will you take revenge or forgive?

Of course I will surely take my revenge and will not forgive that person especially when you really know who did it but cannot pin him down in the court because of lack of evidence. This maybe my first reaction out of my anger. Maybe, I should decide if I come across on that situation. It is very hard and I hope it would not come to me

I am the last person to forgive a criminal, may be thief or murderer, but i am not going to kill or take law to my hands, well i will report police, file law suit, employ the best lawers and she this person is punished.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

I have never come acros a very bad situation in life where I wanted to do a revenge. There were a few situations when I hurt badly. I never thought about doing revenge to the person who caused that. I am a person who easily forgives if the problem creter is someone who loves me or someone whom I love. But, it is very difficult for me to forget. Time is a good healer and sometime later I will forget the issue.

This is a frustrating situation. Yes, I do have such situations in my life. There is no relief whether you take revenge or not. Forgiveness is a very big word that my mind doesnt fully comprehend I guess. :( The pain remains. Lets look at the word revenge though. When we are young, we are "inspired" by that word because we think what we are doing is right! So we think and plan revenge. As we age the reality is we cant really do much! So possibly we think we have forgiven though all the time we do feel the injustice continuing to torment us. It is god who takes the revenge for us antony2best. Because we cannot even in wildest dreams think of inflicting some pain that will make the other person realize and repent. When we take the revenge or even utter the word, we make enemies. But when god takes the revenge for us, there is some sort of kindness that descends on us - we feel sorry for the person who has been punished so harshly, and that is when the pain washes away. Trust me it happens. And though god takes own sweet time. It happens. So please dont waste your life thinking or planning revenge. You will only make it worse for yourself. I am not asking you to reform and stop feeling hurt. That cannot happen when injuries are serious. But realize that there is no point in playing revenge like tennis ball going from this court to another. Let god do the justice.

As far as I am concerned, I think I will not forgive him at all in my whole life. For he has murdered my wife/husband which I think is a so important thing to me may shock me a lot in my life. If was stilll free to walk or play on the street or some places to enjoy his life, I think I will so upset ,even hatred on him the whole life. I think I will try my best to look for the evidence to sentence him to prison.

Try to do something to make him confess. One way or the other maybe you'll be able to catch him in your trap. You have a very complicated situation there. If I were in your place I don't know what to do. I can forgive him. But at least he stays out of my way because I will never want to see his face again.

I have never had to be in that position and hope to God I never am but my sister has went through two deaths like this her first husband killed in Vietnam and her second on a picket line. She never looked for revenge but I don't think she has ever forgiven either and I don't blame her the guy only got 30 days in jail for it because he came from a wealthy and influential family.

To be honest about it i don't think I can just forgive the murderer if he murdered my husband. It would take a lot of prayers on my part and the strength to accept the Lord's will and i don't think i am that strong. At the same time i would think twice before i decide to take revenge. in the first place, if i did that I would be placing myself at risk of landing in the very same boat in which i would like to place the murderer because if i were caught taking my revenge I COULD SUFFER CONSEQUENCES WHICH THE MURDERER SHOULD HAVE SUFFERED IF THERE WAS ENOUGH EVIDENCE. Also, I would then be exactly the same as the murderer without any conscience especially since his two children and family would suffer what i would be suffering as the widow of a murdered husband.But if i had the opportunity to make him feel the pain i was going through then i would take it. maybe if he realized how hurting and painful it is to lose a husband and a father, the least he could do is to feel remorse for his deed.... But then in the end, instead of feeling remorse, he might again commit another heinous crime upon me or my family. Whatever, it is would be very hard to say what one would finally do when placed in such a situation.

well i wont forgive him..but wont kill him too..what i will do is if he is a family person i will do the same with him...with entirely same means as he did..or i will keep on giving pain to him by any means

thats a hard situation.. i don't know what to say coz im not in your place. Just leave everything to God, don't take actions that you might regret in the future. Always pray and don't listen to the evil whispering in your ear. God bless you my friend

It's indeed a very touch question. In one case, if my wife is not cruel to anyone, I won't murder the other murderer nor I would forgive him. I would follow up with the legal authorities and see that the culprit gets punished. Moreover I am a God fearing person, and I believe that no one escapes the bad behavior. For instance, one of my clients deliberately duped me with certain amount of money and I was helpless since I had not maintained the records properly, since the client was very close to me. When I stopped following him up, and lost all hope of getting money, the client met with an accident and he had to pay almost four times of what he had to pay me, plus he had to be hospitalized for 6 months. So, I believe even if we let the culprit loose, there is the almighty power who punishes the sinner.

I would have to say I would take revenge if my wife was cruel to this murderer and he killed her for it he obviously didnt forgive why should he be forgiving?

I honestly don't think I could intentionally bring pain to another human being. It would be hard to forgive that person, but I think in time I probably could. Two wrongs never make a right, and I refuse to behave irresponsibly just because someone else does. The law may not be perfect, but if justice isn't served in this life, I truly believe it will be in the next one.

I won't take revenge on him or her because that makes me violate the law, resulting my being punished by the law. However, i will not forgive him neither ,ever and never. i will take some legal actions to find the evidence showing his guilt and give it to the law.

Hi antony, I am not one who takes pleasure in seeing another suffer no matter what they have done. However, if someone was to murder my wife or one of my children,I'm sure my immediate thought would be of revenge and I'd probably want to kill the one who did it. The reason is simple, I would not be thinking clearly. I hope that I would eventually be able to forgive the person and I believe that I would. I think that there are circumstances under which most people would kill and all that has to be taken into consideration. Most people who commit such crimes either had little chance in life or do so in a fit of rage. It does little if any good to punish such a person. The answer lies in rehabilitation and those who can't be rehabilitated must be kept away from society but not punished in any other way. Blessings.

Well i will not forgive. As i can not forgive him. But i will not kill him. As it's a sin. But i will make some plan to catch him and will confess his guilty. Any how. Like a movie type. Well i never across such a situation. Hope i will not.