good news.

Don't feel bad.....me and my wife are pretty much going thru the same thing....I thing that's a guy thing. When she calls me, and after a short talk, she says, "O yea, we've reached your talk time of 5 minutes"....lol.....and let me tell you, she's a phone talker.......she can talk to her family for hours....... We have overcame that problem by texting each other all the time......I love yous, I miss yous....how is you day going.....everything....Maybe that's what you guys should try. But you also have to tell her that your not a phone person...... so, good luck....hope everything works out..

I agree with some of the comments when you reach the distance it should be easier, you could also try being random and saying the first thing that comes to mind. or a tv show, me and this girl that I used to talk to on the phone all the time liked watching that wife swap thing, so we'd get on the phone watch it and on commercials it gave us something to talk about/ laugh at like "that guys getting so pissed off about how shes running the house" "I wanna see him flip out on her! etc etc etc"

Have you tried using Skype? I use it regularly and it's so much easier to talk to someone because it's like they're sitting in the same room with you. As far as your problem keeping the conversation going, you might want to think of some things ahead of time that you want to talk about. Don't ask simple "yes" "no" type questions either. Engage in a dialogue that requires more in depth responses. Instead of asking did you have a good day? Maybe try something like, "what's the best thing that happened to you today?" Ask her questions about what she's reading, watching, doing, etc.

chipesterkhan, I wonder if your trials on phone conversation is of any legitimacy to be judgmental on the quality of the conversation and worse her lack of responsiveness. Why the rush and anxiety? In the first place, the both of you are not actually separated yet and as such, your partner may not feel that it is practical to start some play house or situational play. There are already enough trying times when the both of you are together, so the least you can do is to be practical and enjoy as much quality time together while it last. There are already enough challenges for the both of you and the last thing you need is some self imposed test. I see your partner doing her part - trying to enjoy as much time together than to go through some hypothetical tests. As if there's not enough to strain the relationship, self imposing tests could just add more pressure and strain into the relationship for the both of you. In all fairness, I'd suggest that you take things one step at a time, leave the the future to the future. Get together as much as the both of you could and afford. If you think she will not be responsive over the phone when the both of you are far apart eventually, I'd like you to recall and reflect on an old adage where it said: "Absence makes a heart grow fonder." Take care and have a nice day.

The way I look at it, there's nothing wrong with that unless you use the phone to curse each other and shout at each other. He he. Anyway, why don't you initiate a good conversation with her. Talk about some things that are interesting and that need discussion so that you can talk longer about something interesting. If you aren't comfortable with her saying hon, then tell her in a nice way. Tell her that you are not comfortable and she can call you instead by your name. Perhaps she just doesn't level with your intelligence. That is a big issue if it is what is making things not working on the phone. of course you want an interesting person to talk to but the way I look at tie, there is no problem at all. perhaps she is just missing you so much. Give her time to adjust. Good luck.

uuhhh..uuuhhh..you both have a problem..but since you are the very first one to acknowledge this problem..you should have ask yourself chipes..but of course, if you know how to talk to her then you will surely have a wonderful conversation.. i believe that if you ask your girlfriend "how is she doing? and what excites her today?" i dont think she just breathe and say "hon, i love you".. am i right? if you both can speak the same language , there could be no problem with that.. maybe you could tell her about what you are planning to do today and ask her opinion. i dont think there could be a problem..you should be the one to iniate good topics, so you will have wonderful discussions..